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Debt, debt and more debt.
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It's no wonder that you feel teary.
Keep plodding.
At least you got some of the money back :mad:I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.1 -
You are showing that strength right now.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.2 -
Just read through your diary and subscribing to offer my support.
I have been in your situation, 5 years free now, and although its still sad, I promise you its the best thing you will do! Keep staying strong and focused on your escape plan. This will be the start of a new, much better life. xMy debt free journey, diary and all! New Life Pending :beer:1 -
Words fail me to be honest.
He seems to be a really nasty piece of work.
I am beginning to wonder if he has mental health problems.
More importantly where are you & do you feel safe?I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.1 -
Back to say I hope you are ok.
REmember you are doing so well in horrid circumstances.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.1 -
Have you got anyone who could accompany you to the house? If you haven't done so already I would get key documents together in an envelope that you can grab quickly or store elsewhere. Is the tenancy a joint one?paydbx2025 #26 £890/£5000 . Mortgage start £148k June 23 - now £138k.
2025 savings challenge £0/£2000 EF £140. Savings 2 £30.00. 171 -
Read through your diary, start to finish.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, I genuinely am. I've been in crappy relationships that sound much the same, getting out will feel like walking through mud but after a few months you'll feel like you've got wings.
Your tenacity with eBay is amazing, I'm about to start selling all my junk and you've motivated me so much!
Subscribed to show support. Rooting for the cottage!DEBT: £0/£2235 (0%)
Savings: 1p Challenge: £46.57 / VSP: £91.48 / Christmas 2020: £44 / Buffer: £0
Baby Due: 20th Jan 20201 -
I think you should talk to the police and try and get him out. He's threatening you and trying to evict you and the kids. At the very least there will be a record when you come to divorce but it may work out well to show him you will stand up to him. Don't leave him in the house. He will ruin your deposit chances. I can even see him staying but not paying rent and flushing your credit down the toilet.
I also think it means you can apply for divorce sooner. Keep going xxxLoan 1 £5200/£8000
Loan 2 £300/£5800
Total £5500/£138001 -
Tenancy is a joint one. I personally think he is worrying about going. He can't afford it
I think you're right but that's not your problem. His behaviour has caused this situation.
When can you view the cottage?Have adventures. laugh a lot and always be kind.1 -
Positive vibes for the house
I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.1
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