Weekly Flylady Thread 31st May 2021

Fayolle

DD dropped at work. Small town was bustling, I came straight home. DH has gone east up the motorway, opposite direction to the holiday traffic, so that should be a fun journey home for him. I have put on the wm, opened up the gh, made a cuppa. NDN is washing his car. Mine is filthy, but he didn’t seem too keen to polish it up for me, no matter how much I hinted…

BadCat18

Me again

second jab had
errands run
pet food bought
hour of paid stuff done
wm x 2 run and pegged out
en suite scrubbed
dh is hoovering the lounge, I’m doing the bedroom, lounge is in the front where the sun is in the morning, I’m not daft lol, DH complaining he’s boiling!
dw unloaded
Upstairs bins emptied

ok, back to it I go, time to put the fresh bedding on

take care all xx

Valli

Just had a facebook chat with the 'mystery' lady who sent me a friend request.  Fortunately I thought to have a root round before rejecting it - turns out it's a girl from school (and I recognised her!) who thinks I haven't changed a bit.  She lives in Bulgaria!
I've had 2 coffee and some breakfast.  And a shower.  Am contemplating cleaning the kitchen.  

Jazee

I've spent a couple of hours in the garden and greenhouse.  Who knew that aubergines have thorns on the leaves? My headmaster always said you learn something new every day.
I am going to leave the sofa covers until tomorrow now and just enjoy the rest of the day.

pigpen

Deleted_User said:

Piggers - what did you decide about MiL and Squeak? xx

I decided we would give her the choice. She is nearly 11 and I think she can make that decision for herself, she understands the finality and that people get old and people get sick. My mother is not supportive and said don't let her go because she will just remember her being ill and have only sad memories.. but I disagree. When I was 11 I saw my great grandad a few weeks before he passed of throat cancer and he looked awful and struggled to speak, but I remember watching him walk from the bus with his stick and running out to meet him when he was well, I remember his garden and his rhubarb and his love of plants. I remember the smell of his shed and his tweedy jackets and his hat. I remember his squishy face.. He looked like the old guy on Up. I remember my granded being very very ill (asbestos related) laid on the sofa when I was 5, it isn't a sad memory it is just a memory. I (at 30) chose to not see my nanna in hospital before she passed because I had so much else in my head I couldn't cope (PTSD) and I know it was the right decision for me. It is our job to remember and remind the girls of the fun things with granny and teaching children to deal with death and grief is how they learn to cope as adults, it is natural and normal and traumatic and painful. I have guided my older ones through the terrible deaths of young friends to illness and accident and through suicides and drug addiction and even one who was murdered.. it is horrific but it is life. I respect her enough to give her the information to make a choice like we did with the secondary school situation. My mother is very much of the 'death is taboo' generation and 'children should be excluded' but times have changed and are much more open. MIL did not say not to take Squeak and SIL didn't say it would be a bad idea so we shall prepare her as best we can and deal with the emotions afterwards.

Well, That got a bit waffly... sorry..

Freezer is defrosted and scrubbed clean and refilled

DW done 3 runs

I found Twinkles birthday presents.

Dealing with Dot trauma today.. not fun.

Fayolle

Not waffly, Piggers, rational. 

Oh, prepare to be amazed. Today I have:
stripped and changed DD’s bedding, washed it and got it dry in the sun
dusted all through (clear surfaces only😉)
ditto with the vacuum cleaner
mopped the kitchen and bathroom floors
s&s bathrooms
beaten the doormats into submission outside
scrubbed out some empty plant pots and stowed them in their rightful place.
It felt so much more than it looks written down!
Just cooking some potatoes for a salad this evening, and preparing to have an hour with my book, when DH texts to say he is on his way home. Grrrrrrrrr…..

Jazee - I have just thrown my carefully grown and nurtured aubergine excuse-for-plants out.  They are no way going to make it to a fruiting stage this year, as they seemed to stop growing in about early March. Good luck with your’s. 

Valli

Giving her the choice is, IMO, exactly the right thing to do, Piggers.  I was persuaded to go to see someone when I didn't really want to (although I was already an adult) and I don't think I would have regretted it had I not gone, and I was (and obviously still am) angry that he was being supported in the way he was (family there 24/7) because I didn't think he deserved that support.  At his funeral I didn't cry and I was determined not too (and I'm a wuss who sobs so easily, normally).  I believe 'sugar-coating' death in all its forms, and poor use of language (gone to sleep, with the angels, only the good die young etc) does far more harm than good. It is part of life, it hurts like hell but it has to be borne.  
I have cleaned the outside of my downstairs windows.  I'm STILL contemplating cleaning the kitchen.

roundtuit

I've brought in the washing - three t shirts, a shirt and a pair of school trousers folded and put in the cs bag fer-ling  My clothes folded and ready to take upstairs. 

Rxx

YORKSHIRELASS

Pigpen you know your children better than anyone, and I agree with everything you have said.  When my FIL died we gave the boys the choice of going to the funeral or not, my Mum was horrified.  We talked to them about the funeral, what it would be like and how they would have to see the coffin, and they both still wanted to go so we let them.  As you say times have changed and its much better to be open about it.

Bit fed up.  DH is working 6 days a week at the moment.  He is tired and grumpy and moans endlessly about how hard he works and how difficult it is.  I spend most of Saturday on my own, and when DH isnt working he doesnt want to do anything.  I am working full time and trying to keep the house clean, do all the shopping and cooking, weed the garden, do all the household admin and keep on top of other domestic stuff.  I wouldnt care but his business doesnt make a huge amount of profit, he would better off working at Li@l, at least he would get paid holidays.  Sorry, I needed to moan.

Going to dig some lasagne out of the freezer for tea and potter a bit more in the garden.

Valli

I should have been going out tonight, with my friends.  Given I have no appetite a meal out is probably wasteful plus I have to be up early tomorrow for my CT scan.  So they're coming round here; I think the plan is to sit in the garden.  I have got two chairs out of the shed and wiped them down (already have a table and chair set out) and I have cleaned the kitchen.   I have various bits which need rehoming to the shed, too.