Sorting a marriage

Mercdriver

I wonder if he would be a good match for Ms Sand?

RobHT

74jax said:

RobHT said:

Comms69 said:

RobHT said:

With the kids is complicated, definetely it is.

To reply from one of the points above, how a wife made the emoctional cool life with me if she drops? Does the result not count anymore? -What does that even mean?
Come on guys, are you serious?
Kids ok even with her (if I can't) and paid sufficiently by me, but she can ask the money to the new one, that's what I think, if marriage is not all about money, then who contributed more takes more, what the hell is wrong with the math in you guys . - Marriage doesnt work like that. You literally sign a contract to share all your assets. 
And.... as you are saying she will receive money from both men... Fantastic life ah... Who knows why a man doesn't never get this luxury, and I'm talking also about no kids situation. - You're talking something! Most women, quality women, arent looking to be 'looked after' by you or anyone else

In case of no kids, well, should I even explain the matter? - yes please. because if there are no kids, it's very unlikely you'd be paying any money ongoing
Supposing the house was mine, and she contributed with the bills and food, basically all the rest 50/50, why the hell she should get the 50% of the house value? - it would depend on how long you were married. But without children it's unlikely she would get 50% In many cases, she has also the right to take over the house, so you are gonna rent elsewhere and continue to pay the mortgage, is this normal? Ah yeah it is for you guys - and what right is that? 

If the marriage is about to remain together, when you split "BY YOUR CHOICE" you can't automatically get the 50% if you didn't contribute somewhere, can be an asset, even a debt, or whatever you wanna call it!

rach_k said:

Why do you have "concerns as a man"?  UK law doesn't seek to advantage women getting a divorce, it looks to ensure that if there is a lower earner, male or female, that they are treated fairly.  You're assuming that your wife wouldn't earn as much as you, but even if you went for a more traditional-style arrangement of little wifey staying at home to raise the kids and cook your dinner, she might one day have a great idea or a lucky lottery ticket.  If you'd supported her - financially and/or emotionally - for years, then she suddenly got rich and ran off with a nicer man, wouldn't you feel entitled to some of the money she earned during your marriage?  Support in a marriage, or any partnership, isn't just about money.  If you think it is or you don't value the non-monetary contributions, I'd suggest that marriage isn't for you!

Talking about no kids situation, I believe you can only be a woman, there is no other explanation!
What emoctional support if I take one hummer to my face? Omg...- Nice bloke... 

She may take something from the house value only if she contributed to the mortgage, and that means that you as a man have been an idiot to let her to do that, so she has equity on the house for sure and right to sign if to rent or sell...

You realise that if a woman owns a house and gets married, it's exactly the same right?

I'm fine with it, I don't have any intent to steal anything!

Well in the end you think as me, you didn't need even to reply point by point , anyway thanks.

I got it now, no marriage, damnly simple  

I'm not sure if you are aware marriage in England is a contract.

It's not stealing, you have willingly signed a marriage contract. You don't have to sign the contract, which is probably best in your case.  I don't know how long you have been in England but contracts can happen for many reasons, building works, employment, marriage etc. Don't sign any you are not happy with. 

Very good to know !  

RobHT

NBLondon said:

Rob - you may find mgtow.com more to your liking...

These pathetic things are not for me.

But... Just for your happiness, it was fun when I came in UK to have heard multiple times (and that does not mean much if no stat mentioned, but I suggest to look them) that a man has to do everything (or similar flavours), just because men and women are different, therefore one of them has to do the job , obviously the man for commodity  

Typical of middle east tbh, but anyway, who cares, no marriage is the solution, very happy with it, no other discussion to do on that  

sweetsand

When people have been married, and/or lived together for years, and years IMO the split should be equal with biais towards the one keeping, looking after children esecailly if they are under the age of 18 - it is never easy.
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