Moving forward and upwards

savingwannabe

Well done that you are so prepared and are able to give advice to sibling. The future is looking scary when we see the job market. Please let it all be ok. 

Skint_yet_Again

MovingForwards said:

Parent isn't getting younger, has been showing signs of dementia / Alzheimer's for years and sibling will end up homeless when the time comes. 

Can sibling maybe save enough to buy out your share of the family home when the time comes ? Or enough to get a mortgage to buy out your share ? Or are you thinking any inheritance may be swallowed up by care costs ?

MovingForwards

@Skint_yet_Again I'm thinking care costs would take the bulk of it. Even if they didn't and I gave my share, it wouldn't be enough for the great plans.
Sibling wouldn't want to buy me and other sibling out as wants to move to a rural location, acres of land, self-build and be fully self-sufficient. 
Wants doesn't match income / loan possibilities and there's no compromising; that was made very clear to me a few days ago. Age and money isn't on siblings side 🙄
I'm the youngest, that sibling the eldest and has talked about doing this for years. 

Family huh!

savingholmes

At least you have your own place now. Hope the bee sting has settled now. It's been stormy here again today.

Skint_yet_Again

Ah ok 😬 Reality will sink in at some point but I guess they don’t thank you for pointing it out before then. Have been accused of being negative by DS at times  when in truth just pointing out the reality of life 🙄

MovingForwards

Apologies for being quite on my diary for a few days, I've a lot going on in my head. Also been getting up just after 3am as it's quite light up here, even with blackout blinds everywhere.

That 'issue' raised its very ugly head again.  Must update my CV ready for when the world is calm again.

An old foot issue is back with a vengeance, I've managed to ignore / cope with it for years, but I can't put the pad or toes down when walking, which is going to end up screwing my ankle up and making other things worse, plus my knee is still causing issues. I could have an operation, but if it goes wrong, I won't ever walk on it again;  it's too much of a risk at my age.
There's not one part of me that doesn't have something wrong! 
OH picked my meds up and I'm going to register with the doctor this week. 

Managed to hobble to the garden after work and plant my spuds. I've got three sacks so hopefully I should get one spud out of them 😁
One runner bean is sprouting, all my salad items are too. Must buy a proper watering can as I'm using a small one designed for houseplants.

OH is taking me for a drive tomorrow to get me out for a bit.

We had duck and veg tonight.

savingholmes

Hope you manage to get things sorted with the doctor. Pip anyone?

Skint_yet_Again

Oh No MF I feel your foot pain 😫 can relate but I guess I am lucky hopefully mine will heal in time with no lasting problems. 

Can understand your dilemma about the op though. I had a similar outlook when they removed part of my thyroid. Thankfully the outcome for me was good & didn’t make things worse.

Hope things ease for you soon

MovingForwards

@savingholmes I do and it makes me smile each day and I often sit on the sofa, look around the lounge and grin 😁
Bee sting area is still visible and I shaved round it in case it didn't like a razor over it.
We keep having fog and most til at least lunchtime. I hope your storms pass soon as that's been going on a few days now hasn't it?

@Skint_yet_Again it is just being realistic, because I've spent a few years researching everything myself and passed on everything I learned. I've sent mortgage calculators etc so sibling can see for themselves what's viable.

ForestBluebells

MovingForwards said:

@Skint_yet_Again I'm thinking care costs would take the bulk of it. Even if they didn't and I gave my share, it wouldn't be enough for the great plans.
Sibling wouldn't want to buy me and other sibling out as wants to move to a rural location, acres of land, self-build and be fully self-sufficient. 
Wants doesn't match income / loan possibilities and there's no compromising; that was made very clear to me a few days ago. Age and money isn't on siblings side 🙄
I'm the youngest, that sibling the eldest and has talked about doing this for years. 

Family huh!

Ha! This sounds like my friends! All older than me and earn significantly less but expecting some kind of miracle property to come on the market that they can afford. I keep trying to say to compromise and be realistic on what you can afford in the area you are looking at but they don’t listen.