Dealing with Debt and Depression.

Lucy1982_2

Aww Toto!

Huge hugs x I imagine that playing get's rid of some stress! Personally I like blending strawberries!!

What else could it be other than jet lag, has anything upset you? I know that the photo's of the house made you stop.

xx

Toto

I don't know what it could be other than being tired. To be honest I think my reaction to the photos was because I feel a bit low. I've def got that 'can't be @rsed' thing going on though. I haven't even called my best friend to say I'm home yet

The trip was pretty stressful, MIL does my head in and it really made me miss christmas with my family. My mum loved christmas and it was always a scream. I found myself resenting the MIL a bit for being so flippin anal and bringing the mood down. I just kept thinking she had no right to be miserable when she is alive and able to enjoy being with her family. My mum can't be here with us. Half the time I had to bite my tongue, I wanted to scream... stop bloody crying woman, you're alive, have fun!. I feel a lot better about all of that now I'm home though. And I've told hubby I'll go back for another christmas in 20 or so years he seems ok with that :rotfl:

I'm feeling fat and frumpy too, I've been on prozac for 8 months and in that time I've gained a stone and a half. That's totally doing my head in. I'm really watching what I eat but it isn't making much of a difference. I'm going to see the doctor again and ask if I can switch pills, my weight is ok at the moment but in another 18 months I don't want to be 3 stone overweight.

Blending strawberries mmmmmm, I might give that a go today :T

Lucy1982_2

I think it's the red juice flying all over the place, very satisfying!!

There is nothing worse than putting on weight through medication. Try having a chat to your Dr hopefully he will be able to help. Sounds like Christmas was interesting. I also spent it with OH's family and while it was still nice, it wasn't like being at home and didn't feel so christmasy.

Have you got anything to do that will help you relax? Maybe taking some Toto time will help make you feel a little better.

x

bathgatebuyer

I've been in it for 4 months and it's a new position so still a lot of people in the department who aren't too sure where I fit in which I think is the problem. Of the places I've worked, this is about the best in terms of people (my colleagues are really nice, as is my boss) and the terms and conditions are great. I suppose it's the career choice in general I have issues with rather than my present job!

Still, this year I'm going to win the lottery, so that'll be all my problems fixed!

Lucy1982_2

What do you do?

Is there any chance of having a career change and a fresh start? I'm sure you will settle in and everything will be fine. Just be yourself.

Keeping_Positive

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

I hate work when it's like that!!! I started a new job in September and no one's given me any feedback at all. I once didn't make it through a probationary period in another job where one of my colleagues (who was a complete t**t) who did a 'she goes or I go' to the boss when I was coming up to the end of my 3 months review. So, I wasn't kept on because of that git. (I got my own back though in ways I won't mention here). That effectively kick started my 6 months out of work and being chased by debt collectors, and on a personal level wondering whether I was good enough to do my job.

So, when it comes to work, I'm a bit of a nervous wreck. Anything relating to me, my abilities, performance or anything like that and I'm just a wreck. I shouldn't be as I'm 31 with 4 degrees (I know, daft eh?!) and more than capable, but my biggest problem is boredom. I guess that's part of the reason I always went on to further study as I never got enough stimulation / challenge / intereting work / whatever you call it from my day job. As much as I would love to be passionate about my job, I'm not really but it does pay the bills. If I have to continue studying (ha ha which i am in the middle of doing again!!!) to get whatever it is of a challenge I need to keep my interest levels and focus up, then I do.

Hi Bathgate buyer sorry I havent replied yet between babysitting and actually working this week I couldnt think what to write!

I think confidence or lack of is the problem. I always need to be reassured I am doing ok. I can bluff/hide it batter these days but it eats away leading to moodiness and low motivation . I think its too hard so I dont want to even start, I find once I do start that its not too back though.

My job requires confidence so I know I must keep trying and learning. I was sooo bored of my last job so I picked this for a challenge and now I keep thinking I have bitten off more than I can chew.

I think it may be confidence as well with you, with 4 degrees you obviously are bright and intelligent and like you say more than capable for your job but the set back will take time to get over just like that horrible OH that Lucy had.

Lucy - Sorry to hear about your rotten OH its amazing how set backs can affect you for years.

Lucy1982_2

I'm sort of ok about it now.

Still have wobbles, but I'll be fine.

Thanks x

Keeping_Positive

Toto wrote: »

Ooh guys I've got that black cloud again. I think it's just jet lag but I just want to bury myself as far from the human race as possible. I'm going to spend the day playing kit I think, that usually sends me off into a meditational type thing and the exercise won't hurt either.

How are you all doing?

That black cloud is horrible I would spend some time pampering and relaxing for now. They say exercise is good for the old seritonin (sp) levels!

ZTD

Toto wrote: »

Ooh guys I've got that black cloud again. I think it's just jet lag but I just want to bury myself as far from the human race as possible.

:grouphug:

Toto wrote: »

I'm going to spend the day playing kit I think, that usually sends me off into a meditational type thing and the exercise won't hurt either.

Just so long as you're careful of your tender bits. Hope that's coming around soon and you get all fixed up.

Get your kids to hug you when they can. You'll feel better focussing on the important things in life. Which MILs aren't.

Lucy1982_2

Awww Z that's lovely!

Hope your feeling a little less clouded today Toto. Did chilling out yesterday help at all?

xx