The Best Is Yet To Come

slm6002

Yes she was - think her husband has now been told and has moved out from what i've heard.  Both of them wanted to put that they were mentally abused / feeling suicidal down as the reason for leaving their wife/husband, rather than owning up to the fact they had been cheating on us.  They both want people to feel sorry for them and not be seen as the bad person in this situation.  Thankfully those that matter can see this.  Those that don't matter can believe what they want and then one day when its too late, they will suddenly realise they have been taken for fools, lied to, and kept in touch with the wrong friend.
Anyway I am better off and in 12 days time I should be even more sorted.  Today I have earnt another £2.83 on surveys this morning.  All of these little amounts will hopefully make a difference later in the year.  If i could just sort for us to be in a nice new home by Christmas that would be even better lol

Eager_Elephant

Thanks for answering my nosey question.
What a way to start a relationship!!
You're well out of all the drama and mess and soon will own the house outright yourself - here's to a whole new chapter - Good luck!!

Kitten868

Sorry about your water drama. Glad the hole is so small. I hope you can patch it easy. 
I'm not sure their timeline will work but I suppose he's divorced now. I would struggle not to trash talk him to people, you're so strong. Xxx

slm6002

Trust me i think it a lot, more than a lot in fact, but guess i was bought up better than him.  I hear what he tells the kids.  Thankfully they know what he is like and what I am like and have made up their own minds too.  DD1 has already asked if i will walk her down the isle when the time comes 

caeler

Kids aren’t stupid and they pick up on so much. My XH wanted to be the victim in the situation but it came out he had cheated. I didn’t have to say or do anything, everybody saw his real self. Took me a while to get straight but I haven’t looked back once. 

slm6002

Well i have been out for my fortnightly shop to Mr Lid!.  It wasn't too busy and i have been able to stock up on the bits that only they sell (or at least the varieties we like).  I wish they did delivery.  We have got a food parcel that we need to collect tomorrow, from one of these schemes that ran and we were part of.  I wonder if these type of things will continue over the holidays once the virus is under control?  They normally have lots of fresh veg and meat in them, and should feed us main meals for 5 nights.  I generally have to adapt the recipes for my kids but it all gets used up, or donated to the elderly couple next door - they got loads of tins of tuna from the lunch boxes from the school as my lot wont eat fish, not even fishfingers.  Anyway with the shopping this morning and our mystery box tomorrow, I think this week we will cancel the asd@ delivery.  I also hope to do some baking this week as we should have some time, and I know we have the ingredients.  In the YS section there were bbq jackfruit sausage rolls.  I thought for 20p I would give them a try.  I have been wanting to try jackfruit for some time now and thought it was worth it for that amount.  If we don't like them then it doesn't matter.
Its chilly here but as the kids are not home i will just snuggle under the blankets until later.  They will be frozen as only thing they do with XH is take the dog for a walk, stop for Macdonalds and then off for another walk.  They come home frozen.  A nice warm dinner, hot bath and pjs and blankets for them to warm up will hopefully sort them out.  Ok off to load the washing machine and dishwasher

slm6002

Good evening to you all.  We've had a nice relaxing day today.  We delivered bday and valentines day bits to DD1 boyfriend, tidied the house a little, watched some films and collected our food box.  This evening we have had some very nice homemade burgers with wedges and coleslaw. In with the food parcel were some activities for the children.  Some nature hunts and a bird box to make.  We haven't attempted it yet but will perhaps do that tomorrow.
DS looks like he has a black eye, but no recollection on how he may have got it.  His facial twitch has also returned.  He had it over a year ago and after about a month it disappeared as quickly as it came.  Hopefully it will be the same this time.
I have contacted XH and asked for his solicitors details so I can pass them onto my solicitor - 10 days to go.  So far he has ignored my message.  Uncle has sent paperwork today so hopefully tomorrow it will arrive.  I've still not heard from my solicitors but thinking they may be waiting on the remaining information from me.  If it arrives early enough tomorrow I will hand deliver it. I will also retry to bank the children's monies.  I need to post a bday card to my mum and also look at getting her a mothers day card which is normally around the same time as her bday.  
Going to treat myself to a nice hot bubble bath and enjoy peace and quiet for a few minutes until one of them needs the toilet!

slm6002

Happy Shrove Tuesday to you all.  Pancakes have been eaten and enjoyed by all.  We delivered more paperwork to the solicitors, banked Christmas money and posted birthday card to my Mum.  I had a look in the shops that might have mothers day cards but nothing but a few giant ones that I can't really send through the post.  Not sure if I'm too early / too late or if shops are not bothering much this year.
Still no response from XH.  I think it will be down to the solicitor to contact him and hopefully get a response - 9 days to go!

slm6002

Well I contacted XH again with the same text.  This time I got a response that he has got a telephone meeting with one of the towns most expensive solicitors going on Monday.  He has gone for the family service rather than the property service by the looks of it.  In their blurb the family solicitors deal with disagreements over houses etc before things have been agreed.  My understanding is is that now the consent order has been signed we only need to tfr the deeds and therefore a property solicitor is more appropriate.  Anyway I have now forwarded that onto my solicitors and have to sit ad wait.  XH said its not going to happen by 25th but I think we all knew that.  I wonder if we can eek it out to sign on 1st April when early repayment charges will be reduced?

slm6002

Well i was hoping to have had a decision from the benefits person by today, but it has not appeared.  I guess it will turn up when they figure it out.  Still not heard anything from the solicitors either so i guess nothing is needed from me as yet.  I had my first jab yesterday as for a short while they advertised that preschool people we considered ok to get the jab.  At this point boss said go go go.  A day or so later (about an hour after i had had my jab) they changed their minds and took us off the list. I did wonder why we were on the list when others that are much more needy were still waiting.  I was the only one in the centre and it was so well run.  It was only on my way out that I saw some others coming to get their jabs.  Anyway my arm is a little sore but nothing to make too much of a fuss about.  I am also tired, but i am always tired so not a huge difference, although it will be an early night tonight.  I am hoping to not be effected too much.  Next jab was booked at the same time so 2nd one in May.  
Money wise we haven't spent a thing as not been anywhere or done anything, so that's good for the bank balance.  I have however been looking at the kitchen and wondering what I can do to it to make it look better if I end up selling.  I cant spend too much.  My sister said change to doors, but the bits in between the cupboards would still be showing and looking old.  There are also parts of the cupboards above the hob where the coating has come off and i can see chipboard.  The baseboards are also in a similar situation.  I have thought about painting the doors and the other bits, but unsure how it would turn out if i did it myself.  It really does need ripping out and starting from scratch, which i will do if i end up staying, but not if i am moving.  Also has anyone ever mended chipped ceramics?  I am after advice on mending the corner of the toilet cistern lid that was chipped a long time ago.  I have seen the noodle hack which seems to be unlikely to work.
Ok off to be for me