Divorce and share of wealth.

burlingtonfl6

JamoLew said:

probably 50/50 (although the 100k gift from the parents "may" be in question)

he was happy to accept and support her lifestyle choice for 5-6 years and make sacrifices to raise their child

there's a lot of he and she in there - as a married couple it is THEIRS - savings, the house, the pension - the lot

I dont have much sympathy for "money grabbing" but this I see as her right

Not much of a sacrifice.....she wasn't doing anything
OP, tell him to brace for the worst because she will have the full weight of the system behind her.

WickedWitch123

I know you say he will give his wife some wealth but that's not really how it works.  It will ultimately be the court who decide how much.  It sounds like if it was left to him he would give her pennies.  Also the length of cohabitation is added to the length of marriage so that's a factor too. I'm currently in the court process with my ex and I can tell you without a doubt it is horrible and I would not wish this experience on my worst enemy.  

Pollycat

And nobody has even mentioned split of pensions....

I hope she can afford decent legal representation.

swingaloo2

His moral character has no bearing on this nor does the fact that his wife is a 'cheat'. If she thought your friend was as nice and loving as you say then why did she cheat. Clearly to give up her life with this 'nice' man she must have been unhappy and no one, friends or family, actually know what happens inside a marriage. It does not matter who was right and who was wrong the divorce will still have to be fair to both sides.

burlingtonfl6

swingaloo2 said:

His moral character has no bearing on this nor does the fact that his wife is a 'cheat'. If she thought your friend was as nice and loving as you say then why did she cheat. Clearly to give up her life with this 'nice' man she must have been unhappy and no one, friends or family, actually know what happens inside a marriage. It does not matter who was right and who was wrong the divorce will still have to be fair to both sides.

You do know people cheat even though they have a loving a nice spouse, don't you? 

gettingtheresometime

burlingtonfl6 said:

swingaloo2 said:

His moral character has no bearing on this nor does the fact that his wife is a 'cheat'. If she thought your friend was as nice and loving as you say then why did she cheat. Clearly to give up her life with this 'nice' man she must have been unhappy and no one, friends or family, actually know what happens inside a marriage. It does not matter who was right and who was wrong the divorce will still have to be fair to both sides.

You do know people cheat even though they have a loving a nice spouse, don't you? 

Yes that's true but no one really knows what goes on inside a marriage apart from the parties concerned.

burlingtonfl6

gettingtheresometime said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

swingaloo2 said:

His moral character has no bearing on this nor does the fact that his wife is a 'cheat'. If she thought your friend was as nice and loving as you say then why did she cheat. Clearly to give up her life with this 'nice' man she must have been unhappy and no one, friends or family, actually know what happens inside a marriage. It does not matter who was right and who was wrong the divorce will still have to be fair to both sides.

You do know people cheat even though they have a loving a nice spouse, don't you? 

Yes that's true but no one really knows what goes on inside a marriage apart from the parties concerned.

The more I think about it what a clueless thing of the poster to state.
How much you love someone and how nice you are to them means nothing if they're going to cheat 

Savvy_Sue

justworriedabit said:

Gavin83 said:

How long have they been married and living together?

The likelihood of him keeping more than 50% of the assets is extremely slim indeed. It's far more likely that he'll end up with less than 50%. I'd tell him to keep his expectations low and that way he'll avoid disappointment. Does he know what she's requesting yet in terms of asset split?

The real question mark is around the gift. A lot will depend on what was drawn up at the time but a solicitor would be better placed to discuss this.

Thanks for your contribution, but as the other poster said, best to wait for the experts. However, as I said and this is why I have posted again, I thank you for your contribution as we can relay to him the possibilities but as you said, aim low, worse case scenario. He has already worked out he wants a clean cut and will aim for that even if it costs him a bit more. About the gift, the parents are astute and when they gifted the money it did state out it was to their son and his property.  We've told him but we understand he wants answers/figures now and with the best will in the world, it is hard to say other than the gift element. Thanks again.

You cannot have a 'clean break' where children are involved. Child maintenance will AFAIK always be due on a regular basis from one party to the other. And whoever children live with, it is usually in their best interests to see the other parent, which requires some communication to arrange. 

Pollycat

Nobody has a true idea of the state of the OP's friend's marriage.
Not even the OP.

justworriedabit

burlingtonfl6 said:

gettingtheresometime said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

swingaloo2 said:

His moral character has no bearing on this nor does the fact that his wife is a 'cheat'. If she thought your friend was as nice and loving as you say then why did she cheat. Clearly to give up her life with this 'nice' man she must have been unhappy and no one, friends or family, actually know what happens inside a marriage. It does not matter who was right and who was wrong the divorce will still have to be fair to both sides.

You do know people cheat even though they have a loving a nice spouse, don't you? 

Yes that's true but no one really knows what goes on inside a marriage apart from the parties concerned.

The more I think about it what a clueless thing of the poster to state.
How much you love someone and how nice you are to them means nothing if they're going to cheat 

Thanks.
The bottom line is even his wife has not claimed any nastiness/etc by her husband hence the clear support from the wife's parents/family and the wife's best friend. It could not be a clearer case of a good husband being cheated on for no real, valid reason other than his wife seeing what sadly too many people see these days is that the grass is greener on the other side,