Allocated parking. Neighbour’s been using our parking space

Skiddaw1

Wkmg said:

Whenever I visit my sister in law her partner tells me to just park in their neighbours space because they never use it. They haven’t ever spoken to the neighbour. I think he’s mad to suggest it and refuse to do it. It’s just not on. 

I so agree. I think I've mentioned on this thread (or a similar one) that my (now deceased) MIL's neighbours frequently parked in her (adjoining) drive. She had no car but it really, really irritated her and I could quite understand why. She would have given them permission to use it other than when she was expecting guests had they bothered to have the courtesy to ask her. It's just good manners to my mind.

Jeepers_Creepers

Wkmg said:

Whenever I visit my sister in law her partner tells me to just park in their neighbours space because they never use it. They haven’t ever spoken to the neighbour. I think he’s mad to suggest it and refuse to do it. It’s just not on. 

Nice one.

If your sil has never spoken to their neighb and hasn't had express permission, then well done you. :-)

kinger101

annetheman said:

Deleted_User said:

annetheman said:

sheramber said:

They probably wrote the note because there was not a permit on the car to indicate it was permitted to park there. Now you have displayed a  permit  ni problem.

The "thank you " also tells me that they are expecting me to abide by that to their benefit. Maybe it's just me but I wouldn't say "thank you" if I was warning someone for their own benefit e.g. to not get a parking ticket.

That's definitely just you. You're reading far too much into it.

  I'm a scientist, that's what I do! 

Explain how reading too much into something is compatible with scientific method.

Cakeguts

annetheman said:

Rachlou_25 said:

Unfortunately the best way to deter them is by parking your own car there.  I’ve gone down the note route but it can end badly and is never well received no matter how nicely it’s written (tbh I can’t hide my sarcastic tone so it’s probably my own fault this hasn’t worked for me!).  

This is very true. I just moved into my first place on Saturday - I went downstairs to stick my permit on the windscreen on Sunday morning and found this note on it:

It's not a nasty note at all but the presumptuous cheek of it - telling me that MY allocated space is "in use" -- yes, by ME!

I just stuck my permit on, clearly with my bay number on it, and haven't had a note since (granted only been here 5 days).

As "nicely" written as it was, it really tainted my second day here. I was very perturbed by it, thinking about somebody probably storming out ready to report me for still parking in my own space, then backing down when they saw the permit.
Probably forever angry at me for having a space when they don't (1 beds don't have parking here, only 2 beds, and there is nowhere within at least 5 minutes walk to park)! I feel like I won the battle but the sour taste will always remain thanks to that.

I would definitely, definitely speak to them in person! You don't need to justify not wanting someone to use what is yours.

I am not a scientist but I am very logical and I don't understand this note at all.  

The space had previously been vacant because the flat had not completed so there wouldn't have been anyone parking there.  (I am assuming a new build here because that is what it sounds like)  So there is a block of new build flats where the 2 beds have an allocated parking space but the 1 beds don't.  How can this particular space have been "in use?"  Surely as no one lived in the flat it was allocated to it must have been vacant.

If I was a neighbour doing a good turn I would have just said that it was an allocated space.  You don't need the "in use" bit.   The "in use" suggests that someone had been parking in it.  I think that what happened is that the person who had been parking in it didn't realise that the flat it belonged to was did not yet have an occupier and so they had assumed that the flat owner didn't have a car and that the flat owner wouldn't mind if they used the space and as they had been using it for probably several months they assumed that the flat owner knew but didn't mind.  When they saw a car parked in the space they immediately decided that it was someone who was trying to take over their parking space that they thought they had won. The note should read. "Please do not park here this is an allocated space that we are using."  If it was just a nice neighbour you would want to know why they are spending time checking on which car is in which allocated space. 

How many people wander up and down their road looking at whose car is in their neighbours drive way and then leaving notes if they see an extra one?  An allocated parking space is just like a drive.

Ditzy_Mitzy

Cakeguts said:

annetheman said:

Rachlou_25 said:

Unfortunately the best way to deter them is by parking your own car there.  I’ve gone down the note route but it can end badly and is never well received no matter how nicely it’s written (tbh I can’t hide my sarcastic tone so it’s probably my own fault this hasn’t worked for me!).  

This is very true. I just moved into my first place on Saturday - I went downstairs to stick my permit on the windscreen on Sunday morning and found this note on it:

It's not a nasty note at all but the presumptuous cheek of it - telling me that MY allocated space is "in use" -- yes, by ME!

I just stuck my permit on, clearly with my bay number on it, and haven't had a note since (granted only been here 5 days).

As "nicely" written as it was, it really tainted my second day here. I was very perturbed by it, thinking about somebody probably storming out ready to report me for still parking in my own space, then backing down when they saw the permit.
Probably forever angry at me for having a space when they don't (1 beds don't have parking here, only 2 beds, and there is nowhere within at least 5 minutes walk to park)! I feel like I won the battle but the sour taste will always remain thanks to that.

I would definitely, definitely speak to them in person! You don't need to justify not wanting someone to use what is yours.

I am not a scientist but I am very logical and I don't understand this note at all.  

The space had previously been vacant because the flat had not completed so there wouldn't have been anyone parking there.  (I am assuming a new build here because that is what it sounds like)  So there is a block of new build flats where the 2 beds have an allocated parking space but the 1 beds don't.  How can this particular space have been "in use?"  Surely as no one lived in the flat it was allocated to it must have been vacant.

If I was a neighbour doing a good turn I would have just said that it was an allocated space.  You don't need the "in use" bit.   The "in use" suggests that someone had been parking in it.  I think that what happened is that the person who had been parking in it didn't realise that the flat it belonged to was did not yet have an occupier and so they had assumed that the flat owner didn't have a car and that the flat owner wouldn't mind if they used the space and as they had been using it for probably several months they assumed that the flat owner knew but didn't mind.  When they saw a car parked in the space they immediately decided that it was someone who was trying to take over their parking space that they thought they had won. The note should read. "Please do not park here this is an allocated space that we are using."  If it was just a nice neighbour you would want to know why they are spending time checking on which car is in which allocated space. 

How many people wander up and down their road looking at whose car is in their neighbours drive way and then leaving notes if they see an extra one?  An allocated parking space is just like a drive.

It's a white lie.  Stating the space is in use is more likely to have an effect, in addition to sounding friendlier and less weird, than leaving a note that says 'this is an allocated space which nobody ever uses, however I'd prefer if you didn't park in said space because I prefer it empty'.  

Jeepers_Creepers

Ditzy_Mitzy said:

It's a white lie.  Stating the space is in use is more likely to have an effect, in addition to sounding friendlier and less weird, than leaving a note that says 'this is an allocated space which nobody ever uses, however I'd prefer if you didn't park in said space because I prefer it empty'.  

Absolutely.

That's a tactful and well-judged note, written by a clever and thoughtful person.

Ashworks

A garage near us has this.......

moneysavinghero

I want to inform the garage owner that they spelt mysteriously wrong. But i am too scared.

getmore4less

Ashworks said:

A garage near us has this.......

Does going in to ask for explaining make you a customer?

HobgoblinBT

I made some laminated signs at work in a multiple occupancy building that advised car owners not to park in our spaces, and once they had read the notice, to return the notice to our office on the first floor.  Funnily enough, none of the offenders returned the notices.