Dealing with Debt and Depression.

Keeping_Positive

Hi

Depression comes and goes but is always in the back ground. I have been ok for about two years but have just been to the doctors today and have been perscribed Citalopram as well. It was what I was on before and I think it will help. I dont care what the studies say and to be honest even if I ever find they are placebos I dont think I would care. If I have to trick my darn brain into working then I will. Alot of it is the will to fight and not let it beat you. Sometimes I need a bit of help.

Did the memory loss come with the pills? I never noticed because my memory is so bad when Im not well. Its one of the things that upsets me when I m trying to work. One day Im fine the next I cant concentrate on anything. I just found something helped the last time I sought treatment. I felt stronger,had more energy and will to fight.

Im worried by what you mean by call it a day. Please fight it.

1canshortofasixpack

Hi
Sorry, when i said call it a day i meant being self employed. I nearly did the other 4 years ago, i realised my family didn't need to suffer any more than they were that was when i went to see the gp, although the thought wanders in and out i know i wont go there because i am going to beat this thing that is stealing parts of my life away from me. My depression was fuelled by the financial crisis that i got in after buying a business that subsequentially was not what it claimed to be. I keep thinking that workflow will increase and it does in small increments but then it drops again, i suppose i should draw a line and then go and get a proper job. My problem is my work is either famine or feast when it comes in i find myself really busy then it will go to the other extreme.
With regard to citalopram the 2 things that i really noticed were the very vivid dreams that i had and the memory loss, although the memory did get better. The stress probably contributed to that anyway. They did relieve the anxiety and stopped the emotional peaks, i used to find myself crying at the slightest thing not great when you are out with the lads.
I wish you well, i think tricking the brain is all part of it so i hope it goes well and keep thinking positive. It is so easy to say but sometimes so hard to do.

Dinah93

Hey all, just been catching up. Been in bed for a few days feeling poorly and generally sorry for myself. But feeling a bit better now, have stopped being sick at least. My OH got a new job, making pizzas, so lots of free food, very MSE, but very bad for the waistline. That said he doesn't finish till between 12 and 2 on a night, so i dont want to eat at that time anyway.

Today wasn't a good day, a lady turned up at our door and said she had been looking through our window and she thought our cat was her cat she lost 8 months ago. Long story short, i'm scared I'll loose her and she's my only company most of the time, and sad as it is I just like having her around. I've taken care of her for months, she wasn't chipped, we put up posters all over the village, she didnt have ID tags on, and now I have to give her back to a woman with no proof she owns her? I'm really upset over this and I posted on the pets forum and people bit my head off saying i took another womans pet, and this was never my cat, well i thought she was a stray, and I did my best to find an owner, but I don't even dare go back to the pets forum as i am persona non grata over there, and some of their coments had me crying in the disabled loo at work for half an hour at lunchtime, I never wanted to hurt this lady, but she lost her at 3 months old, apparently she kept running away after the lady got another kitten, so can't i just get her another kitten?! This one has lived most of its life here, I tried to find her owner, but I love her now, and I can't bear the thought of giving her up, but now I feel like I did a terrible thing when all I was trying to do was help a stray. I just want to run away.

Sassamac

aw Dinah, sounds like you did all ou could at the time to find the cats owners. I guess if she can prove the cat is hers, the honourable thing would be to giver her back, if you think she's pulling a fast one then dont let her go. Could you get a kitten or rehome a cat, not as a replacement, but just as another cat for company.

Lucy I hope your work / interview situation is improving.

1can, basically the childrens centre booked me an appt with the GP andrefered me to an organisation that offered debt advice. That in itself wasnt ideal help, as the woman who came out to see us, generally advises bankruptcy, but that wasnt right for us so she passed us on to the CAB. tHEN THE cab SENT OUT A DEBT ADVISOR TO SEE IF WE COULD REDUCE IT. ALso I asked the childrens centre if I could have an appt with the careers advisor, who helped me with my c.v. and advice about going back to work, nd also an appt with the tax credits advisor to check we were getting what we were entitled to. We werent and this has proved cruicial to upping our income and helping my depression. It was easier for me though as my youngest was 16 months, I regulalry attend the toddler groups so the staff knew me and knew something was wrong, and I was well within the zone of PND being likely (its not PND its just D, but these people are trained to recognise the signs).
My dr was useless but luckily I have this other support network. Im on the mend alrady and Ive really only just started the debt free depression free jpourney

Keeping_Positive

Hi guys computer restarted itself earlier so I missed your posts.

Dinah ignore the others on the pets thread, you know you didnt steal the cat and you have done the best for her. I did the same in rehoming a "stray" and could easily have lost the cat when the owner turned up. Wait until your sure she is the owner before you do anything and please post here if you want someone to talk too.

Sassamac glad you are feeling better, from your thread you so seem to have lots of motivation which is great. I feeling better this week so hope that will last.

Lucy where are you? Hope things are going so well you dont have time to post!

1can short have you made a decision yet? Are you feeling any better?

((((hugs)))) for all.

Nomad25

Dinah - re-visit the pets forum, there's still a lot of support for you over there.

skint_spice

Lucy, are you ok? hope all is well with you but if you feel down we're all here for you.

flower7

Dinah I read the other thread - its your cat you have made a home for it. If the other woman comes back for the cat - lie say you bought the cat and don't know whats she's taking about (I wouldn't usually encourage lying but circumstances) no one can take your cat from you. After all possession is nine tenths of the law. Keep your cat and chin up!

esthomizzy

Hello people I lurk on here sometimes and from time to time feel pretty rubbish myself. A few weeks ago a friend said something which seemed to help me so I thought I'd mention it on here in case it helps anyone else. She said when you feel bad and lonely and or depressed just sit and admit it to yourself. It's not a bad thing. So now when I feel bad I say to myself I'm feeling quite low right now but that's ok, I recognise that fact and maybe tomorrow will be better. Then I go and do something to stop me thinking too much.

MrsE_2

Dinah93 wrote: »

I'm really upset over this and I posted on the pets forum and people bit my head off saying i took another womans pet, and this was never my cat, well i thought she was a stray, and I did my best to find an owner, but I don't even dare go back to the pets forum as i am persona non grata over there, and some of their coments had me crying in the disabled loo at work for half an hour at lunchtime,.

Try not to let it upset you Dinah.
I too was made cry by a savaging on MSE the other night. I pleaded with them to stop & still had comments after, at least they have locked the thread for you.
Personally I'm not going back to "the arms" as those three boards seem to attract people who want to vent on other people, I though it was about debating & helping
My crime was a missing comma in my post, it would be funny if it wasn't so nasty.
So yes, you can get torn to bits for anything in there, thats the problem, it got moved to "the arms" from the pets boards.
My advice, stay away from there.
I know its crazy to cry about an internet forum, but try not to feel too bad, I did it too. If its any comfort to you, I feel a bit less silly knowing its not just me.
Take care
x