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edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
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  • mellymoo74mellymoo74 Forumite
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    Spoken to my brothers tonight, both of who want me to go home

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    edited 14 July at 8:45AM
    Why do they want you to go home?
    Do they think it's best for you or best for someone else?
    Do they know your full story?
    Has your OH been putting pressure on them?

    TBH, Melly, you've made the most massive decision to move out.
    I can't begin to imagine how hard that must have been for you.
    It must have taken guts.

    To go back - unless you are 100% sure that it's the right decision for you - would be the worst decision you could possibly make.

    ETA:
    please don't let anyone guilt trip you into returning to the home you've just left.
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    thorsoakthorsoak Forumite
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    edited 14 July at 8:44AM
    Do your brothers want you to go home - to them?    They were advising you to move out of the house a few weeks ago!     Are you sure that you are not allowing your (unnecessary) feelings of "guilt" to skew the way that you are hearing things?
    Stay safe, Melly moo - and it would appear to us that staying safe means staying away - for your health.    You wouldn't hesitate to stay in hospital - or advise someone else to stay in hospital - if you weren't sure that it was the only way to get better - listen to your gut feelings - it is YOU who is most important just now.   Stop worrying about everyone else - it is YOU who needs to heal just now.xxxx
  • mellymoo74mellymoo74 Forumite
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    To them
    To another city xx
  • PollycatPollycat Forumite
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    To them
    To another city xx

    OK. I understand now.

    So how do you feel about that suggestion?
    What will happen to the support worker you have if you move?
    Will it put you back to square one?
  • mellymoo74mellymoo74 Forumite
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    I like it
    Family support and untainted land
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    thorsoakthorsoak Forumite
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    edited 14 July at 11:32AM
    Good - go for it! That would be my advice.   Of course, tell your support worker who should be able to arrange support for you there.    Gut feeling is often the best way.
  • mellymoo74mellymoo74 Forumite
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    My brothers have been going nuts but also been there for support (big deal with Northern men lol).
    I'm safe where I am just need to get my animals. 
    I reverted to my maiden name on stuff last night which helped 
  • mellymoo74mellymoo74 Forumite
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    Just had a call with social services
    They were amazed at how much I have achieved x
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