Dream move slowly turning into nightmare.

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Slips36 said:

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Slips36 said:

HampshireH said:

AdrianC said:

Slips36 said:
The guy ... said he has rights to play music has loud has he likes.

Of course he doesn't.

But preventing him from doing so is the problem. You need to get in contact with your local authority's environmental health department.

However, if it's just from 5-6.30 or just for 90mins when it does occur I'm not sure environmental health would feel it an ongoing nuisance. Unless of course it was infact 5am to 6.30pm.

@Slips36 there will be guidance on your local environmental health webpage as to what volume music is acceptable etc. Maybe arm yourself with the relevant info so next time you speak to the neighbour you can refer him to the evidence that what he says is not actually true. 

Perhaps of he likes it loud he could get some headphones. Does he have other neighbours? 

Yes I spoke to his other neighbour who are young students and asked them about the noise. They said they didn’t mind the noise and said they are very nice people. He said ask them to lower the volume which we did but it lasts few days and amplified bass starts again.
My wife and daughter keeps blaming me for buying the house.

I have been in these situations before and can very much sympathise with how difficult and all-consuming it can be. From an upstairs neighbour doing DIY at all hours, to a next door neighbour whose dogs would howl through the day and night...These were rentals so it was easier to up and leave (though not ideal). Unfortunately, I have learned that there are only two options - move or change my attitude from one of resistance to acceptance. Other people are often inconsiderate and don't realise the impact their music has on the people around them (or simply don't care).

How can you make your life more harmonious in a way that isn't dependent on your neighbour changing (because that rarely happens). Can you consider moving again? Can you get some white noise machines or headphones? Not the ideal solution if you need to speak to your family, but can provide a safety net when things become challenging. 

I have downloaded noise app which I recorded yesterday’s noise and will be reviewed by the council. 
I have bought ear buds for us but even that makes little difference has the bass seems to vibrate through the walls. 
Are white noise machine any good?

Such a shame you are having to deal with this just after you move in. I used to live in a flat in central Reading and bought a white noise machine to block out the construction work where they were building flats across the road. I found it to be really useful but not sure if it'll help with the heavy bass. Marpac are a good brand.

Indigo_and_Violet

Slips36 said:

 The guy came around and said he has rights to play music has loud has he likes. We asked him to lower the volume and thankfully he did. He also said he like to party and play very loud music once a month. 

Given that you're probably living here for at least a few months, could you come to a compromise? Say that you understand his desire to listen to loud music, but explain that you've got a kid and a wife who gets up early and you'd like to find something that works for both of you.

This could include one night a month where he can party. You could ask for advance notice. We live in an area that has festivals and we find the easiest thing to do is just go away for those weekends. It's important you are able to view it as an exciting opportunity to have a little mini break rather than being forced out of your home, because the later will only leave you annoyed. Covid makes it tricky, but things are opening up and when you're a kid it's surprising how exciting even a motorway travelodge can be!

Then for the rest of the time agree that he'll keep his noise below legal levels, not play late at night etc. I'd still be taking noise recordings and keeping a diary for the council, but it might give an element of predicability and control to your life.

In terms of your wife and child blaming you for buying the house. Either they contributed to the house buying in which case they are equally culpable or they left it entirely to you in which case if they were going to have strong opinions on the outcomes they needed to be involved. It sounds like everyone is tired and stressed at the moment, try and make space for some family fun and games where possible. 

RoisinDove

davilown said:

Slips36 said:

It’s the amplified bass music that vibrates through the walls. I’m always considered of others but unfortunately some don’t seem to care. Sometimes talking to them might make things worse has they may just ignore and carry on. Listening to loud bass music at 1:30 am not fun when you have to get up at 6:00 to go to work.

Have you tried to talk to them? For the sake of a few minutes of your time (plus some 🍰) it might save your months, if not years of annoyance. 

If they don’t listen, then just start a diary of everything and present to the council.
remember though, your neighbours might start work at midday and finish at 2200 so the time period after maybe their ‘relax’ time.

That doesn't give them the right to play loud music and disturb the neighbours! I've had jobs where I worked very odd hours - I still kept to the normal 'quiet times' of no loud noise between 11pm and 7am. I can never believe what other people consider acceptable. you might think playing loud music as a 'one off' until 1.30am is OK, but what if your neighbour has their driving test the next morning, or something else really important? 

ICDT123

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RelievedSheff said:

Slips36 said:

To be fair apart from the loud bass noise they are decent neighbours. I only bought the house five weeks ago and thinking of selling. I bought it for 305k but with the rear dormer roof replacement for 3k I’ll need 310k to break even.
The house is in Reading, 3 bed terraced with rear dormer loft and garage in the block behind the garden. What should I tell estate agents reason for selling so soon?

If you decide to sell so soon you will severely limit your choice of buyers. A lot of mortgage companies will not mortgage a house that has been sold in the last six months.

I wasn’t aware of that, I have seen houses bought in auctions and sold on within few weeks.

They were probably sold to cash buyers.

I think you need to build the relationship with your neighbours. He turned the music down when your wife asked, so is obviously reasonable enough, but probably just doesn't realise when the volume is creeping up. There have been plenty of times where I have been listening to music in my car or at home, then turned it off and next time I've turned it on it has been really loud! But because I was just turning it up gradually the first time I didn't notice how loud it was getting.

The other option I suppose you have if you're willing, is to move to a rented property & rent your house to tenants. Obviously you would have to get consent to let from your mortgage provider and you will need to get all your gas safety checks etc done. 

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How many decibels is the music when you hear it from your propery? 

You can measure this using a free decibel measuring app on your phone.

Slips36

Poster_586329 said:

How many decibels is the music when you hear it from your propery? 

You can measure this using a free decibel measuring app on your phone.

I’m not sure but it came out has loud in the recording. It’s gone to Reading council for review.
It wasn’t has loud as 20th March where they had played it in the garden with subwoofers. It’s was so loud I can hear it in my front bedroom and unbearable in the back bedroom where my daughter sleeps. 
I bought some ear buds on eBay but even that doesn’t seem to work. Soundproofing walls probably be too costly, I enquired about white noise machine on eBay and the seller said it should cancel out bass noise. 

RelievedSheff

Slips36 said:

Poster_586329 said:

How many decibels is the music when you hear it from your propery? 

You can measure this using a free decibel measuring app on your phone.

I’m not sure but it came out has loud in the recording. It’s gone to Reading council for review.
It wasn’t has loud as 20th March where they had played it in the garden with subwoofers. It’s was so loud I can hear it in my front bedroom and unbearable in the back bedroom where my daughter sleeps. 
I bought some ear buds on eBay but even that doesn’t seem to work. Soundproofing walls probably be too costly, I enquired about white noise machine on eBay and the seller said it should cancel out bass noise. 

They will say that. They are trying to sell you something!!

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Slips36 said:

Poster_586329 said:

How many decibels is the music when you hear it from your propery? 

You can measure this using a free decibel measuring app on your phone.

I’m not sure but it came out has loud in the recording. It’s gone to Reading council for review.
It wasn’t has loud as 20th March where they had played it in the garden with subwoofers. It’s was so loud I can hear it in my front bedroom and unbearable in the back bedroom where my daughter sleeps. 
I bought some ear buds on eBay but even that doesn’t seem to work. Soundproofing walls probably be too costly, I enquired about white noise machine on eBay and the seller said it should cancel out bass noise. 

Sounds horrible. I would advise maybe reading some reviews of white noise machines on Amazon and seeing if there's one that might be suitable as a lot mention neighbour noise. 

pimento

Slips36 said:

To be fair apart from the loud bass noise they are decent neighbours. I only bought the house five weeks ago and thinking of selling. I bought it for 305k but with the rear dormer roof replacement for 3k I’ll need 310k to break even.
The house is in Reading, 3 bed terraced with rear dormer loft and garage in the block behind the garden. What should I tell estate agents reason for selling so soon?

Where in Reading?  Houses are selling really fast there.  My husband's previous house in west Reading went on the market last week and sold in a day.

Slips36

pimento said:

Slips36 said:

To be fair apart from the loud bass noise they are decent neighbours. I only bought the house five weeks ago and thinking of selling. I bought it for 305k but with the rear dormer roof replacement for 3k I’ll need 310k to break even.
The house is in Reading, 3 bed terraced with rear dormer loft and garage in the block behind the garden. What should I tell estate agents reason for selling so soon?

Where in Reading?  Houses are selling really fast there.  My husband's previous house in west Reading went on the market last week and sold in a day.

I was in west Reading but now in east Reading on Grange Avenue. The house is med sized 3/4 bedrooms with garage in block behind garden.