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Money Moral Dilemma: Should we charge our grown-up children for living with us during lockdown?

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This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

They came to stay with my partner and I when lockdown was first announced so we could be together. They're both working from our home and both earn more than us, so I think they should pay their way while they're here. Yet my partner doesn't think they should because they're still paying rent on their own homes, and it's caused many an argument.

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  • littlegreenparrotlittlegreenparrot Forumite
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    You are allowing them to take the mick. Why on earth haven't they gone home yet? 

    They are adults with an income, of course they should be paying their way.
  • silvercarsilvercar Forumite, Board Guide
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    You invited them to live with you and now you want them to pay for the privilege?
    the time to discuss payment was when you first invited them.
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  • REJPREJP Forumite
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    Just another variation of a regular dilemma.
    they should pay towards food and utilities.. You should lay down rules before letting them move in.
    if they don't agree, show them the door and take their keys off them.
  • 7513mike7513mike Forumite
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    You could ask them to pay the additional costs you face because they are living with you. But I think this is more about personal relationships than money.
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