British families.

Savvy_Sue

You don't have to apologise for going on! 

Yes, in the UK we usually talk about a CV (curriculum vitae, we like the odd bit of Latin), where you'd say resume. That's just one example of what I mean by trying not to 'jar' anyone by using an American phrase - but others may feel it doesn't matter. I guess in my line of work (admin) it matters more. 

Actually, that US food place you mentioned: no harm in letting them know that if they have a vacancy, you'd be interested and you have experience! 

Your boyfriend, by the way, sounds awesome. 

littlegreenparrot

I understand you're feeling down, but please try to cut yourself some slack. 

You have only just arrived, and in the middle of an unprecedented pandemic situation which essentially makes all the normal settling in stuff impossible. You can't even go out and about properly to explore and get your bearings, let alone go out to join in things and meet people. It's a weird thing for all of us. 

My suggestion is that you think about a project for the next few weeks. Maybe you start the couch to 5k running programme, or teach yourself to knit, or practice making perfect pastry. It doesn't really matter. It needs to be something you are interested in, can be in control off at the moment, and can see progress in. Filling your time with something that allows you to achieve something might help you feel better. 

Regarding jobs, I would consider the best bet at the moment to be supermarkets and warehouses as they gear up for Christmas. There are lots of job websites online, maybe look up some local employment agencies and get in touch. Those kind of jobs would probably only be until January anyway, so would fill a gap while you find your feet.

Riley_G

sheramber said:

Tithe Adrenalin and excitement of moving to UK in a hurry is now wearing off plunging you into a low. Now you need to live with reality. Sit down and think what would you like to do. This is your chance to take up that new hobby you would to try Otto learn about some topic that interests you. There is no magic solution. It is up to you. Homesickness is normal but do not let it rule your life. Unpublished Ned to do things now,not when lockdown ends. 

Back in NY I loved working in the kitchen when our cook was off. I always thought that could be my natural progression. I love to cook.  I know it sounds very cliche being a waitress wanting to become a cook. I applied back home to work in the cafeteria of a local elementary school. I got turned down for the job. Still being a cook or even going in to catering would be a dream. My boyfriend said when I spoke to him last night about how I'm feeling I should take a food safety exam online, and pursue my dream. If I have to take a waitress job or some other job if I am studying we would "be ok moneywise". 

I learned to play chess with my dad back home. I feel I'm quite good at it. I play with a few on facebook groups, I found a chess site I can play with random people which should be pretty exciting. 

strawb_shortcake

Your at the start of a great new adventure, covid has hampered your ability to really jump in and enjoy. 
See it that your boyfriend is supporting you financially temporarily until you find work, that's not to say you aren't a partnership but it sounds like you aren't fully comfortable with the financial support he is providing.
 Remember he invited you here, in the middle of a pandemic he knew that finding work might be difficult and he would have taken that into account. The fact that he asked you to come with him is a massive gesture of his feelings toward you, and the fact you came says much about your feelings to him.

I think you have a lot to offer a restaurant, especially with an independent one rather than a chain, I bet you could offer up some American food, specials to be added to the menu. One our local restaurants, gives a lot of freedom to their staff especially in creating desserts, it's showcased on social media to generate interest, talks about the creator etc. American brownies, NY Cheesecake made by an genuine American would go down really well 

Riley_G

Savvy_Sue said:

You don't have to apologise for going on! 

Yes, in the UK we usually talk about a CV (curriculum vitae, we like the odd bit of Latin), where you'd say resume. That's just one example of what I mean by trying not to 'jar' anyone by using an American phrase - but others may feel it doesn't matter. I guess in my line of work (admin) it matters more. 

Actually, that US food place you mentioned: no harm in letting them know that if they have a vacancy, you'd be interested and you have experience! 

Your boyfriend, by the way, sounds awesome. 

Thats a fantastic idea. I was thinking that. That maybe they would want an actual American waitress who cooks working for them! 

I will take a walk up later and speak to the manager. My boyfriend woke me up just before sunrise and took me in to the park to see the sunrise over Manchester told me this is where he comes when he feels low and it always cheers him up. It was beautiful. 
He explained that when he felt low he went to where we were and just looked over Manchester.

I need to learn how to be more British and learn all the terms. My boyfriend is awesome, He treats me like a princess! I wish I could go exploring properly. Get my bearings, as you say its a strange time. 

Riley_G

annabanana82 said:

Your at the start of a great new adventure, covid has hampered your ability to really jump in and enjoy. 
See it that your boyfriend is supporting you financially temporarily until you find work, that's not to say you aren't a partnership but it sounds like you aren't fully comfortable with the financial support he is providing.
 Remember he invited you here, in the middle of a pandemic he knew that finding work might be difficult and he would have taken that into account. The fact that he asked you to come with him is a massive gesture of his feelings toward you, and the fact you came says much about your feelings to him.

I think you have a lot to offer a restaurant, especially with an independent one rather than a chain, I bet you could offer up some American food, specials to be added to the menu. One our local restaurants, gives a lot of freedom to their staff especially in creating desserts, it's showcased on social media to generate interest, talks about the creator etc. American brownies, NY Cheesecake made by an genuine American would go down really well 

@annabanana82 that sounds AMAZING I would totally love to do that. The food I had the other night was great but missing that touch. I would love to be allowed to cook. I have so many dishes I could offer. I make an amazing NY cheese cake even if I do say so myself! I made Pie A la mode, I think American food from an Actual American would be great!

I know he invited me over, I know he loves me very much, I love him with all my heart and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I am really not used to someone supporting me in that way. Back home if I didn't have the money I didn't eat, I didn't get what I needed, simply I went without. Being with my boyfriend things I've needed have just appeared. Without an expectation I need to give something back. He really cares for me. I'm just used to being so broke all the time. I guess when I can treat him like he has treated me I'll feel better. 

littlegreenparrot

Riley_G said:

annabanana82 said:

Your at the start of a great new adventure, covid has hampered your ability to really jump in and enjoy. 
See it that your boyfriend is supporting you financially temporarily until you find work, that's not to say you aren't a partnership but it sounds like you aren't fully comfortable with the financial support he is providing.
 Remember he invited you here, in the middle of a pandemic he knew that finding work might be difficult and he would have taken that into account. The fact that he asked you to come with him is a massive gesture of his feelings toward you, and the fact you came says much about your feelings to him.

I think you have a lot to offer a restaurant, especially with an independent one rather than a chain, I bet you could offer up some American food, specials to be added to the menu. One our local restaurants, gives a lot of freedom to their staff especially in creating desserts, it's showcased on social media to generate interest, talks about the creator etc. American brownies, NY Cheesecake made by an genuine American would go down really well 

@annabanana82 that sounds AMAZING I would totally love to do that. The food I had the other night was great but missing that touch. I would love to be allowed to cook. I have so many dishes I could offer. I make an amazing NY cheese cake even if I do say so myself! I made Pie A la mode, I think American food from an Actual American would be great!

I know he invited me over, I know he loves me very much, I love him with all my heart and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I am really not used to someone supporting me in that way. Back home if I didn't have the money I didn't eat, I didn't get what I needed, simply I went without. Being with my boyfriend things I've needed have just appeared. Without an expectation I need to give something back. He really cares for me. I'm just used to being so broke all the time. I guess when I can treat him like he has treated me I'll feel better. 

You should think about finding a food hygiene course you can do online, and do some research into setting up as a sole trader. 
I bet there are people who would pay you directly to deliver great cheesecakes and pies to the door. 

bouicca21

Sounds like you are good with mney - so maybe introduce the bf to money saving habits and help him save.  Plus look for jobs and courses that will get you qualified to move up in the catering world.  If you have the nerve to drop everything and move continents, you've certainly got the ability to do whatever you want in life.

MovingForwards

How about making an authentic NY cheesecake, or something else, then taking a walk to the American place to have a chat with the manager. Introduce yourself, have a chat over the pudding and say you're very keen to work for them, then hand over your CV.

Riley_G

littlegreenparrot said:

Riley_G said:

annabanana82 said:

Your at the start of a great new adventure, covid has hampered your ability to really jump in and enjoy. 
See it that your boyfriend is supporting you financially temporarily until you find work, that's not to say you aren't a partnership but it sounds like you aren't fully comfortable with the financial support he is providing.
 Remember he invited you here, in the middle of a pandemic he knew that finding work might be difficult and he would have taken that into account. The fact that he asked you to come with him is a massive gesture of his feelings toward you, and the fact you came says much about your feelings to him.

I think you have a lot to offer a restaurant, especially with an independent one rather than a chain, I bet you could offer up some American food, specials to be added to the menu. One our local restaurants, gives a lot of freedom to their staff especially in creating desserts, it's showcased on social media to generate interest, talks about the creator etc. American brownies, NY Cheesecake made by an genuine American would go down really well 

@annabanana82 that sounds AMAZING I would totally love to do that. The food I had the other night was great but missing that touch. I would love to be allowed to cook. I have so many dishes I could offer. I make an amazing NY cheese cake even if I do say so myself! I made Pie A la mode, I think American food from an Actual American would be great!

I know he invited me over, I know he loves me very much, I love him with all my heart and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I am really not used to someone supporting me in that way. Back home if I didn't have the money I didn't eat, I didn't get what I needed, simply I went without. Being with my boyfriend things I've needed have just appeared. Without an expectation I need to give something back. He really cares for me. I'm just used to being so broke all the time. I guess when I can treat him like he has treated me I'll feel better. 

You should think about finding a food hygiene course you can do online, and do some research into setting up as a sole trader. 
I bet there are people who would pay you directly to deliver great cheesecakes and pies to the door. 

I have been looking at them and I found
https://www.food-hygiene-certificate.co.uk/food-hygiene-level-2-catering.aspx it looks exactly what I need to do. My boyfriends really supportive said I should go for it. I said the above to my boyfriend, Said where we live people ALWAYS want good food and desserts. He was showing me people have roast dinners delivered to their door and people are looking for great food. 

I am getting waaay ahead of myself. I wonder if the American take out won't hire me will they buy desserts off me.

What do you mean sole trader? 

bouicca21 said:

Sounds like you are good with mney - so maybe introduce the bf to money saving habits and help him save.  Plus look for jobs and courses that will get you qualified to move up in the catering world.  If you have the nerve to drop everything and move continents, you've certainly got the ability to do whatever you want in life.

I know. It was the biggest decision I have ever made. I do not regret it. My co worker and friend who whatsapps me all the time is jealous I got the opportunity and he said my old boss isn't happy I just upped and left. 

My boyfriend is good with money, he is always switching utilities for the best prices, he switches his credit cards for other reward ones and pays in full. He saves at the end of each month.

I'm making sloppy joes for lunch. My boyfriend loves them. I want to recreate a french dip sandwich we made at my old job.

I might have to practice all my recipes. Never knew when they'll come in use!