Breaking up - is this the end?

sweetsand

Thanks dean
A great summary of what happened to you and I've heard about similar stories.
As I said to the OP, look at it as a lucky escape though it will certainly not feel like that for a while.
some real good posts here and I'm sure they have helped the OP and others and those are yet to read this thread.
x

saver772

It's now been confirmed that shes with this guy, after I was sent screenshots from social media. I've managed to get her key off and her stuff will be removed next weekend. I'm going to have a conversation with a mortgage advisor next week about process for removing her off it.

I thought I was feeling loads better but this has really hit me yesterday, its confirmed shes definitely with him, the entire relationship feels like a lie. I dont know what to do, I feel like I've taken a huge step back and I'm feeling the same as I was about a month ago.

This is killing me.

Sky_

Ups and downs are normal when you're grieving the end of something that was important in your life.  In such situations, I imagine I'm surfing in an ocean and riding the crests and troughs of the waves.  You've been doing okay, but the latest information has knocked you back into a trough between waves and the way up is slow and painful.  It feels really awful at the time (now), but it really will pass and you won't always feel like this.  Take it one day at a time and remind yourself that 'this too will pass and that it will get better'.  You deserve so much more than being a cheat's toy.

What you're going through is incredibly painful, but time really does heal and in time you'll realise that you're now free to meet someone who treats you with the love, consideration and respect you deserve. 

 In the meantime, be kind to yourself and try to immerse yourself in things you enjoy doing, even if you don't feel like doing them right now--maybe make a list of things you usually enjoy and work through it over the next few weeks.  It will lift your mood and help the painful time to pass more quickly.

burlingtonfl6

saver772 said:

It's now been confirmed that shes with this guy, after I was sent screenshots from social media. I've managed to get her key off and her stuff will be removed next weekend. I'm going to have a conversation with a mortgage advisor next week about process for removing her off it.

I thought I was feeling loads better but this has really hit me yesterday, its confirmed shes definitely with him, the entire relationship feels like a lie. I dont know what to do, I feel like I've taken a huge step back and I'm feeling the same as I was about a month ago.

This is killing me.

Your just about to hit your 30's and as a man you'll have an easier time of it than she will. Take a couple of years to yourself, get fit, set up a business, meet new people and when you're ready, date someone 10 years younger than you. 

ontheroad1970

burlingtonfl6 said:

saver772 said:

It's now been confirmed that shes with this guy, after I was sent screenshots from social media. I've managed to get her key off and her stuff will be removed next weekend. I'm going to have a conversation with a mortgage advisor next week about process for removing her off it.

I thought I was feeling loads better but this has really hit me yesterday, its confirmed shes definitely with him, the entire relationship feels like a lie. I dont know what to do, I feel like I've taken a huge step back and I'm feeling the same as I was about a month ago.

This is killing me.

Your just about to hit your 30's and as a man you'll have an easier time of it than she will. Take a couple of years to yourself, get fit, set up a business, meet new people and when you're ready, date someone 10 years younger than you. 

Trust me, bitterness that shows in every post you make won't be attractive to anyone.  If you teach the OP to be chauvinistic and untrusting , then he will not make any progress at all