I've really messed up

burlingtonfl6

DizzyDizzy10 said:

Comms69 said:

annabanana82 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Imagine giving this advice to your son
''It's ok if your girlfriend is an escort and you share her with countless men''
Or this advice to your daughter
''It's ok to sleep with 70 men, you're young and it won't have an impact on your future.

I've got friends that have been happily married for over 25 years both their second marriage, they are ardent swingers and spend many a weekend indulging in their hobby. It's not my choice but it really works for them. 
Lots of people have large amount of sexual partners before settling down with someone. And I'd hazard a guess there are some men who knowingly have an escort for a partner. 

As a mother I'd advise my Daughter to take precautions both for her sexual and physical health as for how many that's her choice to make.

And that's fine as long as people understand their choices may mean that people look at them differently - not a big deal as it's unlikely those personalities would match up anyway

Are you saying that if when I met my partner I went "Hey I'm.... and I'm an escort" he would have gone "no thanks" even though there is chemistry between us?

If he had options, yes.

nora_nora

DizzyDizzy10 said:

I have some news.
I have spoken to a recruiter and she has forwarded me for a telephone interview
It is only an order processing administrator but work is work and I can learn new skills. 
She asked about my past I was truthful. She said because of the roll they won't really care and they'll ask my boyfriend for a reference. I feel cheeky even putting him even when he said to. 

I really want to tell my boyfriend but don't want to be seen to be bothering him.

Your boyfriend? 

[Deleted User]

DizzyDizzy10 said:

She asked about my past I was truthful. She said because of the roll they won't really care and they'll ask my boyfriend for a reference. I feel cheeky even putting him even when he said to. 

Hi,

did you say that your boyfriend and you are in a kinda limbo just now, but he was happy to reference you?

skint_chick

DizzyDizzy10 said:She asked about my self employed status as a masseuse. She just said "basically escorting? I've seen it all before, they won't care" 

The recruiter just cared more about forwarding me on for the interview.

I would say 'no, I was self employed as a masseuse' and keep it to that. Treat recruitment consultants as though they are the potential employer, because their opinion of you does matter if other roles come up. No-one needs to know about your past except yourself and trusted friends or partners you choose to tell. It's not hiding a secret, it's putting yourself in the best possible position to get a non-escort job. Definitely look at free Essential Skills literacy, numeracy, and ICT - they are GCSE equivalent at Level 2 and our local colleges are all doing them online this term. It will get you in the mindset of studying and there's plenty of Khan Academy/Futurelearn/Coursera free online courses to explore too

DizzyDizzy10

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DizzyDizzy10 said:

She asked about my past I was truthful. She said because of the roll they won't really care and they'll ask my boyfriend for a reference. I feel cheeky even putting him even when he said to. 

Hi,

did you say that your boyfriend and you are in a kinda limbo just now, but he was happy to reference you?

Boyfriend said he would give me a reference today. 

DizzyDizzy10

skint_chick said:

DizzyDizzy10 said:She asked about my self employed status as a masseuse. She just said "basically escorting? I've seen it all before, they won't care" 

The recruiter just cared more about forwarding me on for the interview.

I would say 'no, I was self employed as a masseuse' and keep it to that. Treat recruitment consultants as though they are the potential employer, because their opinion of you does matter if other roles come up. No-one needs to know about your past except yourself and trusted friends or partners you choose to tell. It's not hiding a secret, it's putting yourself in the best possible position to get a non-escort job. Definitely look at free Essential Skills literacy, numeracy, and ICT - they are GCSE equivalent at Level 2 and our local colleges are all doing them online this term. It will get you in the mindset of studying and there's plenty of Khan Academy/Futurelearn/Coursera free online courses to explore too

Council have sent me a link to the adult education on their site with all the details of courses. All night courses and all scheduled to be done from home due to the situation.

DizzyDizzy10

Boyfriend sent me this message

"I know you have said that are looking for a job and I know you left your other job. Are you going to have a roof over your head next month or are you going to have to find rent money from somewhere? I'm not suggesting you'll go back to your old job. regardless of what happens between you and me, I wouldn't want you on the streets or anything."

Followed up with

"You have got food in and stuff right? I know things aren't great between us. I wouldn't want you going hungry. or anything."

Aranyani

AskAsk said:

Aranyani said:

DizzyDizzy10 said:

AskAsk said:

just out of interest as there are so many responses on this thread, i have lost track. 

OP - has your boyfriend walked out on you or is he still there?

I did text him at like 3 am asking if he hated me. He replied saying no.

He's a saint, I'd hate anybody who texted me at 3am unless it was a dire emergency. 

you could put your phone on silent when you are asleep??

Then I wouldn't be woken in a true emergency. 

I prefer to trust people not to text at insane times of the night, and for the most part they don't. 

Aranyani

I'm amazed how many services you've managed to access in just a day, I can't even get a dentist appointment for months!

DizzyDizzy10

Aranyani said:

I'm amazed how many services you've managed to access in just a day, I can't even get a dentist appointment for months!

I had e-mailed the council last week. 
My GP has a same day telephone service. and I've been applying for jobs for weeks too.