Frump to Fab 2021

thepurplepixie

Mine is horrible battleship grey mainly.  Like many red heads my hair got darker not lighter when I went grey, doesn't suit me.  My grandfather died in his 80s and he was still the same with really dark battleship grey hair, almost black.  It is so harsh.  My sister had black hair and then it went white, so unfair I got all the ginger abuse and now it is a horrible colour.  I'm hoping the white will spread.
I also got the pale freckled skin and as doctor said about my precancerous lesions my skin just can't cope with any sun.  The treatment has got to the red open sores stage so just got to wait for it to heal over and wait for the next lot.  
I wonder what natural advantage redheads have, I feel there must be something.  Actually I think  I read we have a high pain threshold so maybe that is my "super power" I suppose there are worse things.
My kids and GC all worried they would get freckles but they are the least of my troubles.

I'm feeling really down, GS  has gone home, he wasn't happy and it reminded me of taking a reluctant 4 year old into school and reassuring them it would be OK.  DH has had his morphine and is sleeping and I'm feeling quite tearful.  Madness as he's likely to be back within the week.  Don't know what's wrong with me.  If I can't get DH out tomorrow I am going to go into town and sit on the prom and have a coffee.  He hates being left but I don't think it will be good for me just sitting here by myself.  I might even have a doughnut and go totally mad.

I'll stop waffling now and go and count my blessings.

pattycake

I started to go grey before I was 30 but after 30+ years of colouring, I decided to bite the bullet and go au naturel about 5years ago.  So liberating and it’s actually a really nice silver with lovely sheen.  My hair is probably my one feature which I actually like:)

My hair is very thick and grows fast.  I sported a pixie cut for many years but after I achieved a lot of growth in lockdown one, I kept it longer on top.  Trouble is, in lockdown three it’s getting out of control!  I’ve trimmed the front, back and sides  a bit, very inexpertly I’m afraid. I think my hair is longer now than it’s been since my daughter was a toddler and she’s 40.

thepurplepixie

Pattycake you are so brave, I had to pluck up courage to trim my fringe.  You are so lucky with nice silver hair, I was hoping mine was more silver/white than I thought but with lots of roots on show I can see how dark it is.

maddiemay

thepurplepixie said:

Mine is horrible battleship grey mainly.  Like many red heads my hair got darker not lighter when I went grey, doesn't suit me.  My grandfather died in his 80s and he was still the same with really dark battleship grey hair, almost black.  It is so harsh.  My sister had black hair and then it went white, so unfair I got all the ginger abuse and now it is a horrible colour.  I'm hoping the white will spread.
I also got the pale freckled skin and as doctor said about my precancerous lesions my skin just can't cope with any sun.  The treatment has got to the red open sores stage so just got to wait for it to heal over and wait for the next lot.  
I wonder what natural advantage redheads have, I feel there must be something.  Actually I think  I read we have a high pain threshold so maybe that is my "super power" I suppose there are worse things.
My kids and GC all worried they would get freckles but they are the least of my troubles.

I'm feeling really down, GS  has gone home, he wasn't happy and it reminded me of taking a reluctant 4 year old into school and reassuring them it would be OK.  DH has had his morphine and is sleeping and I'm feeling quite tearful.  Madness as he's likely to be back within the week.  Don't know what's wrong with me.  If I can't get DH out tomorrow I am going to go into town and sit on the prom and have a coffee.  He hates being left but I don't think it will be good for me just sitting here by myself.  I might even have a doughnut and go totally mad.

I'll stop waffling now and go and count my blessings.

Oh pixie sending you virtual hugs, does GS act as a welcome diversion from your caring duties for OH perhaps? it must be so wearing for you day after day no matter how much you care for someone, and perhaps very boring when OH is asleep such a lot, I think that I would feel really trapped if it were me. Whilst it is understandable that sometime those being cared for can become very selfish as they do not have much other than their illness/disability to think about.
When my DM cared for my DF after he became a double leg amputee in later life she really treasured her One hour a week at the hairdressers just down the road (she did not drive) and the times when someone took her shopping.  DF was never grudging about such times, but even so it was difficult for her on times.
Take care of yourself and make that trip to the sea. x

maman

Big hugs from me too pixie. 😊
I think we're all getting a bit fed up after almost a year.

Definitely get yourself out tomorrow. A bit of fresh air, exercise and a change of scene will be good for you... and coffee and a doughnut. 😉

pattycake

thepurplepixie said:

Pattycake you are so brave, I had to pluck up courage to trim my fringe.  You are so lucky with nice silver hair, I was hoping mine was more silver/white than I thought but with lots of roots on show I can see how dark it is.

Not brave at all pixie.  I subscribe to the old adage. ‘The only difference between a bad haircut and a good one is two weeks’!!  It’s hair - it grows.

As a new convert to this thread, I do not know your story but it sounds as if you have it very tough.  It feels very shallow for me to be worrying about a bad hair day.  Take care x

thepurplepixie

Yes he is company for me, tonight we would find a film and watch it together but I'm on my own.  It's worse because he isn't happy there so I don't feel good about it.

I've been his carer for almost 30 years, obviously it was easier early on but it does get harder and I get older.   I shouldn't whine, I have a home, money, no one in the family is ill. I'm just wallowing in self pity.  I will be OK tomorrow.  

Thanks for the support.

sugarbaby125

Hello Ladies,

Pixie virtual hugs to you. I am not surprised you are feeling a little down now that your grandson has gone home.  I am sure his visits bring you a lot of joy, so no wonder you feel his absence so keenly. 

You are entitled to feel a bit of self pity. I hope you take a little time for yourself tomorrow from being your husband's carer and get yourself a coffee and maybe even 2 doughnuts in the fresh air 

sukeyboo

Thinking of you pixie - it must be difficult for you. I do hope you manage to get your walk along the prom tomorrow and enjoy your coffee & doughnut ☕️🍩

needmoney

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Sending hugs s and best wishes x