Embracing the new family dynamics and looking forward to the future with optimism

Savvy_sewing

I think it was our old friends opinions not beanies

Savvy_sewing

I got through the day with an hour nap while dgs2 was napping.
I did a small amount of work, and messaged several customers. Decided to get the designer to take back his work as I just don't think I can sew it in the time frame he wants. I am already in bed. I put dgs2 down after his bath, and then DS is dealing with dgs1.
I will probably be asleep very soon after them. I will just sort my messages and write up my journal and I am planning lights out for this Granny.

pollyanna_26

Savvy_sewing wrote: »

To be honest I didn't realise that I was going to be so ill, and for so long
I consider myself well and truly told off.
DS is going when it is possible.
If he slips backwards then he will be out.
I have made mistakes, but non were intentional to cause issues.

I never said I was perfect.
In fact by reading the comments I feel absolutely terrible and useless.
Thanks

PS Good to see you've been in touch with the designer. He always seemed to want everything in a tight time frame and as cheap as possible..



I don't think anyone myself included were well and truly telling you off, it certainly wasn't my intention.


Of course you weren't to know how long you would be ill but it became obvious you weren't up to looking after the children over a number of days. You became upset while trying to get ds to pull himself together. Him stepping up on Thursday was too late. There had been too much upset and chaos already. The time to call in backup was when you realised you were still ill and needed proper support.


It may come across as being critical of you when I and others post but can you not understand we worry about your wellbeing and that of the children you signed legal documents to care for and protect including dgd? None of us are Superwoman or Man not even you.


I would say almost everyone who posts here wants to see you able to get on with your life with dgd and the little ones with some joy and fun among the daily routine. For that to happen you need to stick to very strong guidelines where your son is concerned rather than let things drift once more as usually happens.


Wishing you sleep tonight
pollyx

pollyanna_26

Slightly bemused at my edit at the bottom of my previous post appearing at the top. I bet I couldn't do that twice.


Sleep well all.
pollyx

Savvy_sewing

Well I wrote my diary, journal and filled out my planner and looked at the latest sewing magazine before turning out the light.
DS went out but was back just as I turned out the light around 9, which surprised me.
Dgs2 was awake at 4.55 I tried to get him to go back to sleep, but once he had drunk his milk he was up.
I have used the time to sort through a random bag of stuff that made its way back into my bedroom, and hang up some clothes etc while he watched Paw Patrol.
Dgs1 just woke now, and it's now time to make sure they don't argue.
I will take the day slowly.
In my mind this is the month for implementing new rules, strategies and my life work pattern.
Relying less on DS as the time goes by, and encouraging him to go build his own life, while still having contact with the children, with the right restrictions, like no Xbox around them.

hb2

Ss, I'm glad you can see your way forward again. It seems that your plans are always put in place, and then something comes along to upset them so I really hope that you will get a period of stability so that everyone can settle down.

Savvy_sewing

School run went splendidly.
Sewing on target.
Customers collected when they said they would which helps.
I managed an hour and a half sleep.
I took Dgd to the library. Did the dinners etc. Bathed the boys, and sorted out two bags of clothes for the charity shop.
Time for bed.

Savvy_sewing

Good morning,
A slightly better start, 6.15 before dgs2 was ready for the world. Although he still woke at 11.30 and 4..15 I think it was.
I had some very weird dreams that were very jumbled up.
Both boys are now here in my room after playing nicely for about 30 minutes.
I have my cup of tea, Curtesy of my teasmade. Best present I think I ever had.
I have a few minutes to sort my planner for the day ahead and then we will go down for breakfast.
I need to do an Aldi Shop as we're making some very random meals for us adults at the moment.
It is babysitting Biggest's for two hours this afternoon.
I will have another chat to her about finding another babysitter so I get some respite from children when I can.

pollyanna_26

Reading your last two posts you sound much more positive Ss. I hope the talk with Biggest was successful . Respite time is a priority to keep you doing what you have to and having some you time with friends.
pollyx

Savvy_sewing

pollyanna_26 wrote: »

Reading your last two posts you sound much more positive Ss. I hope the talk with Biggest was successful . Respite time is a priority to keep you doing what you have to and having some you time with friends.
pollyx

Didn't get to talk to her because she was having a meltdown over something her hubby was going on about. It just would have added to her stress.
I did take Mum out, and went from hers to Biggest, so I had a cuppa before she got back with the kids.
DS collected and fed ours for me, and when I got back from babysitting I went out to the pub with my friend and we had a drink and a pudding, neither of us wanted a big meal.
It was a good evening.