Aspergers/ASD support thread

shazrobo

i had the same when mine first started school, and also when they first started high school, have you tried getting in touch with parent plus, sometimes they liase with school. does your son have a statement?, if not then i would ask them about getting him one.

just made my sons an appointment with gp, i'm hoping he will support us getting a blue badge. as one of them has again just had a near miss with a car after running off

shazrobo

don't most classes at primary have a teaching assistant assistant anyway?
my sons schools did, and a teaching assistant used to take them into the staffroom, for some quiet time

Mandles

shazrobo wrote: »

don't most classes at primary have a teaching assistant assistant anyway?
my sons schools did, and a teaching assistant used to take them into the staffroom, for some quiet time

The class has 4 teaching assistants(going to be 5 when he gets his one) and it is a small class. Apparently it is a bad year. My DS has to have someone to watch him and him alone of he will run and escape. Glad i'm not alone. I have known mums in the past with autistic kids and had problems with schools. can they refuse him and if they do what next?

I so don't want him to go to a special school for kids like him if possible as i know he will get even worse.

I just told my OH and he just laughed and said what on earth were all discussions before hand about then?

Can they only have him for a couple of hours a day even if i disagree?

I will look up parent plus now. He does have a statement and funding for 1 to 1 has been given. They had better not be using his funding money elsewhere.

Indie_Kid

Mandles wrote: »

I have known mums in the past with autistic kids and had problems with schools. can they refuse him and if they do what next?

My brother was refused - this was before he was diagnosed and was constantly labeled a naughty child.

In the end, he did go to a special school. In year 6, they did move him to a mainstream primary school. He then went to a mainstream secondary school and lasted 3 weeks. (because he couldn't cope - not because they couldn't cope with him)

shazrobo

sh1305 wrote: »

My brother was refused - this was before he was diagnosed and was constantly labeled a naughty child.

In the end, he did go to a special school. In year 6, they did move him to a mainstream primary school. He then went to a mainstream secondary school and lasted 3 weeks. (because he couldn't cope - not because they couldn't cope with him)

one of my sons was excluded from primary because of his behaviour. both were excluded from secondary school after a week. the secondary school was brilliant, has a fab reputation, and did everything they could to help my kids, but my kids couldnt cope, it was way too big. and the secondary school staff, helped us get places at special schools for them. i didnt want mine to go to the schools they are at now, because i had heard bad things about the kids there. but i gave them a chance, and the two special schools they are at have done wonders, smaller classes, one son in class of 6, other son in class of 2, and they are doing really well, they manage my sons behaviour as the staff are specially trained, please dont rule out special schools, there are some good ones

Mandles

shazrobo wrote: »

one of my sons was excluded from primary because of his behaviour. both were excluded from secondary school after a week. the secondary school was brilliant, has a fab reputation, and did everything they could to help my kids, but my kids couldnt cope, it was way too big. and the secondary school staff, helped us get places at special schools for them. i didnt want mine to go to the schools they are at now, because i had heard bad things about the kids there. but i gave them a chance, and the two special schools they are at have done wonders, smaller classes, one son in class of 6, other son in class of 2, and they are doing really well, they manage my sons behaviour as the staff are specially trained, please dont rule out special schools, there are some good ones

The one with six children in the class sounds like the one they suggested to me. My problem is that i know he copies behaviour and he is hideous now, let alone if he picks up other new and awful behaviour from others like him. I am hoping that he picks up normal behaviour.

I also feel that he is very intelligent and has an amazing memory so i feel focused in the right direction he could do well in the end.

scrimpingbadger

Sorry to butt in. My boy is suspected of ASD with a speech and language disorder. I'd like him to start Beavers Scouts - what are other's experience of this?
There's also an option of Badgers too.
Any thoughts?
Thanks in advance.

Savvy_Sue

I suggest you contact the leaders for the group you're interested in, and see if they have any experience or what sort of response they give you.

And it may be a case of trying it to see if it 'works' or not.

Not quite the same, but we have two quite severely affected children at church, and both are included in kids' activities, along with everyone else.

loopyl_2

as an ex beaver scout leader i would say give it a go. At one point i had 3 boys with aspergers in the group some boys were diagnosed long after they had left us. Beaver groups are usually well organised and follow a regular routine. We worked really hard to make sure the programme was very structured and followed a set routine and avoided the activities we knew they would find hard.

blue_monkey_2

scrimpingbadger wrote: »

Sorry to butt in. My boy is suspected of ASD with a speech and language disorder. I'd like him to start Beavers Scouts - what are other's experience of this?
There's also an option of Badgers too.
Any thoughts?
Thanks in advance.

Hi SB, welcome to the thread, you are more than welcome to butt in whenever as we are all here for the same reason.

My DS has recently started going to Beavers. I spoke to them and to start he was allowed to turn up when he asked as the first time I took him he refused to stay. Then they said if he asks to come bring him and you can stay. Then he actually started and for the first 4 weeks I sat in with him (they never asked me to pay) but I was not allowed to help so I sat in the corner and played with my DS (hey, quiet time!!).

he started 3 weeks ago officially, the first time I sat outside the hal but I need not have bothered. He loves it and the leaders are very good with him and ask someone to help him. He counts sleeps now until Beavers.

It is really hard letting them go to the first thing they want to do but I would go and speak to them, ask if you can sit in with him because he needs to get used to it.

I have nothing but praise for the way they have treated my son but each pack differs so visit them and get a feel for the group and speak to the leaders. They are not allowed to discriminate and it has to be accessible to diabled children too.

Hope that he enjoys it.

Also to add, we have a programme of things that are going on so he knows what is coming each week too.