First Steps to Solvency

Sun_Addict

Have a good time at the coast, your son will love it.

RelievedSheff

You are guaranteed to see the seals at this time of year. Expect a queue to get into the car park though. It will be busy.

alt80

Thanks all nothing straight forward though Range Rover is being a Range Rover some !!!!!! warning lol so we’re going anyway in the milkfloat. 

Willowtree222

Enjoy Alt. 

mark55man

welcome to my diary experience - 36 hours without a post   (I was almost tempted not to post this)

hope you are having a great weekend - and catch up with you when you back to your routine

alt80

Day 185 just checking in before bedtime lol @mark55man haha been off the devices, had an amazing weekend tbf just absolutely whacked now and need to be getting some sleep.

mark55man

well done @alt80 - some weekends just click and will stick in everyone's memory for ages

alt80

Day 186

Happy Monday or not so for me, absolutely horrendous nights sleep unfortunately. Thinking about my finances I’m only a few weeks from the end of the year and a new one approaching. Started to streamline my data over the past couple of days but haven’t got far it’s more a plan for over Christmas.

Events have started which I would have ordinarily been attending seen a few pics and received a few messages tbh I have no other feeling than relief to have stayed away first time in my life I am starting to feel safe from myself tbh paranoid I will lose that 100% but to have made it to this point is beyond what I thought possible for me.

Absolutely @mark55man all the right reasons for this last one though it’s been amazing.

Willowtree222

Look how far you have come. Six months without touching the drugs. Six whole months. That's worth so much more than some figures at the end of the year. You have become so much stronger as a person, as a family, and are thinking so much differently to what you were. 

As much as the journey of debt sorting needs to carry on, it is not the whole part of the picture. In your case, it is a tiny piece of a huge jigsaw. Mindset is your biggest thing now. 

The debt will reduce provided you keep doing what you are doing. It just takes time and patience. 

Sounds like an amazing weekend Alt. I have never seen the seals despite travelling to Wales fairly often. 

alt80

Thank you @Willowtree222 I am staying committed to my recovery tbh I'm in a better place now than I've been in for many many years just need to keep going. I know I've had to change a lot of thought patterns and it's not to say I don't find myself thinking in the way I have done for practically all my life difference is I don't let it take over or try not too. Today has been a bit of a struggle tbh only up at this time after going to bed earlier and despite an awful night's sleep last night I couldn't switch off. I think that's always going to be a factor for me just need to learn to live with it and adapt as best I can. I recognise I wasn't doing as well as I could have been for my family or my business. Taken a lot for me to admit the latter always thought I never let business suffer, could !!!!!! everything else but whilst things were running well to an extent I was not leading a team as best I could and I was making myself ill not helping anyone. I can use what I've learned from reflections on past mistakes/ misdoings to move forward and improve just as anyone else can. The pros have been and are amazing, I'd recommend reaching out to anyone. Saying this on here for anyone reading this and struggling in life; ultimately if you're in a completely !!!!!! mindset yourself, other things are going to not be going as well as you'd like and in my case I know I had the denial / defensive thing going on try to protect myself I think. I knew the way I lived my life for a long time was ultimately not a great way to live and I carried on because I was in a trap mentally and financially. 

100% I agree maintaining the mindset I have currently is the biggest thing. My financial lows over the years have all been driven by my mindset/ ego/ inability to say no/ trying to make up for being a !!!!!! person etc. I don't so much care I have kept very limited access to my personal money now. Have to laugh to myself about that probably in a stronger position to have access to my personal money than I have been before in many ways when my spending was completely out of control and sometimes compounded by my addiction. Just some thoughts which idk I hope might help someone maybe. 

Re seals - they are in Wales too? Bit too far for the milkfloat that is though tbf lol.