First Steps to Solvency

warby68

I am so pleased you are at 6m - a rocky road but you've done it, worrying me with some wobbles but coming good, and now continuing to make rapid progress building a different life for all  of you. The changes are massive and I agree with RS, the debt is a bit of a side issue to the rest. A little bit of a slower timetable on that is not really an issue. The different behaviours, priorities and choices are. The debt reduction will follow.

I really would not have guessed this time last year you would be where you are. I hoped you would because I'm a sucker for young, happy families but if I'm honest I didn't think the odds were great. You beating them is fantastic and a credit to you. 

Here's to 12 months next. Keep going @alt80

Willowtree222

Congratulations Alt, fantastic achievement. 

I agree with the others, you’ve made so much progress in other areas that the balances seem irrelevant right now. You’ll get there with them though just don’t pressure yourself now. 

Sun_Addict

6 months, fantastic. Just shows what can be achieved if you put your mind to it. Congratulations 👏 

ladyholly

Congratulations on 6 months. An amazing achievement when you look back to the start of your diary, not just the drugs, debts and alcohol but the change of mindset. I am sure you and your family are in for an amazing 2022.

maggiem

Six months is amazing. You've made so many changes and adjustments to your thoughts and thinking processes; it's a pleasure these days to read posts and I could not have said that six or seven months ago. It's a great achievement, hope you are very pleased and others recognise the effort this change has taken. 

alt80

Thank you all. 

In-laws took my family and out for a meal really enjoyed it, actually was great food but I’m not used to eating massive quantities of food so not feeling great. Kept it AF and was able to drive which after a lot of years anyone but me being trusted to be in a fit state to drive hasn’t stopped being quite nice lol. 

I know I am a bad person always have been but I am doing what I can to improve my family’s life and my own. I’d had enough some time ago but I didn’t put the effort / consistency in to achieve the rewards that tbt I wanted rather I made myself ill time and time over and got defensive about it clinging to whatever little !!!!!! thing I did still have. Life a lot better now, business better and shaping up to be a better year altogether financially as well as staff happy and me not doing anything I could for a little group of my staff to see me as one of them fml look back and I was a !!!!!! chequebook to a few of them. One did leave earlier this year, had someone less self destructive replace them and they are doing well, have great convs and not a mess on Monday. I reflect on my behaviour over the years it’s been !!!!!! awful, 6 months in now to rest of my life and I’m just getting started. I’ll be forever in debt to some of you on here, my wife, my in-laws, pros etc. don’t want to let anyone down and over past few days at the point I don’t want to let myself down. 

FootyFanDan

Sorry I haven't kept track as much as i should mate but just wanted to pop in and say I am absolutely delighted for you that you have made it this far. You should be incredibly proud of the journey you have taken, the steps you have made to make a better life all round is amazing. Well done

Willowtree222

You’re not a bad person. I wish you’d start believing that. You’ve made mistakes and had an addiction that you are dealing with. 

Humdinger1

Willowtree222 said:

You’re not a bad person. I wish you’d start believing that. You’ve made mistakes and had an addiction that you are dealing with. 

Yep, you've got it right there.   @alt80 you really are not bad.  Quite the opposite; you've pulled yourself up by your bootstraps; not many people manage this no matter how much help they have.  You've redefined what's important and are a force for good all round.  You're not berating yourself anywhere near as much as you used to, which shows how far you've come; might it be worth discussing with the pros the fact you're doing it at all? There is no justification for it; you can congratulate yourself on your huge achievements without being bumptious and that's healthy.    Keep going, you're fab.  Love Humdinger x

poppy811

 so pleased for you, massive well done.  A bad person would never have done what you have achieved