New neighbours don't get the etiquette

Norman_Castle

Did the previous occupiers struggle to get off this drive?

J_B

mollycat wrote: »

Am I the only person that is really, really glad they don't live anywhere near the OP?
Sounds like an entitled clique that can't handle not getting what they want.
"Unwritten rule"... Jeesus

I agree - fancy trying to have an amicable agreement and get on well with all your neighbours - disgraceful!

Alanp wrote: »

Disputes with neighbours over anything can quickly escalate to a point where it can even turn violent, or go down the legal route costing thousands, it’s always best to find an amicable solution that pleases both parties, I’ve had my share of parking issues over the years, all resolved now, ( hopefully) as I used to have a van for work, and had to park outside, recently changed jobs and now have to use my car, and, as long as my driveway is clear, they can fight over parking all they want, always try to resolve disputes with neighbours, not always easy I know.

I concur

bigadaj

AdrianC wrote: »

Like I say... So don't buy unless the parking provision is adequate for your needs.

Buying then whinging is pointless.

Nice selective quoting.

AdrianC

bigadaj wrote: »

Nice selective quoting.

Because it was the only bit relevant.

It doesn't really matter why the development does or does not have sufficient parking for your requirements.

Just... don't buy on it if it doesn't.

Arklight

If it were me, I'd just move.

warby68

mollycat wrote: »

Am I the only person that is really, really glad they don't live anywhere near the OP?

Sounds like an entitled clique that can't handle not getting what they want.

"Unwritten rule"... Jeesus

OP might have got a bit defensive here and not expressed things very well.

Neighbours finding a way to rub along together happens all the time though.

If there genuinely isn't any obstruction then it IS the new neighbour who is being un-neighbourly. There is a heck of a difference between what's legal and what's neighbourly.

Best bet is to stay friendly, keep chatting and give it a bit longer. New neighbour might see that her neighbours using that road space is actually the lesser of the evils. OR she might not, in which case its probably tough unless you want a war.

eamon

Reminds me of a similar issue that I experienced last year while visiting friends. I had no sooner stopped my car outside a random house when the occupant dashed out and told me that I couldn't park there. (perfectly normal modernish UK suburban estate with most houses having multiple cars). I couldn't be bothered arguing, so just moved.

According to my friends she hadn't lived there long and had managed to annoy everybody by insisting incorrectly that nobody except her had the right to park legally on the public highway in front of her house. The police had been called on occasion and had no effect in correcting her mistake.
I would seem that some people get extremely precious re car parking.

I imagine I will have the same issue on my next visit.

Mr_Singleton

Barny1979 wrote: »

Whereas stuck in endless queues of traffic does make the car enjoyable for certain journeys that could be done in other ways?

It really really hacks me off when people seem to suggest that public transport is the answer to people sitting in traffic jams. Would it not be better to wonder WHY people would rather sit in a traffic jam rather than use public transport?? London's public transport is regularly found to be some of the most expensive on the planet. Also TFL has attributed at least in part the fall in passenger numbers to high cost and the grimness of commuting. A husband & wife commuting from zone 6 to the City would pay nearly £500 a month.

It's not just London either. In July we went to a wedding in the West country about 150 miles outside London. Cheapest train ticket was £85/person with a large number of restrictions. Once all public transport and inconvenience at the wedding town was factored in the total Public Transport cost would have been around £200 for 2. The 350bph 'tank' of a car that we went down in and used to get around in probably cost around £60.

And that is why people put up with the odd amount of sitting in a traffic jam.

AdrianC

Mr_Singleton wrote: »

It really really hacks me off when people seem to suggest that public transport is the answer to people sitting in traffic jams.

But it is. Simple fact.

Would it not be better to wonder WHY people would rather sit in a traffic jam rather than use public transport??

Because many of them are selfish, anti-social and/or simply think public transport is beneath them
They aren't looking at the rational tangible reasons. They're looking at the intangibles.

London's public transport is regularly found to be some of the most expensive on the planet.

Perhaps. But it's still a lot cheaper and easier than trying to drive and park in central London.

A husband & wife commuting from zone 6 to the City would pay nearly £500 a month.

Between them, yep. Now how much would they be paying in congestion charge, fuel, parking cost...?
How long would the train take?
How long would driving in take?

And that is why people put up with the odd amount of sitting in a traffic jam.

Daily commuting into the city is not "the odd amount of sitting in a traffic jam".

Barny1979

Mr_Singleton wrote: »

It really really hacks me off when people seem to suggest that public transport is the answer to people sitting in traffic jams. Would it not be better to wonder WHY people would rather sit in a traffic jam rather than use public transport?? London's public transport is regularly found to be some of the most expensive on the planet. Also TFL has attributed at least in part the fall in passenger numbers to high cost and the grimness of commuting. A husband & wife commuting from zone 6 to the City would pay nearly £500 a month.

It's not just London either. In July we went to a wedding in the West country about 150 miles outside London. Cheapest train ticket was £85/person with a large number of restrictions. Once all public transport and inconvenience at the wedding town was factored in the total Public Transport cost would have been around £200 for 2. The 350bph 'tank' of a car that we went down in and used to get around in probably cost around £60.

And that is why people put up with the odd amount of sitting in a traffic jam.

If you note, I stated certain journeys, not all.