Debt, debt and more debt.

bigsteve85

Well done for trying to get some responsibilities drilled into your kids, your mum is of a generation that did do everything for everyone but you do need to tell them that it’s your house not theirs and it’s your rules, like on previous comments they could always go to your sisters, your mum does seem very jealous of you, concentrate on yourself and if they don’t want to talk to you then use the peace and quiet to your advantage.

all the best

enthusiasticsaver

Maybe your mum and dad should go to your sisters for a while. I would not tolerate that in your own house and it seems especially unfair that you had to pick both up. I would normally say either two separate people queue for different takeaways or everyone has the same. Your house, your rules. 

Kitten868

Sorry they're all being a pain. Weird how everyone else thinks you need to do everything. No one demanding to help. I think you're brilliant. Do wonder what they'll all do when they don't have you to do everything for them and take all their dramatic reactions. You keep being the strong brilliant woman you are xxxx

Kitten868

You poor thing. You do so so well to stay so calm and collected. I would have totally lost it. And poor dog. That's horrible for him. 
Is there an end in sight for when your parents can leave? I hope its gets better xxxx

Four_Seasons

so sorry for your situation, it sounds dreadful, sending you hugs xx

janb5

Emma this is horrible.I conpletely endorse enthusiastic saver's comments.
. Your house, your rules!
Enough is enough...and not  cooking/ including you is outrageous!
Family meeting ...lay down your house rules . 
Theae have to be kept to  Stop tolerating bad behaviour in your house.  
You've come so far and this is appalling.
Dont let them upset you x

Primrose

Emma. This is the same emotional abuse you we're suffering from your ex.  Since yiur mother obviously can,t control herself  canyou not now ask your parents to move out into a hotel or B&B now.  I think lockdown rules might permit this in cases of emotional abuse?
I really feel for you.  The only safety valve which might help is to walk around wearing headphones so You don,t have to listen to all this shouting and screaming if you can,t get out of the house.

SuperHung

Previous replies are right, your mom/ex are displaying classic passive aggressiveness and you need to break the pattern. The members here have given you lots of good advice. Look at your diary. Bad sleep/kids uncooperative/mom moaning/Bad sleep/kids uncooperative/mom moaning etc 

This loop will eventually break you.

Babybelles

What a jealous, vindictive person your mother sounds. Do not rehome your dog unless you feel it is the best thing to do for you & your children.

If you do rehome it my guess is your mother will turn that into another thing to have a go at you about, especially if your children would be upset at it being rehomed.

You need to stay firm & strong, it’s absolutely your house & your rules. Honestly the sooner they move out the better. I just feel sorry for your dad having to put up with her.

I know I’m probably sounding harsh but you need to live your own life with your own choices. She might be your mother but you are no longer a child.

I really hope things improve for you soon.

Primrose

 Emma,
i,d be tempted to sit them all down.
Tell your  parents coldly and firmly but without emotion that one more incident and you will be calling a taxi to transport them back to your sister,s and tell yours kids that you will be sending  them back to their father.
Ask them all to confirm they have understood  what you have said.
Get the suitcases out and ready for packing so they know you mean business. 

And try to decide in your own mind how you  feel about the dog.  Your parents have no involvement in this decision but your children do so bring them into this decision making process and let them realise that their attitude towards caring for  it will seal its fate. 

This seems harsh, but this is a hard world, especially now and they need, and have a right to learn and understand how their behaviour will impact their lives going forward.