Dealing with Debt and Depression.

Lucy1982_2

Hi Guys.

Sorry I've not been about much, but my boss has been questioning my performance so I feel like I am being watched all the time, so not risked the net.

However I had an interview on Thursday so should hear something back by the end of the week!! I agree that Bulleys can't be taken head on, I was bullied at school and in the work place and it's horrible, most recently I have just tried to rise above it. Eventually the person in question got bored and started ignoring me. Not ideal but better than nasty comments! Again she thought my depression was fake.

We will all get through this, although sometimes it takes to long! Ok I have to update my sig.... 5 lines I tell you!!!!!

gilligansyle

wendy24g wrote: »

Me Please! I love Dairy Milk

Virtual chunk on its way!

ZTD

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Hi Guys.

:hello:

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Sorry I've not been about much, but my boss has been questioning my performance so I feel like I am being watched all the time, so not risked the net.

It's not quantity, but quality.

Lucy1982 wrote: »

However I had an interview on Thursday so should hear something back by the end of the week!! I agree that Bulleys can't be taken head on, I was bullied at school and in the work place and it's horrible, most recently I have just tried to rise above it. Eventually the person in question got bored and started ignoring me. Not ideal but better than nasty comments! Again she thought my depression was fake.

What they say, and what they think are two different things. If she thought it was genuine, she wouldn't have said that, because that wouldn't have hurt.

Lucy1982 wrote: »

We will all get through this, although sometimes it takes to long! Ok I have to update my sig.... 5 lines I tell you!!!!!

Don't worry about it - that'll rumble on.

Sea78

Hey Lucy - well done of getting organised and sorted regarding a new job Missed you being around!

Sea xx

ps virtual chocolate? 0 calories? here please

Keeping_Positive

When Dairy Milk was mentioned I went to find my secret stash only to find my lovely and now grounded DD1 got there first Arrgh!

Lucy1982_2

hi!

Sea - I miss being here to, but I'm doing ok, not falling off the wagon (well a little but I needed new clothes!!) I am Ebaying and have just made 3 more sales.

Tried eating my own weight in Chocolate again, but it's still not working, I really need to get back into my diet.

WISHIWASRICH_2

Hi Lucy,

I've joined the Wight Loss 2008 challenge on the "I want to buy it or do it" board - they seem a very welcoming bunch . Cheaper than weight watchers:p

jammiejen

Hi Lucy and everyone,

Hope you are all ok, I've been reading through this thread for about 2 weeks now and I can really relate to some of the emotions and the feeling low you are all talking about, so I'm going to join in if no one minds,

Bit of info for you last year was crap! I switched jobs twice the second time taking a £2.5k pay cut, and meaning I only just have enough money to live each month, in Aug my Gran had a stroke which they later found was caused by a brain tumor, luckily they managed to remove it all, but it was a secondary and they can't find the primary. Then at the end of November my Dad died very suddenly in his sleep. I haven't been coping very well with things as it is so I went to see my GP who looked at me like I was a stupid little girl and said he would get a councellor to ring me to set up an appointment.... of course they never did. So now I'm trying to drag myself out of it, but I don't think I'm getting very far and I don't seem to be able to explain myself to people very well.

Sorry its a bit of a rambling post, I'll stick around for a bit if you'll have me

Jen
xx

Keeping_Positive

Hi Jammiejen

No wonder your down what a catalogue of bad luck :grouphug: . Go back and find a doctor at your practice that knows his job and can help. If not change practice. Sites like these help and a huge part of it is fighting it yourself but that doesnt mean you should do it all yourself. Antidepressants dont work for all but I do find when I am really low then a course for 6 months or so does lift my mood enough to help kick start things. Councelling is also really good so chase that up even if you dont feel you have the energy.

You will get through this and remember it is an illness that needs treatment just like a broken bone. Nothing worse than being told by or knowing someone is thinking "pull yourself together" :mad: .

Oh yeah, feel free to have a moan on here its a great way to get it out of your system and remember we are not alone with trying to fight this.

girl-about-town_2

Hi everyone, haven't posted on here before but having a really low day today so hopefully noone will mind if I join in?!!

JammieJen - if you don't mind me saying, if I were you I would be asking to see another doctor in the practice - unfortunately there are some who are not supportive and who don't seem to think depression is a real issue, but there are also plenty of others who are living in this century and have got a clue. With the difficult time you are having you need support from all angles, and a doctor can be a significant part in that. Please go back and see someone different, it could make a lot of difference to your well being.

In my own case I started suffering from anxiety during my last (and very stressful) year of uni. I had panic attacks etc, took loads of time off and eventually saw my doctor who referred my to a psychologist, prescribed me medication (which I never actually started taking) and lots of other helpful things. The majority of people at uni (lecturers and friends) were really helpful and concerned, whilst one or two actually took the line of - how can you get away with having time off and help etc etc, when they didn't actually have a clue!! Anyway I got through that period of anxiety and depression thankfully, and things weren't so bad.

Since then I've had a few little wobbles - usually regarding my career (or lack thereof!) and how I'm not the success I hoped I'd be by now. These are usually compounded when I meet up with old uni friends, most of whom are doing really well (and good for them) but some of them are real vile b*****s who make me feel dreadful. My answer has been to avoid meeting up with them - blame the expensive train fare etc!

Essentially, for the past 6 months or so everything has been fine, new job (which I've now realised I don't like cos its giving me terrible headaches!) new boyfriend (he's amazing), but for some reason today and yesterday have been black days! I've been so so frugal with trying to moneysave etc that I've stopped really spending anything on myself which I am ok with - being too good to myself was how I got in this mess! But today I went on a bit of a splurge (admittedly all I bought was a cauliflower, some bread flower and some expensive sausages from the farm shop!!) but I now feel like a failure. I just can't stop crying! (Not about the farm shop splurge!!!) But I don't know why I'm crying and the last time I remember being like this was when i was at my most depressed, so now I'm a little scared!! And I've just realised how long this post is so I'm stopping NOW!! Sorry for the rambling!!