Dealing with Debt and Depression.

jammiejen

Thank you both for your kind comments, it took a lot last time for me to go in and see the doc in the first place and I'm scared to go again, which makes me feel even more stupid, how can I be scared to go to the doctors for Gods sake!

Girl About Town you seem to enjoy rambling as much as I do! Reading back on this thread they are a friendly bunch and someone with a bit more experience will be along to give you more advise than I can, so for now I'm sending you a virtual hug (((hugs))) (although the part about doctors living in this century made me laugh so thank you for that!)
Jen
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Keeping_Positive

Girl about town

I know exactly how you feel about crying over things so easily and half the time for no real reason! (I actually worried myself a few weeks back because I wasnt crying as usual not normal for me!) I doubt myself so often and think everyone is soo confident and happy.

Ive learnt to believe that everyone isnt always happy and confident its just that they can hide it better than some. Most people are really nice but there are of course a few B****s out there that just need avoiding or ignoring, which you have figured out.

I go through periods thinking Im fine then just want to cry and give up. I usually handle it better now and it passes but if it lasts too long then I will go back to the doctor.

Learn to read the signs and how best to look after yourself. Im still learning but its getting better. I may feel annoyed that I am lazy and should do more but if I push myself too hard then the crying etc takes over and I explode so its not worth if.

Im rambling now so better stop.

gilligansyle

In an earlier post I mentioned my boss, and how I didn't have the guts to face him. Well I failed again! Had a meeting with him in which he said some very hurtful things and I just sat there and let him. Well to be honest, after a while I just switched off and didn't really engage in the meeting. The upshot was, that the way in which I do my job is changing, to a way that doesn't suit me and its a case of change or ship out, or at least that was implied. Couldn't face the rest of the team, so went and sat in my car and cried.

Why can't I just tell him, I am good at my job and if you don't like they way I do it, thats your problem not mine. I get the job done.

I love the work I do, its the environment I struggle with. So, its job hunting for me. So stressful. So I went to the snack box and got chocolate again!

If I didn't have debts, I would just walk away....

judderman62

Hi all :hello:

Sorry to see so much unhappiness in this thread

As a result of reading all this can I just make a recommendation for a very, very good book on depression which helped me tremendously when I was at the very lowest of the low of my depression - it is:

Climbing out of Depression by Sue Atkinson

It truly is superb and I have recommended it to many people - a few on here and many on a site I set up and co-admin and all there have reported back that they have found it very useful indeed,

It is easy to read, is very gentle with you and gives you lots of coping strategies. The writer, as she herself says, is no expert - just someone who has been through it and wants to share some of her coping strategies. She takes a wonderful approach even saying if something in the book doesn't grab you to leave it and just take what you want from the book.

I really can't praise it too highly.

I hope some of you will check it out, why not try your library then you can check it out without spending a penny, and if you do that you find it as helpful as I did.

If you do let me know what you think/thought.

Hugs to all those that need them :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

Judderblokey

xxx

Keeping_Positive

Gilligansyle what a nightmare. Remember that the boss is the pr*t and youre too good for him. Do want you need to at work and keep looking for something else. For now just see the job as a means to an end and its not worth stressing over. If he wants something done in a different way even if its not as productive then do it his way knowing you know better! A better job will come along.

Thanks for the recommendation Judderman62.

judderman62

You're very welcome Wendy and all

girl-about-town_2

Thanks for the recommendation Judderman, as soon as I have some money that will be my first purchase!

And thanks to Wendy24g and JammieJen. JammieJen - the bit about being scared to go back to the doctors - I've moved house recently and haven't met my doctor - and now I'm scared to go in case they aren't as nice as my old one!! So silly I know!

Wendy24g - I really am going to have to start recognising the signs that I'm not coping - looking back over the last week or so, I keep having days where I intend to achieve lots and get to the end of the day and I really haven't achieved anything, though I'm completely exhausted. I think I'll give myself a week and if I'm not feeling any better than back to the doctor I will go!

I have to stop being scared of failure and worrying that people will mock me (trying to start a new business but freaking out too much to get that far!!) and just bite the bullet! Maybe I just need a kickstart!!

Not going to ramble as much as last time! Hope everyone is having a good day today

Keeping_Positive

Girl about town

If you have ticked one thing off your list to do or even if you sustituted it for another task then youve done something. I really have to take things one step at a time. Work takes alot out of me so I dont pressure myself too much with housework. Im lucky to have OH (stay at home dad) who does most of it but he seems to forget about the toilets! My aim is to do a few small tasks at the weekend such as wash up, bath kids, shop and one larger task but dont beat myself up ( well not too much!) if it dont get done.

If you dont feel any improvement then please be brave a see the Doctor. There is a small chance he/she will be a pr*t so just walk out and find another but Im sure they will be fine.

Good luck with your business idea, as above just take it easy and Im sure youll do great at it.

judderman62

girl-about-town wrote: »

Thanks for the recommendation Judderman, as soon as I have some money that will be my first purchase!

And thanks to Wendy24g and JammieJen. JammieJen - the bit about being scared to go back to the doctors - I've moved house recently and haven't met my doctor - and now I'm scared to go in case they aren't as nice as my old one!! So silly I know!

Wendy24g - I really am going to have to start recognising the signs that I'm not coping - looking back over the last week or so, I keep having days where I intend to achieve lots and get to the end of the day and I really haven't achieved anything, though I'm completely exhausted. I think I'll give myself a week and if I'm not feeling any better than back to the doctor I will go!


I have to stop being scared of failure and worrying that people will mock me (trying to start a new business but freaking out too much to get that far!!) and just bite the bullet! Maybe I just need a kickstart!!

Not going to ramble as much as last time! Hope everyone is having a good day today

You're welcome - if you have no money at mo why not see if your library has, or will get for you, a copy ?

I think you'll find a lot of good support here :T:T

Good luck and hope your life starts taking an upwards curve :D:T

jammiejen

Evening everyone,

Thanks for listening yesterday, I feel better for getting it off me chest so to speak. And I think your right I am going to make another appointment at the doctors, I had a look and its not available in my library but its on play at £5.17 I think so I may well get it from there,

I'm being taken out tonight by my OH so I'll be back to post properly later

Jen
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