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Allocated parking. Neighbour’s been using our parking space

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  • teachfast
    teachfast Posts: 633 Forumite
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    It's worse than that, by using it when their own is free they are keeping a space reserved for visitors/deliveries at the expense of their neighbour.
  • katkatmachine
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    Hi. We did speak to our neighbour. At that time it wasn’t their car parked on our spot when I asked so I said okay, then I mentioned to them that that spot is ours and then I left. After that the neighbours stopped using our parking so I thought it was fine and they finally understood that it’s ours. It’s been three months but last week, our neighbour next to us started using it again. I dont know why they started using it again after three months, during that time they were using theirs so our spot was always free but now they are at it again. :neutral:

    Thank you for all your suggestions and comments. I understand that the wheelie bin operation is a bit passive-aggresive and not everyones agrees with it. We spoke to them but i guess they feel that they can do it again.  We are planning to write to the development’s management company to compalin about the parking issue. Also, we will finally buy a car this July, I just need to pass my driving test first. Lol. :smiley:  We’re from London so we never really needed a car before. But now moving to the countryside made us realise how important a car is. 
  • teachfast
    teachfast Posts: 633 Forumite
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    edited 4 June 2021 at 2:18PM
    Put a post in. Problem solved. It's literally why those posts exist. 
  • Jeepers_Creepers
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    We spoke to them but i guess they feel that they can do it again. 

    When you spoke to them, did you ask them 'why' they park there when it isn't their spot? Just focus on that issue; "Why?"
    If they give the ignorant reply "It's closer...", you can reply with "So I can leave, say, my rubbish bins wherever I like on someone else's land because 'it's closer'?"
    Or, "Well, you ain't using it..." can be countered with "I can see a part of your garden you aren't using - so I can just go in and have a picnic there?"
    End with a Q. If they avoid answering/getting your point, ask it again. And again.

  • teachfast
    teachfast Posts: 633 Forumite
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    We spoke to them but i guess they feel that they can do it again. 

    When you spoke to them, did you ask them 'why' they park there when it isn't their spot? Just focus on that issue; "Why?"
    If they give the ignorant reply "It's closer...", you can reply with "So I can leave, say, my rubbish bins wherever I like on someone else's land because 'it's closer'?"
    Or, "Well, you ain't using it..." can be countered with "I can see a part of your garden you aren't using - so I can just go in and have a picnic there?"
    End with a Q. If they avoid answering/getting your point, ask it again. And again.

    That's all a total waste of time if trying to solve this. 
  • Section62
    Section62 Posts: 9,755 Forumite
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    teachfast said:
    Put a post in. Problem solved. It's literally why those posts exist. 
    The OP doesn't own the parking space, so would have to get permission from the owner/ManCo before doing this.

    For the reasons already given in the thread the owner is unlikely to be happy with posts and bollards appearing on the estate to highlight how big the parking problem there is.

    Complaining to the ManCo and getting them to do the job they are paid for is the right approach, assuming friendly neighbourly approaches have failed.
  • Ditzy_Mitzy
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    Section62 said:
    teachfast said:
    Put a post in. Problem solved. It's literally why those posts exist. 
    The OP doesn't own the parking space, so would have to get permission from the owner/ManCo before doing this.

    For the reasons already given in the thread the owner is unlikely to be happy with posts and bollards appearing on the estate to highlight how big the parking problem there is.

    Complaining to the ManCo and getting them to do the job they are paid for is the right approach, assuming friendly neighbourly approaches have failed.
    Tread carefully, however, as certain property managers are now starting to employ private parking enforcement agencies, most of whom are cowboys.  There are plenty of horror stories, many concerning tickets being issued for legitimate parking, on the parking complaints section.  
  • teachfast said:
    We spoke to them but i guess they feel that they can do it again. 

    When you spoke to them, did you ask them 'why' they park there when it isn't their spot? Just focus on that issue; "Why?"
    If they give the ignorant reply "It's closer...", you can reply with "So I can leave, say, my rubbish bins wherever I like on someone else's land because 'it's closer'?"
    Or, "Well, you ain't using it..." can be countered with "I can see a part of your garden you aren't using - so I can just go in and have a picnic there?"
    End with a Q. If they avoid answering/getting your point, ask it again. And again.

    That's all a total waste of time if trying to solve this. 

    Quite possibly, TF.
    It's basik sighcology, tho'. When you approach unreasonable people about their unreasonable behaviour, it rarely (never) works if you tell them what they are doing is 'unreasonable'. They'll just dig in further and likely become more bolshie, with the now-added faux-indignancy of having been 'told off'; victim-mentality seems to go hand-in-hand with rampant arseholery for some reason. They just LOVE feeling wrong-done by. They thrive on this perceived unfairness.
    Instead, ask. Question them on why they are doing what they are doing. 'Explain your reasons'.
    It's surprisingly powerful as it puts them in a position of trying to justify the unjustifiable. It is easy to counter whatever BS they come up with, so they are left exposed as being A-Os.
    I don't know what the OP has been saying to them, and in what manner.
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