Aspergers/ASD support thread

Sarahsaver

I know what you mean.
with my ds it is shampoo, bubble bath, toothpaste, mouthwash etc etc he likes to 'do experiments' and 'make potions' with them.

fallen_angel_69

Mine does all that all the time it's not experiments as such but i will buy a bottle of something and when i go to use it even if it couple hours later i find all the contents have been put down the loo or sink what ever to see what would happen and if what i did last time will happen again Like yours sarah saver it's always stuff out of the bathroom

with the make up thing i find mine and her sister's make up or even perfume disapears when you ask her it's i've not had it even though you can see her in it or smell it on her

blue_monkey_2

OMG Sarahsaver, please do not get me started on this - I thought it was just us. I was silly enough to leave the Santuary body lotion I got out as a present on the side of the bath..... and the half a bottle of Tresemme shampoo..... will I ever learn?? Now I get everything in the sales because I know it'll end up as a potion.

This gets to me more than anything else to be honest, that we cannot leave ANYTHING out like a normal family otherwise I go in and find an empty bottle or tube of something and it has been made into something. Everything has to be supervised, it feels like I have a 2 year old all the time. They went and got some of the craft things out the other day to do crafting, next thing it was 'mummy, she is making it' and she had put all the craft things into water and was stirring it round. So it had to go into the bin and you just think 'I paid for that'. It is such a waste of money. I feel like I should not bother buying anything.

And I've lost count of how many times the DS has been thrown after I have asked her to put it away. I have said that when it gets broken I'll not be getting a new one but she still throws it. I just wonder why she cannot take things like this in when she is a genuis with reading, maths, science, etc....

I do spend my days wondering just when I am going to have to start hiding the knives.

On the good side though, my son got 'Star of the Week' at school this week and DD performed a poem in front of the school.

shazrobo

blue_monkey wrote: »

OMG Sarahsaver, please do not get me started on this - I thought it was just us. I was silly enough to leave the Santuary body lotion I got out as a present on the side of the bath..... and the half a bottle of Tresemme shampoo..... will I ever learn?? Now I get everything in the sales because I know it'll end up as a potion.

This gets to me more than anything else to be honest, that we cannot leave ANYTHING out like a normal family otherwise I go in and find an empty bottle or tube of something and it has been made into something. Everything has to be supervised, it feels like I have a 2 year old all the time. They went and got some of the craft things out the other day to do crafting, next thing it was 'mummy, she is making it' and she had put all the craft things into water and was stirring it round. So it had to go into the bin and you just think 'I paid for that'. It is such a waste of money. I feel like I should not bother buying anything.

And I've lost count of how many times the DS has been thrown after I have asked her to put it away. I have said that when it gets broken I'll not be getting a new one but she still throws it. I just wonder why she cannot take things like this in when she is a genuis with reading, maths, science, etc....

I do spend my days wondering just when I am going to have to start hiding the knives.

On the good side though, my son got 'Star of the Week' at school this week and DD performed a poem in front of the school.

i'm not the only one with kids who makes potions, and carry out experiments in the bathroom. we have had all the usual, bubble bath, shower gel etc wasted, even expensive perfume. and since having 'the talk' at school, they arte facinated by tampons, and they are often soaked thru, then chucked around, the bathroom
we have no sharp knifes in the kitchen since the boys were 9 years old, its just not safe. they are in my bedroom which has had to have a padlock as things were starting to go missing from there too.

blue_monkey_2

Shaz you have given me so much hope for the future....

I went on the parenting course today. I do not think it was the right one for me - especially when was giving more advice than the woman who was supposed to be holding it.

I just told the others about routines and being firm etc.... I know I have Additional needs type problems with my children but I was honestly surprised that some people have no idea what to do with their children.

The woman hosting it told them that when the kids start having a tantrum to 'talk to them and find out how they are feeling'. I said 'no, you have to let them get it out of their systems somewhere safe and then you can speak to them about how they are feeling'. Oh yes, but every child is different..... Another 3 weeks to go!!

shazrobo

blue_monkey wrote: »

Shaz you have given me so much hope for the future....

I went on the parenting course today. I do not think it was the right one for me - especially when was giving more advice than the woman who was supposed to be holding it.

I just told the others about routines and being firm etc.... I know I have Additional needs type problems with my children but I was honestly surprised that some people have no idea what to do with their children.

The woman hosting it told them that when the kids start having a tantrum to 'talk to them and find out how they are feeling'. I said 'no, you have to let them get it out of their systems somewhere safe and then you can speak to them about how they are feeling'. Oh yes, but every child is different..... Another 3 weeks to go!!

been there done that re the parenting courses lol, agree with you that we know more about parenting our special children than so called proffessionals
hope for the future, lets see, it does get easier as they get older
the older they become, the more years experiance, and strategies you have in order to deal with situations as they arise.:o

blue_monkey_2

Yes, that is very true. I never thought I would be able to say this a year ago if I am honest. I got asked where I went for advice and I said 'internet forums as it helps to have others to turn to that are in the same situation'.

It was very odd though, you had to speak to your neighbour and then introduce them. Now I do not tend to take a great deal in like that (LOL, notice where my kids get it from) and I just eeked it out until last. I did feel sad for some people though as they clearly had other unresolved issues which did not help the problems they had.

Everyone was asked to describe a feeling they had this week, everyone said stuff like afriad, helpless, deflated, etc... and I was the only one who said proud and happy (because the the kids acheivements). I said I feel like the other bits a lot but I do not focus on those so much. Some days are worse than others but I can switch off from it unless I am having a particularly bad day. I do think that those on parenting course could learn a lot from those of us with kids with extra needs as we have to put so much more focus into our day. It really opened my eyes.

And Ryan started his gymnastics, he has been twice and today he was able to walk across the beam, backwards, without being held or supported. He absolutely loves going, DD cried as there was no space for her and she is too old for that group. We are going twice next week too so that will be ncie for them as well as both can go to this 'open' session. I found there was another special needs child in the group and his mum was one I met at my support group on Wednesday. Small world. My son fell over when getting over the chair and this lady straightaway said 'that's his spacial awareness then' and I never realised that this was why he tripped a lot.

shazrobo

wow ryan has good balance already at gymnastics. my two have never had much balance, they attend the riding for the disabled now, and that has helped them a little, hopefully this summer they should be able to ride there bikes without wobbling and falling over. they only learned to ride at 10 years of age, cried with happiness the first time they went a few yards unsupported.
its the positives that keep us going, i love it when school rings, and tell me if they have had good days, makes up for the times when days havent been so good.
on tues josh was assaulted in school, police involved, other lad arrested, and also excluded. josh had choice of coming home, but wanted to stay in school, 'his routine'. when the school rang that afternoon, i was worried he would have had a bad day, after the incident in the morning, but he handled it well, after getting over the initial shock, he behaved really well, and baked buns for the staff and the children
its good that you have a good support group in your area. we have one, but its on an evening, and as children are not allowed to attend, i dont go, as babysitters for special children are extremely rare

Mandles

blue_monkey wrote: »

Shaz you have given me so much hope for the future....

I went on the parenting course today. I do not think it was the right one for me - especially when was giving more advice than the woman who was supposed to be holding it.

I just told the others about routines and being firm etc.... I know I have Additional needs type problems with my children but I was honestly surprised that some people have no idea what to do with their children.

The woman hosting it told them that when the kids start having a tantrum to 'talk to them and find out how they are feeling'. I said 'no, you have to let them get it out of their systems somewhere safe and then you can speak to them about how they are feeling'. Oh yes, but every child is different..... Another 3 weeks to go!!

How strange. It this course for kids with Aspie as i know i am new to all this but i cannot reason with mine at all and was told by the Dr who diagnosed him that you cannot reason with Aspie kids, instead you just tell them how to behave in instruction form and this is how it works. Is this not true then?

Does not sound the course for you.Has your DD been diagnosed as she sounds like she should be aswell. Maybe get a nice corner cupboard in the loo and put a lock on it and get her those travel bottles full of products that she needs so that she can be left with them and if she does do some experimenting that she wont waste the lot.

Sarahsaver

a bit ot but i got loads of cheap hand soap in pump dispensers from boots as it was rtc to 49p
his 'potions' have in the past included bodily excretions :eek:
i get toothpaste 2 for £1 from the pound shop
one thing which does work as an antidote to al this is taking him into Lush - he just loves that shop, goes straight for the bowl of water to test the bath bombs.
Reminds me he is 9 in 2 wks must get him a bath bomb!
Sometimes i find his 'difference' to be hard to explain, i mean he is just my son to me but the asmount of people who think he is odd.
He was not writing joined up at school because no-one had told him to;)