Best friend is jealous of my situation

elona

Super thanks and I agree (with knobs on) to paddysmum and cathryn.

Might it be an idea to write down everything hurtful that she says or does (later that day) and you can then look over it later and see a pattern of behaviour.

You then might find that it is not 90% nice and 10% nasty - but more like 60/40!

This might sound simplistic but if you ate or drank something that made you violently ill every sixth time you tried it - I bet you would not be trying it again in a hurry.

That is what the friend is doing to you - she is poisoning your self esteem and sense of worth - it is not good for you or for her.

115K

Excellent letter Paddy's Mum. Glicky - I fully agree with this approach. It is honest without being childish or descending to her level.

(I had to get rid of a so called friend as her snide remarks or blatant put downs were really getting to me. I thought about it for a while and actually weighed up the pros and cons and thought that she was adding nothing to my life and was actually making it worse. I just cut her out, it may sound harsh but I felt it was the right thing to do and I do not regret it at all.)

juliettet

Do not put yourself through this anymore. Have a straight talk with her and point out that you are hurt and that you do not wish to carry on feeling like this when you see her. She is quite happy to take your hospitality and make your kind gestures seem really sour.

If she responds with more ranting on how good it is for you again, ditch her.

She will drag you down and make you feel guilty which is what I suspect is happening anyway.

For yourself - please do some other activities which will get you meeting more people as there are some really nice new friends out there. You just haven't met them yet!

Carmina_Piranha_3

has it always been like this or did you take over the mum role when her mum died?

candygirl

Glicky how are you hun?Have you talked to her yet?Let us know as I'm dying to know how you're getting on:p

BaileyB

Next time she has a go at you just don't speak to her for say a week or two and when she asks why tell her that she has upset you.

But really she does not sound like a real friend to me!

skintas_2

sometimes ur vest friend can be ur worse enemy , sounds like it to me, dont have nothing to do with her, she will soon get the message, she has annoyed you............

jinky67

Have you spoken to her yet?