Two bedroom flat - children

tazwhoever

We have lived here for 30 years when I was single and 14 years since being married. Unfortunately, we don't want to move and enjoy being in London.

Has anybody sister and brother shared a room being single until one gets married? Were there any problems? Any suggestions?

Thank you for suggestions.

I was thinking of screen as rach_k suggested.

Rosieandjim

All the people I know who have had this problem have either used the largest bedroom and divided it. Or slept in the living room allowing each child to have a bedroom.


If you think about it it is only for a small number of years until you daughter moves on with her life uni,work, etc


Intimacy between you should not be a reason not to solve the problem.

OscarFoxtrot

There is no solution that works OP.


You cannot have the two children share
You will not move
You will not use the living room


So not sure what the point of this is

Pollycat

Rosieandjim wrote: »

All the people I know who have had this problem have either used the largest bedroom and divided it. Or slept in the living room allowing each child to have a bedroom.


If you think about it it is only for a small number of years until you daughter moves on with her life uni,work, etc


Intimacy between you should not be a reason not to solve the problem.

At least 4 years.
4 very important years for a teenager.

And an increasing number of young adults are unable to move out of the family home even when they find work because they can't afford it.

OP - there is no law that says your children are too old to share a bedroom but you know that it is wrong.
If you can find no other alternative, you need to go with your partner's suggestion:

tazwhoever wrote: »

My partner thinks we two should sleep separate, girl/mum room and boy/father room.

tazwhoever wrote: »

This looks good but it would be difficult as it would affect parents our intimacy.

You owe it to your children to put their needs first.

itsanne

You need to compromise somewhere. If you don't want to move, use the living room. Either use it only as a bedroom if there is other social space (eg big enough kitchen) or put a privacy lock on the door.

tazwhoever

OscarFoxtrot wrote: »

There is no solution that works OP.


You cannot have the two children share
You will not move
You will not use the living room


So not sure what the point of this is

I am grateful to the council for giving us flat to live and I believe having two children is better than one.

I won't go in talking about extended family!

Thank you

onwards&upwards

tazwhoever wrote: »

Has anybody sister and brother shared a room being single until one gets married? Were there any problems? Any suggestions?

.

Don’t hold out for anyone telling you that’s just fine, because it’s not.

Put your kids first and sleep in the living room until you move.

Silvertabby

Without knowing the size or layout of the rooms, it's difficult to comment.

However, I would look first at dividing the main bedroom into two separate rooms for the children leaving the 2nd bedroom for mum and dad.

rach_k

OP, do you have a door on your living room so it's separate from the rest of the house, or is it more open plan? If it has a door, there will be no problem with intimacy. Send the kids up to their rooms (the two bedrooms) at 9pm and then close the living room door. From then until morning it's a bedroom and knock-before-you-enter rules apply. If it's open plan, tell the kids they can't come downstairs after 9pm (pretty good rules for any kids I think!).

onwards&upwards

rach_k wrote: »

OP, do you have a door on your living room so it's separate from the rest of the house, or is it more open plan? If it has a door, there will be no problem with intimacy. Send the kids up to their rooms (the two bedrooms) at 9pm and then close the living room door. From then until morning it's a bedroom and knock-before-you-enter rules apply. If it's open plan, tell the kids they can't come downstairs after 9pm (pretty good rules for any kids I think!).

Is that a joke? Confining a 14 year old to her bedroom from 9pm every night so her parents can bump uglies?