Equity - Boyfriend - new house argument

Caraway90

Annieireland71 wrote: »

he says that he cannot work because i treat him badly and he is down all the time. he also blames my teenage dughters that they can be disruptive and spoil the peace and quiet.

i think that if the house sells and its straightforward he will take the 50% - i wont be able to mortgage a new poperty as i have 24k debt and 2.5 overdraft

im really screwed

Spoil the peace and quiet, you'd think that would be an incentive to spend less time in the house and more time at work.
Also, he knew of the children when the decision was made to move in - children don't tend to be quiet.

Candyapple

Annieireland71 wrote: »

hes agreed to sign the money back to me - and we are going into rented accommodation.

He agreed to sign the £33k over to you? No strings attached?

Forgive me for being sceptical, but unless he has actually signed legal paperwork and you have the money in your bank, I find it hard to believe he has done a complete 180 in the space of a few days where he was trying to tap you up for an extra £12k and also trying to force you to sell your car.

When you say ‘we’ are going into rented accommodation – surely you don’t mean you are still in a relationship with him? Or did you mean you and your kids will be moving into rented?

If you are still with him, what will moving into rented achieve? I mean he still won’t be working / contributing so you’ll still be the one responsible for everything. The only thing that would have changed is you’d be paying a landlord instead of a mortgage.

Annieireland71

Candyapple wrote: »

He agreed to sign the £33k over to you? No strings attached?

Forgive me for being sceptical, but unless he has actually signed legal paperwork and you have the money in your bank, I find it hard to believe he has done a complete 180 in the space of a few days where he was trying to tap you up for an extra £12k and also trying to force you to sell your car.

When you say ‘we’ are going into rented accommodation – surely you don’t mean you are still in a relationship with him? Or did you mean you and your kids will be moving into rented?

If you are still with him, what will moving into rented achieve? I mean he still won’t be working / contributing so you’ll still be the one responsible for everything. The only thing that would have changed is you’d be paying a landlord instead of a mortgage.

Thats what he says.....

as for moving - if he wants to be with me he has TO get a job

Annieireland71

Candyapple wrote: »

He agreed to sign the £33k over to you? No strings attached?

Forgive me for being sceptical, but unless he has actually signed legal paperwork and you have the money in your bank, I find it hard to believe he has done a complete 180 in the space of a few days where he was trying to tap you up for an extra £12k and also trying to force you to sell your car.

When you say ‘we’ are going into rented accommodation – surely you don’t mean you are still in a relationship with him? Or did you mean you and your kids will be moving into rented?

If you are still with him, what will moving into rented achieve? I mean he still won’t be working / contributing so you’ll still be the one responsible for everything. The only thing that would have changed is you’d be paying a landlord instead of a mortgage.

not £33k

£33k-£12k

Sea_Shell

Annieireland71 wrote: »

Thats what he says.....

as for moving - if he wants to be with me he has TO get a job

"Ain't nothing going on but the rent, you gotta have a J O B, if you wanna be with me" - Great song. Maybe play it to him!!

pimento

Annieireland71 wrote: »

I don't wish to end the relationship - but he is trying to do secure money at all costs.

Really? You need to get shot of this absolute parasite.

Stop paying his bills for him.

Mojisola

Annieireland71 wrote: »

as for moving - if he wants to be with me he has TO get a job

And do you trust him not to take on a job until he's moved in with you and then giving it up, leaving you in the same position as now?

elsien

Annieireland71 wrote: »

Whilst his might seem odd.... i do have feelings for this person - although his attitude to work and money is awful

i wish know what my rghts are in this scenario - im trying to keep the reltionship element separate

If you want to continue a relationship with him (and I am struggling to see why, but each to their own) you don't have to be living in the same house to do so.
This is only going to be more complicated moving forwards, and why would you want to give someone a load of equity knowing full well they're not paying their way now and are very unlikely to be doing so in the future. He may not want to be a lodger but at least lodgers pay for the roof over their heads.
Sort your finances out now, live apart, then see whether the relationship is really worth hanging on to.

LadyDee

Unbelievable! You work, you give him half your house, you give him money, you pay the bills, and you want to keep him? Sorry OP, t's not legal advice you need ..........