Debt, debt and more debt.

IzzyBee

My heart goes out to you I don’t know how you cope big hugs❤️

Primrose

Emma. You really can,t continue like this with your mother .  You will end up an emotional wreck again  and I do all the good work you,ve done for yourself over recent months.  Ask your parents to pack their bags and go back to your sister again in the interests of family unity.   Your mother sounds  a thoroughly  difficult woman but is old enough to take responsibility for her own actions and behaviour. And creating a calm environment for yourself and your children should be your main priority.

Four_Seasons

Oh emma stand your ground ask them to leave, you shouldn't have to live like this, walking the street to get away, you deserve so much more. sending you hugs x

enthusiasticsaver

This is going to destroy your relationship.  I don't think you should be sleeping on the settee or leaving your house to get away from people who don't even live there. A quiet conversation saying you cannot live together any more does not have to be a big thing. This will affect your mental health. 

ZaSa1418

Emma this is the first time I have seen your diary.
You need to get your parents out, not only is your mothers behaviour disgraceful towards you she is showing your children that this is a perfectly acceptable way to treat you. You deserve much better.
You say no one apologises in the family and you don't want to be in a scenario where you end up not talking but i don't see how keeping this sort of relationship with her is better than not talking.  

Humdinger1

@[Deleted User] this isn't meant as a dig but why is your wellbeing at the bottom of the heap? This is also impacting the children.  You may or may not want counselling but in either case, I think yo need to ask yourself why this is acceptable.   If this is how you've been treated while growing up, it still doesn't make it acceptable as it's just normalising abuse.  You are worth more than this and your mother and children need to see that you value yourself.  Send her back to your sister or elsewhere.   Not that it matters, but why isn't she in her own place? Has she left it to create havoc for you?  We are all rooting for you and it's not unreasonable to refuse to be abused.  Abusers try to brainwash their victims into believing it's normal or that they deserve it.  Humdinger xx

janb5

Emma please dont wait until your parents decide to leave!
Give them their marching orders now!
I cant quite fathom how your mother is being so vile.
Forgive me for bejng so direct.  You shouldnt have to endure another moment of unadulterated hell.
Sendibg a huge hug Jan.x

Naomim

Hi Emma,

I know it's very difficult having to deal with confrontational situations but I think for your own sanity you are going to have to ask them to leave.   

Has your sister offered to have them at all? Can you ask your sister to invite them to stay? They may be more open to leaving if they think they are invited elsewhere rather than asked to leave? 

It does seem your mother tries to undermine you no matter what and you have the patience of a saint. 

Is there a moving out date set for them?  Maybe you could subtly (not subtly at all) have a big countdown on the fridge crossing off the days in big red market pen 🤣  they might get the hint.

AntoMac

Have to agree with above comments Emma. I can’t believe how rude your mum is being as a guest in YOUR house. It does seem perhaps like it’s a lifetime behaviour so very difficult to change the pattern. I’ve not seen one person on hear suggest that her behaviour is anywhere near acceptable.
You will feel a whole lot better if you stand up to her.
Maybe speak to your sister and get her support. I had a difficult conversation with members of my own family this week and I know how hard such conversations can be, but I think we all feel better having had the conversation. Would have preferred to sweep it all under the carpet but that doesn’t really resolve  anything.
Trying to be supportive of you here, and not in any way critical. This is clearly a very difficult time for you.  Keep going. You clearly are a good and decent person. Happier times ahead

Primrose

Gosh, have they actually moved out at last?
if so, this is really good news and I suggest you use this event as a valuable opportunity to out something quality space between you and your parents and especially your mither  for a while to  let the mood temperature drop. 

You,ve gone theiugh a really rough patch with them Emma on top of all the trials of lockdown. Don,t waste this opportunity to start rebuilding your equanimity and be ferocious now in protecting it.  Your mother obviously has a serious personality disorder and has nothing beneficial to contribute to your domestic harmony. That sad but yiur future wellbeing and that of your childre seems to depend on keeping her at arms length.