First Steps to Solvency

alt80

Day 61 through. Spoke too soon re quieter morning fml this evening I was really !!!!!! glad to switch the computer off almost forgot how much hassle some tenants can be and these are the !!!!!! commercial ones haha. Almost poured myself a drink when I walked in the house but the wife reminded me today was meant to be an AF day so got a cup of Chamomile tea instead; meant to be soothing ha fml. Do quite enjoy it tbf but I'm not sure it does that much def not same as a couple of glasses of wine and a few pills.

Wife not spent off plan. I've not (can't lol). Planning to go to bed early again.

Meant to add had a look through plan for coming year - told wife she wants to carry on spending on !!!!!! other stuff needs to be reduced as I'm not letting this go on forever. She knows I'm serious so idk will see if she either starts to wind it in or if I need to start taking her toys off her.

alt80

Whilst we're on the subject of winter on here. Wife has just booked our first winter activity for my birthday - got an email from RHS re the gardens winter 'glow' - everything lit up in their garden. Really looking forward to it tbh and £23.85 for the tickets ha. We will stay the night so will be cost of a hotel and a couple of meals but will fall within my birthday budget easily. Know I've kept saying I didn't want to do anything but wife wanted to do something for it she said. Will work out cheaper than any birthday apart from last year of course and I'm really looking forward to it, my son will absolutely love it, wife knows it won't become an excuse for me to use - long way from home and I don't think I'm about to walk around some RHS place wired on coke. Going to bed so !!!!!! happy about walking around a lit up garden for my birthday might have regressed to about my son's age haha but I can't !!!!!! wait lol.

dawnybabes

It’s an age thing, you’re not bothered at all about gardens then suddenly you are.  Have you any villages near you doing open gardens (our village do it every 2 years) they are really good and normally only about a fiver. 

enthusiasticsaver

That actually sounds like a really nice birthday treat.  I would love that too. Nice idea by your wife. 

alt80

Day 62. Fair amount of work planned to get through. Reallocated a couple of jobs having looked through staff diaries - I’ve been trying to do more than I should these past few weeks. Used to have a drink practically every night pre lockdown, not an excessive amount but I don’t think that’s great either tbh glad I didn’t last night - was really quite badly craving alcohol not something that happens too often but I’m better without drinking when in that mood. Tbh I think back and just realise my life was pretty !!!!!! pre lockdown all I did was work, use substances and spend money to fairly extreme levels on occasion. I’ve said plenty of times on here I’m not someone who is going to stop liking nice things and sell up to live in a tiny house and drive a 1.0litre car. Stand by that now but I’m enjoying planning how I’m going to spend my money. I would like to buy the MG off my mate he knows this sometimes have a look at it. It’s not worth a lot of money but I’m looking forward to it becoming mine. I’m not sure about another fast sports car. Part of me would still like an AM but it reminds me of a part of my life I’d rather forget so possibly have spoiled that one for myself idk. 

Friday I’m having off work - planned out and will stick with it this week. My son is excited about the EQC, wife is also and I’m not going to spoil it for them because it’s not all about what I want. 

alt80

@dawnybabes ha think I’ve started to reach that age, walking round peoples gardens not my thing though do enough of that working when I’m dealing with res. 😆

alt80

@enthusiasticsaver thanks still looking forward to it this morning. Taking my son to a different one for Alice in wonderland garden over this summer too. Might brave the elec range and take the EQC on a run lol.

enthusiasticsaver

I had to give a wry smile when I read your post this morning. 6 months ago you would have said that gardens were lame and life was all fast cars and spending sprees and would not believe us when we said the best pleasures come from a simple stress free life without the massive highs and lows. Now you are starting to see that you can have a great life without putting yourself massively in debt. You are making great progress. 

RelievedSheff

Your posts have also made me smile this morning. It is nice to see just how far you have come in a relatively short space of time.

Your birthday treat sounds lovely and I'm sure that you will all enjoy it.

Glad you are having a day off on Friday as well. You do need to make sure you keep a sensible work/life ratio.

You are doing great

the_end_of_the_rainbow

What @enthusiasticsaver said!

The difference in 6 months is unbelievable- you sound so much happier & grounded. 

Congratulations on how far you have come.