The Best Is Yet To Come

slm6002

It is the last day of the term / school year and I still have plenty to do. There is light at the end of the tunnel though so fingers crossed no one dumps anything on me that I don't already know about! I have already received a lovely bunch of flowers from my boss to say thank you for everything that I have done this year.

DD2 broke up with the BF last night and also quit her main job the day before. Seems like she is starting to get rid of the things she is not keen on to make way for some new starts. I hope it works out for her, but I do have my reservations, as I know what she is like and how she works.

I have been naughty and bought sandwiches for the past few days for work as have just run out of time / energy each day for making it before work. Dinners have also been very hit and miss and I have ended up nipping to the shop for small bits and spending extras as I go. I need to organise a meal plan and food shop tonight or first thing tomorrow I think.

On the house front I emailed asking for any feedback and had a glimmer of positive news, although far too early as yet to be celebrating. The couple liked the house but are worried about legal costs which is stopping them from making an offer at the moment. The agents finance team is working with them to see what they can and cant afford. So not a no but still some way to go.

Right I had better get in the shower and then make some lunch!

debtfreewannabe321

Well done for making it through to the end of term! I was buying sandwiches and lunches for the last couple of weeks I was that knackered. I also wasn't doing much cooking at home so I think we all must reach the same level of exhaustion and only have enough to give to getting through work. You get to rest from next week though and the best news would be that the couple who viewed your house can proceed! What a way to start the summer holiday that would be!

beanielou

Positive energy.

slm6002

Yes I made it after a long day. I didnt get round to finishing everything but hopefully the main bits have now been completed. Got home and was insulted by DD1 as I walked through the door over something simple, and I know it is because she is anxious at the moment and lots is changing, but still not right. At least let me take my shoes off and have a drink first before I have to parent lol.

I am wanting a takeaway tonight as so tired and may just treat us, although the box of malteasers is currently keeping the hunger at bay. I need to also do my monthly check in with the benefits people so that they don't get upset. Tomorrow I will start getting back to normal.

I am hoping that the couple take the weekend to look at their finances and decide what they can afford and what they are happy to offer, then we can go from there. And yes it would be lovely to go back in September with a moving date in mind.

Jessy103

Fingers crossed slm! 🤞 I hope DD1 has apologised to you! x

slm6002

Thank you @Jessy103, I am too keeping my fingers crossed. No apology from DD2 but she came down stairs an hour or so later all sweetness and light making lovely conversation as if the previous chat never happened. Today is her last day at the supermarket job. She has not enjoyed this one at all.

DD2 and I had a trip to the local farm shop yesterday as they do the best baking potatoes. It is the only thing we can afford from there but no harm in looking at everything else. We also discovered a little woodland walk aimed at children I think, but it was a nice little walk around the fields as the weather wasn't so hot. In fact I was actually in long trousers, hoodie and socks for the first time in ages. We also took lots of nature pictures ready for a possible art project next year.

We then sorted DD2's banking app out, because since she has had DD1's old phone she has lost all ability to see her bank account online. It was really just a simple needing to log back in with the right numbers. But it was an easy thing to tick off the list.

One of the houses we have looked at before has been reduced again. It is now on for less than ours and no mortgage would be needed. For that price I would be able to compromised on the few bits we were not sure about. It is going to auction I think though so not sure my situation would work as money would be needed a lot quicker and upfront. It said a modern method where you could be moving within 56 days. Sounds very nice but I have a feeling anyone buying mine would take a lot longer, so it wouldn't work.

Today we have the concert at the carnival to be part of - well DD2 will be, I am just the chaperone. I need to do some housework and still need the meal plan and shopping list to be done. I am also already thinking about stocking the freezer with meals ready for Sept when I come home exhausted. I thought that if I do a few a week in the holidays, I will end up with a good number by the time I need them, and it will not be too overwhelming.

I had better go and get dressed

slm6002

Home from the concert and wasnt expecting to see XH and all of his family sitting right in front of the stage. I hid on a bench at the edge of the park behind some of the stalls. I was on edge the whole time. It has been 6 1/2 years and it still effects me. I hate it. DD2 tried to hide too but was obviously on the stage so unable to, especially as she was the only child and sits on the end closest to the front of the stage.

Band are aware that there is something going on and totally understand why we only do some of the events. This was supposed to be a safe one, but maybe not anymore.

I have come so far and grown in confidence so much since he left, but it takes just a quick sighting of him to go back to feeling like it was just yesterday.

Back home now and feel safer

debtfreewannabe321

Big hugs slm 🫂

joedenise

Have you had any sort of therapy to help with this @slm6002? If not I think it might be worth seeing if you can get some as it's the type of thing which can help. I used to have this sort of reaction with one of my ex bosses and the therapist asked if I wanted to be able to be in the same room as him without the hairs on the back of my neck standing on end! As I was nearly at retirement age I opted to just get my confidence back as he'd really sapped it after calling me "A waste of space" and HR wouldn't move me to another area of the organisation to be away from him. They did however pay for the therapy but I think they were hoping I would go back rather than retiring early!

beanielou

So sorry to read this.