Dealing with Debt and Depression.

Keeping_Positive

Lots of ((((hugs)))), you are doing great and not losing your mind. At least writing out on here should help.

Lucy1982_2

Your not losing your mind. One of my ex's was in the army and I went through this every time he went away. I think you are having a normal reaction, but because you are feeling low, everything is highened and you think you are looking into it to much. Great cleaning by the way!! Can you come over and do mine?

I hope you are feeling better this morning, have you spoken to him about how you feeling? If he's been down himself recently he might understand.

Big hugs and you will be ok.

Right update for me. I have had 2 more interviews and will hopefully hear back about it this week. I still hate work with a passion and when I saw occupational health she agreed that I wasn't being challenged enough and she wouldn't be surprised if I left. So that's that really. I still feeling ok about ending my relationship, I've spoken to him a couple of times so we are still in contact, but there is no going back. I managed to lose 2 lbs this week although I have no idea how and it's still a week until my blood test results come back and I find out if I have a thyroid problem. My wrist is still playing up so dependant on the blood test results I might cave in and have the surgery, a bit drastic but everyone I've found who's had it done has said it's great. So I think I will get it done, but I don't know if medication for a problem thyroid would help so I need to speak to my Dr really.

So that's about it really.

Not much but I am feeling a little better generally, I'm just hoping that it lasts.

Keeping_Positive

Fingers crossed for the interviews Lucy. I was turned down quite a few times before I my current job and Im glad because it is the best one of the lot.

Dinah93

Fingers crossed from me too Lucy, a good job can make all the difference, I mean most of your waking hours are spent there so it's bound to have a significant impact on your mental wellbeing!

Tried speaking to him before he went away, but he said he had to see his cousin, which I understand, and he did promise to call or text everyday, which very loosely he's lived up to, but it's been a phone call at midnight, or a 2 min phone call from somewhere where he can't really talk, and I don't even know when he's coming back. I'm seriously considering just breaking up so I can stop worrying all the time and feeling resentful.

The cleaning is crazy, it didn't even NEED doing, I'm pretty obsessive about it at the best of times, and now I have bags of stuff all over the middle floor and I woke up on the sofa this morning with hot and cold sweats and sickness, I think I've made myself ill . I'm also gutted that I've knackered the dhoover and I've lost the will to do anything than go get tissues or juice today, but I started this whole process just to find a letter from my uni last year that I can submit to the council tax whichshould get me about £80 off the last bill, which I really need, and I still haven't tackled that process really. :mad:

Dinah93

Urgh, flu thing is getting rapidly worse, just went to the corner shop for some lucozade and all the bright lights made my head spin and I think I must have fainted or something as some poor shop attendant girl was asking me if i was okay and i was sat on the floor next thing I remember. Staggered outside and was promptly sick. Tried calling my OH and his phone has no signal so I'm feeling really down in the dumps and crying into my lucozade (that I can't remember paying for :huh:)

Keeping_Positive

Dinah I think you need to had a good rest sounds like a nasty bug or something. Lots of ((((hugs)))) to help.

Lucy1982_2

Dinah.

I would try and book a drs appointment, that sounds really nasty! Take care of yourself and remember that you are very important and need looking after.

Hope your feeling better

x

1canshortofasixpack

"With the help of other people (mostly the staff and other mums at my toddler groups) I sought professional help for both the debt and the depression. It actually involved people booking the appointments for me, and without that I dont know where I would be now."

Hi
Have been milling about, so will give a brief history. I was on pills for depression about a a year ago, the depression, i think was brought about by my debt. I thought i was getting out of it, but just this week ha been really low.Same feelings i remember being over emotional, knots in stomach, short temper no patience and lots more. My last visit to gp did'nt go well when i explained that i thought it could be related to a particular cause that i read an article about, he responded with " thats a load of b****cks. It has sort of put me off going to see him. after i finished the pills i was booked to see a counsellor i had one session then she canceled due to ilness, and iv'e heard nothing since. Now i'm waffling on.

The point is am i falling back into despair, i ddon't like to offload on my wife because then it makes her feel down, then i havn't even touched on having teenage daughters who i am trying my hardest not to look like i am failing them as well.
Re the quote at the start from sassamac what help did you get.

Thanks for hearing me out

Keeping_Positive

Please find a bit of strength to perserve with the doctors and counciling. Please chase them up for another appointment. I know it can be very hard when your down. Did the pills help? Why did they stop? Im thinking of starting again because I seem to having mood swings.

Feel free to offload here, I dont like talking to my OH he does care but to be honest is not much help and sometimes just makes things worse.

Lots of ((((hugs)))).

1canshortofasixpack

Thanks for your support

I think the pills worked, i just could'nt cope with the side effects memory loss mainly it did not help when trying to run a business as well. I was on them for 2 years so i gave it a go, it was the gp who said he did'nt think they were working
, and the underlying problem had not changed (still has not changed). I have actually been off them for about a year, they were called citalopram as i remember.
I really feel it is time to call it it a day, as i type this it makes me realise how long it has been carrying on.