Aspergers/ASD support thread

seven-day-weekend

Thanks blue monkey for that. I must admit I felt a bit taken aback by the post. Aspergers, as we both have said, was NOT diagnosed when my son was small. He wasn't in a special school but he always had problems with school, despite being bright.

I too feel the Ed Psych who laughed at a self-diagnosis needs to be somewhat more sensitive - even if the person IS wrong (and we do not know that they were wrong in the case quoted).

All I know is that since we have come to know about AS it has been a weight off all our shoulders (son's included), as now we know WHY he has the difficulties he has. He ticks so many of the boxes (So do I, actually).

Thanks again for your support.

blue_monkey_2

Bloody hell.

Is there school, isn;t there school? It is driving my son up the wall. He has been an absolute nightmare. Took him for a walk yesterday and he said 'not walking, going home' and ran home. Thank god we live in a quiet area. Neighbour found him hiding in the hedge.

Today they were in school for 3 hours.

I love the snow but the lack of routine is driving my son nuts. My DD has a HUGE bite mark on her back because she trod on his toe today.

shazrobo

i can sympathise with you blue monkey, one son been into school monday and today, other son not been there all week. every day they are up early ringing school for news, and then taking there disappointment out on me. i'm quite bruised at the moment
hugs
shaz x

blue_monkey_2

Me too shaz, he has been very violent about anything minor and has been crying A LOT. I took some pics of DD bite mark as we have CDC on Weds!

shazrobo

hope you get the help or answers on wednesday

blue_monkey_2

shazrobo wrote: »

hope you get the help or answers on wednesday

Thanks shaz, not holding my breath though!!

Mandles

Wickedkitten wrote: »

The reason why I'm asking is because a couple of years ago my partner's mum decided after looking at the symptoms on google and reading a bunch of websites that he has Aspergers and started giving him information about it, books about it, telling all of her friends that he has it and since she's in Education herself, he started believing that he has it.

We have a friend that we have known for two years who is actually a clinical psychologist and was worked with people that have autistic spectrum disorders for over 10 years who actually started laughing at me when I first told her that until she realised that I was being serious.

Despite his mother swearing up and down for 4 years now that she knows he has it, once she was told that he in fact doesn't have it, she has done a complete volte-face and has never once apologised for what she did.

I'm not saying that you are doing the same thing, but definitely make sure it isn't confirmation bias that is leading you to believe that he does have it.

I have one child officially diagnosed and one not and the one not diagnosed definately has it too but was never a hellraiser so never got diagnosed and i did not know much about it then so never pushed it. It is too late for him now but he is aware .

I know 2 other people without a doubt who have it but have never been diagnosed.

It is often a real fight to officially get to the point of a diagnosis and often comes down to schools and money and the strain you are under often is unbelievable. So posts like yours tbh are pretty soul destroying as you are often made to feel like you as a parent are just exaggerating or making it up.

The person you spoke to that laughed is not qualified in that field so had no right to laugh and i find it appauling. A lot of adults can have it and the ones i know with it appear normal and often are very intelligent . As a mum i was told that my child was just "a real individual" by a qualified person so left it feeling stupid and like i was seeing things that were not there until his playgroup said he needs referring as they thought he was on the autistic spectrum , and he was the diagnosed. Mums often know best!

seven-day-weekend

Absolutely Mandles!

We went through enough when he was young knowing there was something wrong, without people thinking we are imagining it or making it up, or just being inadequate parents. Had enough of that!

The relief when we found out about AS was unbelievable.

blue_monkey_2

Evening everyone.

Does anyone know what to get or do to deal with clothes chewing? I am struggling and getting through 1-2 tops a DAY at the moment (was 3-4 a week).

Any ideas at all?

Js_Other_Half

blue_monkey wrote: »

Evening everyone.

Does anyone know what to get or do to deal with clothes chewing? I am struggling and getting through 1-2 tops a DAY at the moment (was 3-4 a week).

Any ideas at all?

Give him something else to chew?
http://www.fledglings.org.uk/pdf/09-10.pdf#zoom=100

(page 20 - chewy tubes)