Fallout for not attending a wedding.

missile

thegreengreengrass112 said:

After speaking to the aunt, we have been verbally attacked by her and she has actually told us not to contact her or the bride again and that she essentially wants nothing more to do with us.

Problem solved, who needs an Aunt like that.

Flugelhorn

Sea_Shell said:

We've turned down wedding invites in the past. 

Didn't go down well once when a parent "assumed" you'd be attending and "assumed" you'd take them too!!

They'd already confirmed their attendance.

oh yes - I have declined to attend events like that too - my ears took some time to recover

Flugelhorn

missile said:

thegreengreengrass112 said:

After speaking to the aunt, we have been verbally attacked by her and she has actually told us not to contact her or the bride again and that she essentially wants nothing more to do with us.

Problem solved, who needs an Aunt like that.

Just think how the florist / caterer etc etc are feeling as probably suffering from MOBzilla too 

burlingtonfl6

Another reason not to get married 

Pollycat

burlingtonfl6 said:

Another reason not to get married 

Some people can actually get married without being incredibly precious and throwing strops.

But in this instance it's the bride's Mother who is the problem.

There's no way my Mother would have acted like that.

Sea_Shell

burlingtonfl6 said:

Another reason not to get married 

Getting "Married" isn't the problem.  "Weddings" are !!!

pollypenny

sweetsand said:

pollypenny said:

mr_stripey said:

pollypenny said:

I don't think non-teachers realise that Sunday is a working day for teachers.  

OP, you're new job and baby are your priorities. 

probably the same way teachers don't realise that non teachers have to go to work when there is 1cm of snow on the ground....

Individual teachers do not close the school. Schools are usually closed by the LEA because school buses aren't running and/ or the yard is too slippery for kids, especially primary kids. 

Private schools do not close at the first sign of snow and some relatives/family we have work in private scools laugh when they hear these stories. At the private scools all they do when there is much heavier snow, they clear all the relevant paths for health and safety and children get staggered breaks if required. One of the teachers that left an ordianry taxpayers fully funded school and went private often complained about these kind of things and they were sent to Coventry by the majoirty so they left. It's what teachers make of it and private schools would soon start losing money if they all closed at the first sign of snow.

Oh, dear. What did you not understand?  

It's the LEA who decide to close schools and the bus companies who decide that they cannot run their buses in this area with a big rural intake. 

Of course, your wonderful private school will have the funds to pay groundsmen to clear all paths. They benefit from charity status, so pay little tax. Added to that, private schools do not pay business rates - yet LEA schools and academies have to pay business rates. Private schools are actually businesses now. State school are not. 

It's a totally inequitable system, therefore comparisons are not valid. 

maman

Mojisola said:

maman said:

I had a big birthday a couple of years ago and a niece cried off my party because of a new baby. So I've been in the aunt's position. 

I thought my niece was a bit of a snowflake as she could have come or left the baby (6 months) with her in laws for the day (6 hour return journey or stayed over) but they chose not to. It hurt but I accepted it and moved on but it did affect my opinion of niece and how she thought of me.

Really?  You think less of a mother with a young baby because she put herself and her baby before coming to your birthday party?  Wow!

Yes, really. Why would I bother inviting someone to my party if I didn't care whether they came or not? Why would I not feel a little bit hurt when I knew she could have come but chose not to? 

OP has made his decision. I can see his reasoning about the baby and him worrying about his new job but I think we all know that if he really, really wanted to he could go to the wedding. He may not care what his aunt thinks or any other family members who might be disappointed with him. He's made his choice now he has to live with it. Surely the reason for the thread was to get support for/discussion of  his choice as he wasn't sure. 

sheramber

In the case of weddings it is usually a case of if you have to invite close relatives and if you invite so and so you will have to invite someone else as well or they will be offended.
 Families are complex things.

sweetsand

sheramber said:

In the case of weddings it is usually a case of if you have to invite close relatives and if you invite so and so you will have to invite someone else as well or they will be offended.
 Families are complex things.

Very true and weddings bring out the best of the worst in some families