Would it be right to ask for money instead of gifts for a wedding?

ikkleosu

lovemoneysaving wrote: »

I'll go to a colleague's wedding evening celebration soon, they've asked for money, I really don't know how much I should give. I know it's very personal, but what do you all think is reasonable amount from someone who's salary is below 20K.

I'd say if it's just a work colleague and you are on your own, I'd say £15-20 is more than sufficient.

We've settled on asking for cash/vouchers and to be honest I expect (as in if they give something, I imagine what they'd likely give. Not "expect" as in, they'd BETTER give this) most couples will probably give around £20. And that is totally fine with me, and generous to boot.

LouBlue

lovemoneysaving wrote: »

I'll go to a colleague's wedding evening celebration soon, they've asked for money, I really don't know how much I should give. I know it's very personal, but what do you all think is reasonable amount from someone who's salary is below 20K.

I don't think salary has anything to do with it, we all have different outgoings, its what you can afford, as you say, its not a close family member, I am sure she will like whatever you get. I would probably spend about £15, something like that?

Michellel_3

Oh Im not sure what to do myself now! I am in a similar situation where I have lived with my OH for 4 years and we have been lucky to get what we need. I really dont fancy receiving vases and photo frames and I would much prefer money or vouchers as we really need to get our garden sorted and would like new flooring. At first I thought it was cheeky asking for money but I think it is more acceptable nowdays. Im not sure wether to put a little poem in the invitations to give people an idea if they are wanting to give us a gift.

gossfam1

If it helps, we've put the following in our wedding invitations:

"Of course the most important thing for us is your “presence” during the day to celebrate our marriage and gifts are by no means expected.

As we already have a home together, if you would like to get us a gift, money towards our honeymoon and the next phase of DIY in our house would come in very handy (power tools are more useful than toasters these days!)

If you would prefer to get us an actual gift instead, then please feel free to surprise us."

We thought this was the best comprimise between asking for what we want (money) and being sympathetic to people that might feel awkward in giving cash. So we said we've prefer money, but are happy with presents too, but none are expected. It seems too have been well received by our guests, what do others think?