She doesn't wish to get a loan for her marriage

burlingtonfl6

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

With regards to the dating apps it has had a huge impact. Young women are giving themselves away on there and men (myself included) have easy access to something that only 10 years ago you had to go out and make an effort to get.
I know men who have met in person and she's made them wait for sex, yet they know men that she has slept with on dating apps at the drop of a hat......and they think ''why do I have to make the effort when he didn't''
If you increase the supply of sex (and thats what dating apps have done) it decreases the value of the act.

These's apps are a curse on society and aren't there to create relationships.....why would a dating app trying to make money want the pool of potential customers to shrink?

YUK!

I'm so glad I'm from a different era.

I agree. 
Only a decade ago you had to ask someone out in person, get to know them, go on dates etc
Now you swipe and as annabannana82 states above, the apps are fueling a hook up culture and damaging the potential to form meaningful relationships.
I personally know a girl, 19, stunning with a great family and everything going for her who is very active on the dating apps. Her and her friends all think it is normal to have slept with dozens of men!
I know it's not PC to say in this day and age but someone needs to educate these youngsters that the amount of people you share yourself with will have an impact on you ability to form a healthy relationship in the future. 

burlingtonfl6

annabanana82 said:

I think if you get anyone under 30 to open up honestly on the truth around dating apps then it opens your eyes to how people are seen on there, there's very little dating and more one off hook ups.
I know young women that have gone along with having sex just to get a "date" because that's what all the other women do.
Just hearing some of the conversations they have you can tell there's so much manipulation but they can't see it.
One woman I know had a very high opinion of herself and thought one evening with them and she'd have them begging for a long term relationship, the fact that she repeated this time and time again and remained single didn't seem to register that her theory was flawed.

I'm just glad that I missed the boat on the whole online dating 

Why is anyone going to ''pay full price for something they have already got for free''

grumiofoundation

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

With regards to the dating apps it has had a huge impact. Young women are giving themselves away on there and men (myself included) have easy access to something that only 10 years ago you had to go out and make an effort to get.
I know men who have met in person and she's made them wait for sex, yet they know men that she has slept with on dating apps at the drop of a hat......and they think ''why do I have to make the effort when he didn't''
If you increase the supply of sex (and thats what dating apps have done) it decreases the value of the act.

These's apps are a curse on society and aren't there to create relationships.....why would a dating app trying to make money want the pool of potential customers to shrink?

YUK!

I'm so glad I'm from a different era.

I agree. 
Only a decade ago you had to ask someone out in person, get to know them, go on dates etc
Now you swipe and as annabannana82 states above, the apps are fueling a hook up culture and damaging the potential to form meaningful relationships.
I personally know a girl, 19, stunning with a great family and everything going for her who is very active on the dating apps. Her and her friends all think it is normal to have slept with dozens of men!
I know it's not PC to say in this day and age but someone needs to educate these youngsters that the amount of people you share yourself with will have an impact on you ability to form a healthy relationship in the future. 

Since you get to define whats 'normal' and not anyone else what is 'normal'? 

Age of woman vs number of people they are 'allowed' to sleep with to remain within the bounds of normality/ remain able to form a healthy relationship?

Also is the number the same for men ?

burlingtonfl6

grumiofoundation said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Pollycat said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

With regards to the dating apps it has had a huge impact. Young women are giving themselves away on there and men (myself included) have easy access to something that only 10 years ago you had to go out and make an effort to get.
I know men who have met in person and she's made them wait for sex, yet they know men that she has slept with on dating apps at the drop of a hat......and they think ''why do I have to make the effort when he didn't''
If you increase the supply of sex (and thats what dating apps have done) it decreases the value of the act.

These's apps are a curse on society and aren't there to create relationships.....why would a dating app trying to make money want the pool of potential customers to shrink?

YUK!

I'm so glad I'm from a different era.

I agree. 
Only a decade ago you had to ask someone out in person, get to know them, go on dates etc
Now you swipe and as annabannana82 states above, the apps are fueling a hook up culture and damaging the potential to form meaningful relationships.
I personally know a girl, 19, stunning with a great family and everything going for her who is very active on the dating apps. Her and her friends all think it is normal to have slept with dozens of men!
I know it's not PC to say in this day and age but someone needs to educate these youngsters that the amount of people you share yourself with will have an impact on you ability to form a healthy relationship in the future. 

Since you get to define whats 'normal' and not anyone else what is 'normal'? 

Age of woman vs number of people they are 'allowed' to sleep with to remain within the bounds of normality/ remain able to form a healthy relationship?

Also is the number the same for men ?

It's not normal and I'm sick of this modern way of making everyone think it is by people like you.
I apply the same rules to men.
The girl in question has actually slept with 35 men, at 19. If you think that is normal and healthy then there's no point in arguing with you really.

ZaSa1418

I am extremely glad that I am not part of the tinder generation and I dread to think what it will be like when my young daughters are at a dating age however, normal is opinion. What is normal for one person isn't for another. 

burlingtonfl6

ZaSa1418 said:

I am extremely glad that I am not part of the tinder generation and I dread to think what it will be like when my young daughters are at a dating age however, normal is opinion. What is normal for one person isn't for another. 

Would it be normal and healthy for your daughters?

ZaSa1418

burlingtonfl6 said:

ZaSa1418 said:

I am extremely glad that I am not part of the tinder generation and I dread to think what it will be like when my young daughters are at a dating age however, normal is opinion. What is normal for one person isn't for another. 

Would it be normal and healthy for your daughters?

Well their normal would be up to them and not for me to decide. If they were taking all the precautions to not damage their health and choosing this then yes it is normal and healthy for them. 
Teenage girls and boys in the 90's and early 2000's were the same.

burlingtonfl6

ZaSa1418 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

ZaSa1418 said:

I am extremely glad that I am not part of the tinder generation and I dread to think what it will be like when my young daughters are at a dating age however, normal is opinion. What is normal for one person isn't for another. 

Would it be normal and healthy for your daughters?

Well their normal would be up to them and not for me to decide. If they were taking all the precautions to not damage their health and choosing this then yes it is normal and healthy for them. 
Teenage girls and boys in the 90's and early 2000's were the same.

Completely wrong. You need to see what impact social media, phones and dating apps have had!
Anyway, there's no point arguing my point who would be happy if their daughter slept with dozens of men by the time she was 20. 
And sleeping around damages mental health so taking precautions that you suggest won't stop that.

strawb_shortcake

burlingtonfl6 said:

ZaSa1418 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

ZaSa1418 said:

I am extremely glad that I am not part of the tinder generation and I dread to think what it will be like when my young daughters are at a dating age however, normal is opinion. What is normal for one person isn't for another. 

Would it be normal and healthy for your daughters?

Well their normal would be up to them and not for me to decide. If they were taking all the precautions to not damage their health and choosing this then yes it is normal and healthy for them. 
Teenage girls and boys in the 90's and early 2000's were the same.

Completely wrong. You need to see what impact social media, phones and dating apps have had!
Anyway, there's no point arguing my point who would be happy if their daughter slept with dozens of men by the time she was 20. 
And sleeping around damages mental health so taking precautions that you suggest won't stop that.

As a teenager in the late 90's I'd disagree, it was quite a past time for many of my contemporaries 

tooldle

Pretty much the same in my teenage years (80’s). Although i would agree that the needy types were more prominent players (male and female).