Would it be right to ask for money instead of gifts for a wedding?

black-saturn

I think I'll go for the poem option. I'm making my own invites so I'll write it on them in silver ink.

Jem8472

we are going to ask for holiday vouchers for the honeymoon. We like most people have a flat and enough stuff. So if we were to do a list all it would be is chucking out our current stuff and getting newer stuff. a rather big wast TBH

DUKE

This is fine for the people who can afford to write out a cheque without a second thought BUT what about the ones that can't? On the other hand I suppose if you don't ask then you don't get and it may be better than 500 toasters :eek:

cattie

I'm in agreement with Paypeanuts on this one, as I'd find it rather rude to be asked for money, especially as I'm disabled so only have benefits to live on so couldn't afford a lot & would feel very uncomfortable & anxious about the situation.

Although I might get some nasty comments for saying it, I have to say that to be honest I've never really seen the point in expecting Wedding presents when you already have a house & everything you need inside of it. The original idea of wedding presents was to help the happy couple in starting up the home they are setting up together.

black-saturn

I'll tell them to give what they would have spent on a present. If they were planning to buy something from Poundland thats OK.

brazilianwax

I didn't expect anyone to give us anything - that really wasn't the point.

We didn't have a list initially (we already had 2 of everything) but people kept asking as they wanted to get us something.

So we did a list of things we'd like to have - posh bedding, kitchen knives, candleholders etc. So now we have nice things to use for special occasions.

Some groups clubbed together to buy something. Others bought us things they thought would go with the things on the list (one guest just gave us a couple of table napkins, but they're lovely and have been well used). Some gave us cheques, and one I think gave us a voucher - I bought a fab new duvet with that


The mahogany barometer that OH's gran gave us is somewhere in the loft though!

DaisyFlower

I'm with Peanuts too, I think its rude to ask for money. I personally dont like wedding lists or requests for vouchers/money and would rather decide on a gift myself. I always feel that when people ask for money or include a list that they are expecting a present as standard.

I'd bring a gift anyway regardless of the request but thats just me.

black-saturn

If people wanted to bring gifts thats their own choice but it's a bit silly when the couple have expressed that they don't want gifts. It would probably get ebayed anyway.

iwanttosave_2

Asking for money doesn't bother me, but I hate those bloody poems.

We are going to ask for money with something along the lines of..

As you know me and xx have lived together before marrige so we don't need any gifts but if you do feel the need to get us something we could use some money towards a new xx or would appreciate a donation to the following charity..

Obviously it would be more polished than that, but along those lines.

black-saturn

kimevans wrote: »

Nice..........

I'm not saying I would do that. I'm saying other couples might if they got a gift when they specifically requested money.