Aspergers/ASD support thread

mandy.h_2

hi all

just back from another boring day at uni had 2 week of, day i go back ds has yet another migraine they r really bad at the minute am putting it down to stress due to last weeks sats, anyway had to find a minder for him at last minute while he repeatedly tells me he is 14 now and can be left alone( over my dead body) anyway my brother stepped in at last minute.

tommorrow start of dd gcse's god cant wait till summer all done with

ps.just opened mc cains oven chips for ds same make as usuall same bag only they have changed the colour what a nightmare this is when this happens he has now refused to eat the ever again

Sarahsaver

mandy.h wrote: »

hi all

ps.just opened mc cains oven chips for ds same make as usuall same bag only they have changed the colour what a nightmare this is when this happens he has now refused to eat the ever again

I have probs with cornflakes. or DID have. I got a large container from the pound shop and they go straight in there. spose you could do the same with chips.
My DS likes to cook so he cuts chips for me. important life skill LOL;)

SallyUK

Hello Folks

I wonder if someone could help me out here.

My son is 15, (will be 16 in October) and I feel he really needs to get out more. Let me explain. He goes to a school which is outwith the area in which we live and therefore he has no friends who live around our area who he can mix with.

I moved down to England from Scotland in 2004 and before we moved he was receiving lots of support from his school, and attended Physiotherapy sessions, Speech Therapy, and a variety of other help which went towards helping him build up his self esteem.

He's a bright boy, doing well at school which is just as well as he's not received much help at all really, since moving to this school where he is now.

However, I think because he seems to be doing well at school, they think that he doesn't need any support now, but he's so painfully shy and withdrawn in every other area of his life, that it's becoming a concern for me. I know his hormones won't be helping, but I'd really like to know what I can do to help him be less shy and more confident in day to day things.

For instance he won't leave the house at all if he's not at school, unless it's to go out with me!! He won't even go outside into the garden. The only thing he does at home is to spend time on his PC, or reading, or drawing, or listening to his music - he's obsessed with Beyonce! But he never hums, sings or dances or moves at all to the rhythm of the music. He's also obsessed at the moment with all the soap operas!

He never ever shows emotion unless of course it's anger and frustration. My partner is a joker and is always winding people up, but my son hates it (my partner doesn't do it to him because of this reason). If someone does try to slag my son off, he takes it very personally and he's got a really quick temper!

So please has anyone got any suggestions as to what I could to try and help him. He won't join any clubs or organisations, as he's too shy. I've tried and tried to suggest a variety of things, but so far I'm not having any luck.

Perhaps it doesn't help that we live just outside Huddersfield and there's not much on offer in this vicinity? I've tried contacting the local tennis club, but never had a reply. He joined a gym, but that closed down.

I'm really worried about him.

Thanks for any advice

Sal

shazrobo

hi sally, i have twin sons aged 13, and both are just like your son, especially joshua., they go to special schools, which are not in local area, so have no friends living nearby, and would rather be on pc or watching tv etc, and never go out without me, other than school, there is just so lttle for these kids in yorkshire at the moment. if i find anything suitable, i will let you know, i'm in wakefield
sorry i have no constructive advice to offer
shaz x

SallyUK

Thanks Shaz

I'll keep my fingers crossed that someone can advise is of anything that might be useful for them too.

Thanks for replying.

Sally
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Sarahsaver

try your local Red Cross for groups and playschemes;)

Js_Other_Half

Red Cross does not do one in Huddersfield area. However, do have a look at these links:

http://www.kirklees.gov.uk/community/education-learning/psychology.shtml

Sarahsaver

I found a lot of links on our local childcare information Service website.
i spent ages this morning making phonecalls and sending emails.
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something_girl

SallyUK wrote: »

Hello Folks

I wonder if someone could help me out here.

My son is 15, (will be 16 in October) and I feel he really needs to get out more. Let me explain. He goes to a school which is outwith the area in which we live and therefore he has no friends who live around our area who he can mix with.

I moved down to England from Scotland in 2004 and before we moved he was receiving lots of support from his school, and attended Physiotherapy sessions, Speech Therapy, and a variety of other help which went towards helping him build up his self esteem.

He's a bright boy, doing well at school which is just as well as he's not received much help at all really, since moving to this school where he is now.

However, I think because he seems to be doing well at school, they think that he doesn't need any support now, but he's so painfully shy and withdrawn in every other area of his life, that it's becoming a concern for me. I know his hormones won't be helping, but I'd really like to know what I can do to help him be less shy and more confident in day to day things.

For instance he won't leave the house at all if he's not at school, unless it's to go out with me!! He won't even go outside into the garden. The only thing he does at home is to spend time on his PC, or reading, or drawing, or listening to his music - he's obsessed with Beyonce! But he never hums, sings or dances or moves at all to the rhythm of the music. He's also obsessed at the moment with all the soap operas!

He never ever shows emotion unless of course it's anger and frustration. My partner is a joker and is always winding people up, but my son hates it (my partner doesn't do it to him because of this reason). If someone does try to slag my son off, he takes it very personally and he's got a really quick temper!

So please has anyone got any suggestions as to what I could to try and help him. He won't join any clubs or organisations, as he's too shy. I've tried and tried to suggest a variety of things, but so far I'm not having any luck.

Perhaps it doesn't help that we live just outside Huddersfield and there's not much on offer in this vicinity? I've tried contacting the local tennis club, but never had a reply. He joined a gym, but that closed down.

I'm really worried about him.

Thanks for any advice

Sal

that sounds EXACTLY like my 15 year old daughter. I can hear her tap away on the computer right now (well I'm no role model)... she only leaves the house to go to school, she is doing well at school, but has zero social life, she doesn't even open her curtains. I used to worry myself sick about her and tried everything I could to help her make friends, get her to join clubs and stuff, but in the end, I just realised that she is who she is. Nothing I can do is going to make her happier, she just lives in her own little world and seems to be happy there.

SallyUK

That's my son as well something-girl.

I just think that if he had the opportunity to let his emotions out somehow or other, whether it be screaming, shouting, crying, laughing, dancing or whatever, it would do him the world of good! lol

Sally
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