Dealing with Debt and Depression.

firepoppy

Skintas thanks for the advice. I think counselling can be really beneficial if you can find someone you trust. Why not give it a go and see how you get on with the counseller?

I went to see someone when I was in my late teens. She was specifically for young people and she was great. I wish I could've gone back to see her this time but I'm too old for her now.

I saw someone at my previous doctor's surgery a handful of times in the past year but I never really felt very comfortable with her. Also, it's not that far away but it would require getting 2 buses and it's a lot when you can't be bothered to do anything.

I need to make an appointment to see my new doctor but i'm scared because I didn't even cancel my appointment, I just didn't turn up. I registered at the new surgery and was given an appointment a few days later which I didn't keep. I'm going to go back on Monday to make another appointment. I hope they're not nasty with me. My boyfriend says he will go with me for moral support but if he feels yucky on Monday it might be hard to convince him.

judderman62

skintas wrote: »

@fire poppy same here i suffer depression currnetly on antidepressants i have a social worker. she keeps getting on at me, to go to counselling, i think that somethings i cant talk about. even thou its all confidential i think its cos i feel ive always been let down in the past. ive told people secret things they have alsywa betrayed me....... my social worker cant figure out why i suffer from depression i dont feel i can tell her. most of my family know what made ot worse just feel i cant tell my social worker, i dont wanna be judged. good luck everyone.its a daily battle x x

Skintas - a counsellor would not do that.

I have seen several counsellors and two in particular were brilliant as firepoppy hints at finding one that is a good fit is as important as the type of counselling they do (most do person centred or variations thereof) you have to get the right relationship and you will know when one is right and it can be immeasurably beneficial.

Why not give it a try - have a visit or two and if you don't feel it's for you you can always stop going.

The 1st session tends to be "housekeeping" stuff anyway - like letting you know what counselling is and isn't, setting boundaries, exploring what you hope to get from it and near the end they will ask you if you wish to go ahead and you can always change your mind at this point.

I have also done , a long, long time ago, a basic counselling course - absolutely loved it :j:j

Anyhoo if ya need to talk feel free to drop me a PM

Let us know if you decide to give the counsellor route a whirl :grouphug:

Keeping_Positive

Hi Skintas and Firepoppy

Ditto that councelling is a good idea. It really does help having someone listen that wont judge.

Sassamac

hi guys and girls, I would like to join you. Well I wouldn't like to join you because no-one wants to be stressed / depressed, but YGWIM, I think a little support group would be helpful.

I havent really read this thread but have seen it pop up to the top of the forum many a time and figured I should bite the bullet and contribute. So will try and read it in its entirety this w/e and offer my own support and advice.

Keeping_Positive

Welcome Sassamac

I hope you find this thread helpful and I look forward to seeing what thoughts you have.

firepoppy

Hello everyone. I made an appointment to see my new doctor and I didn't get in touble for not going the first time. My new appointment is on Thurs 28th.

Keeping_Positive

Thats excellent news. Please let us know how it goes.

Dinah93

Hey guys, hows everyone doing?

Hit a bit of a low point last night, lay in the bath for 6 hours as I couldn't make myself get out even when it was stone cold, and then I bawled like a baby until I fell asleep. Reason for this is my OH is going away for 10 days as he has been offered a decorating job up in Northumberland, and he wants to visit his mother and his idiot cousin who is in hospital after he took ketamine, speed, alcohol, cannabis and lsd all on the same evening! We've never been apart for that long since we met nearly 3 years ago, in fact we moved in together after only 5 days! Doesn't help that my best friend is off work ill, and my mum and dad, who i usually see a couple of nights a week, are on holiday. Doing a bit better today, in that I haven't broken down yet, although I have noticed I'm getting a bit obsessive about food again, which I do when I don't feel I can control anything else.

Went to the doctors this afternoon to get new blood pressure meds, according to the box these ones don't have the side effect of mood swings or depression, but I have to go back in two weeks to find out if they have shut my kidneys down :eek:, apparently this is a common side affect. How are these approved for use?! I wanted to talk to the doctor about how I'm feeling, but sadly she didn't really speak English, and after the charade like descriptions of which relatives also had high blood pressure and when they were diagnosed, I'd run out of energy to keep going.

Best wishes all, D x

Sassamac

crikey Dinah, sounds like you've really hit a rough patch. So were the old blood pressure meds causing / contributing to your depression?
I go through phases of finding it tough when DH is away for a w/e or even just at work, days where I want him to accompany me to Tescos, into town, anywhere and everywhere because I dont want to be alone and / or alone with the kids. I find the best cure for this is to be thrown in at the deep end where you have no choice but to be independant. Take the opportunity to prove to yourself than you can cope without him for a few days. Have you got any other friends you can call / see so your not lonely?

Sassamac

firepoppy wrote: »

Hello everyone. I made an appointment to see my new doctor and I didn't get in touble for not going the first time. My new appointment is on Thurs 28th.

start psyching yourself up for it and make sure you're mentally prepared to go, envisage yourself walking there, booking in, what youre going to say etc. I find its much harder to talk myself out of doing soemthing if I have already talked myself into doing it by using this method.
Saying that I couldnt even make my appointment myself, it took someone else to do it for me. I think I might have bottled out had it not been for the embarassment of letting people down by not going.