Debt, debt and more debt.

DebtFreeMonkey

Oh, gosh! What a roller coaster ride for you. Do glad you've got the house, though. Onwards and upwards from here, right? Sending all the good vibes I can your way.

Chrystal

I think you'll find that lots of us have been in similar situations to you. I know I can certainly speak from experience. I think the hardest part is accepting that the person you fell in love with doesn't really exist. We have an image in our heart/head of who this person is and the reality is totally different.
It will take you time to come to terms with it, and the hurt is very real. It's the equivalent of grieving .
Thinking about you and hoping that you find some peace of mind soon. X

Toni'sfriend

I think you'll find that lots of us have been in similar situations to you. I know I can certainly speak from experience. I think the hardest part is accepting that the person you fell in love with doesn't really exist. We have an image in our heart/head of who this person is and the reality is totally different.
It will take you time to come to terms with it, and the hurt is very real. It's the equivalent of grieving .
Thinking about you and hoping that you find some peace of mind soon. X

This is all so true. From personal experience also I can promise you that you will feel like a great weight has been lifted when you can be you. No more being bullied, undermined and being made to feel useless and that everything is all your fault.

Take care.

Kitten868

Hello again lovely,

I promise you that you have exhausted every avenue of making this relationship work. You have tried everything and done everything you can to make the relationship a success. You two are not right for each other because he is a toxic, self absorbed douche bag. You are not the reason why its failed. This is not your fault. And more than that I promise that at some point you will see all of this for yourself.

I am worried about your deposit on the house but you are doing the right thing. How much longer before you have to be out of the house?

Start packing! Every item that goes in a box brings you closer to your freedom! Xxx

beanielou

Great news on the sales

Not surprised that you cant eat or sleep. As you say part of the process.

MovingForwards

Swallow your pride, ask your family for the extra money, pay your deposit then get cracking with packing.

It will all soon be over, you will be settling in your new home and over a brew look back and wonder why you didn't call it a day sooner.

Have you been in touch with your current landlord to make sure your husband has served notice? It is possible he said he had just to spite you.

Your side businesses sound like they are keeping you ticking over.

darrannah

I wouldn’t know 100% re claiming for child maintenance but you can always phone and enquire (I think they have to provide for until the child is 16 but I could be wrong)
I’m so glad to ebay sales and the website are working out for you, and I hope you can raise the funds in time, I have everything crossed for you
Also it’s good that your family is an option should it need to be, it just proves the love and support that you have to get through this.
Now keep on with that packing, it will soon all be over

beanielou

They have to provide for their children up to the age of 25 as long as the child is in full time education.

beanielou

Oh dear. I am so sorry to read this.
Would the new landlord accept a personal reference & a bank reference?

Honeysucklelou2

How much notice is needed to be given to the landlord? Is it possible to give notice and still move, than it's up to your OH to negotiate a single person tenancy? Does the landlord understand the circumstances and that you were unaware of your OH's non- payment? Perhaps he might still give a reference if he understands the circumstances...?