First Steps to Solvency

Onebrokelady

alt80 said:

Happy Friday. First time in a long time I’m properly looking forward to the weekend and logging off a bit early today.

Do need to sort my finances out still. Last night had an evening with the wife. She’s agreed to do the counselling sessions and is going to have an IG abstinence over March. 4 days off and she’s loving it getting back into old hobbies and not thinking about content all the time and stuff she needs to buy for content. Yesterday probably first time since I’ve known her completely makeup free day. Not trying to gain any points or anything but tbh she looks better without it than the full ‘unreal’ look ha. Ended up staying up late talking to her both of us think this worth working on- moving away from the destructive stuff and more time for our son. 100 people in my life will tell me spending my weekend days walking and watching TV is lame tbh I don’t even care anymore. 

I’ve never considered it’s ok to be tired and want to sleep before but getting more done in the day in a lot less hours everything properly planned out. Serious about a change in lifestyle and going to take peoples advice again from here and visit my parents use the budget allocation. 

Brilliant news and so good to read such a positive post. I think the saying "be the change you want to see in others " might be working on your wife. 

Legs21

As others have already said this is a really positive post. Really good to hear your wife getting on board with it too. You’ll be on here posting about how well you and the PIL are getting on soon 😉

Willowtree222

I don't know anyone in my immediate circle who would think being with your family and TV is lame. I think it's the perfect weekend. I love spending it with my DD. X

enthusiasticsaver

Hallelujah what a great post and so good to see your wife is starting to get on board with a lifestyle not including IG and all that fake stuff.  Walking and tv with your family is not lame.  Spending time relaxing and with your family is important and you seem to be getting that now.  Good that your wife is starting to explore hobbies other than buying stuff and putting it on IG.  It is normal to be tired out by the end of the day.  I did a 28 mile bike ride yesterday and a 7 mile walk and 2 hours of gardening today and am seriously considering going to bed now and reading my kindle for an hour before going to sleep.  

Humdinger1

@alt80 fab! Congrats to your wife on her LBM and to you as your new attitude is a big part of this.  Sorry I hope this doesn't sound patronising but it is inspiring to see.  Humdinger 

BalanceBy50

Just echoing everyone else's posts- a very uplifting read!  Do those people in your life who think walking & watching tv is lame have young children? Vast majority of parents with younger children will be spending their weekends doing what you are. I have loved this slower pace of life and am dreading all the demands on my time once the world opens up.  Could your son join a local football or rugby club?  I have an 8 & 6yr old and they both play football in a weekend & love it. My 8yr olds coach is female & they are asking for coaches for my younger son as they are playing matches next season - this would be great for all your family to get involved in.

You mentioned about dreading weekends again - your wife & son going to the in-laws & you left on your own, surely things have changed now and you want to spend time as a threesome whether this is you all going to the inlaws, you inviting them to do stuff with you or the the three of you spend time together without outside influence.

I hope you all have an amazing weekend - you may not believe it but you come across as a really decent bloke on here! xx

ladyholly

I think Balanceby50 ha a point as no doubt when we are allowed out again your wife will want to see her parents so perhaps you can agree for her to see them mainly during the week ( she can always see them with your son after school) and leave weekends free for family time but also arrange perhaps one a fortnight or month to do something with all you together. I know you have problems with your in laws but I think your wife and son would like it and you never know you may be able to establish a better relationship with them as they see you sorting things out and becoming more a family man. This might also help your wife to become less dependant on her parents.

I hope you enjoy the rugby - I assume it is on today and have a good day with your family.

KxMx

I would also suggest as you are seeing mate differently through non-drug eyes that you may see PiL in a different light too. Give them and yourself a chance. 

dawnybabes

Hope you’re ok ? 

RelievedSheff

Im sure he is having a fab family weekend.