Sharing income when moving in together

zagfles

maman wrote: »

Some excellent points.

I had a woman who worked for me that always took time off when her children were unwell. Her DH never did. :mad: As well as feeling this was unfair to me as her employer it affected my opinion of her attitude to her job.

I want to be regarded against my male colleagues on merit not on gender. For me I don't consider domestic tasks as equal contribution to working outside the home. If a couple share a home they should share domestic tasks IMO. Obviously in the current circumstances there is still a long way to go over affordable childcare and pay equality but that doesn't mean we shouldn't aim for it and, in any event, taken over a working lifetime the needs of childcare are relatively short term.

The main cause of pay inequality is parenting inequality. There's virtually no gender pay gap amongst under 40's in full time employment. It's mainly that either women work part time, or have taken career breaks to look after children.

Gycraig

I might be biased, I lucked myself into a 30-35k a year job but with a bit of a commute, my partner does a job she enjoys round the corner but earns less,. However does a lot of housework.

Can't imagine splitting bills 50/50 and me having 10k or more a year extra to myself than she has. Would I buy nicer cars than her ? Nicer clothes ? Better holidays?.

What if I lose my job ? Is that a me problem ? If you are dating a life partner I don't understand why you wouldn't merge finances

Illbedamned

mark5 wrote: »

Im not saying all bills should be split 50/50 but it seems to take the incentive to work harder away if you have to give a proportion away.

Im of the opinion of if you want something you work for it but my girlfriend seems to think everything should be split 50/50 but I think thats easy to say when your working shorter hours in a less physical job.

My OH earns more than I do, but i'm also disabled and can only work part time so he doesn't resent me for it. When we live together we will share our money because to us we are a team and we share everything.