Two bedroom flat - children

tazwhoever

We have two children (daughter and son), and 2 bed council flat. At the moment, one is shared is children and we.

As the moment, daughter is going through puberty (14) and son (9). We understand they should have separate rooms by now.

My partner thinks we two should sleep separate, girl/mum room and boy/father room.

This looks good but it would be difficult as it would affect parents our intimacy.

Any advice and suggestions.

Thank you

chesky

Can't you contact your local authority and request larger accommodation on the grounds of overcrowding?

rach_k

Is one of the bedrooms large enough to separate into two small 'rooms' and then the parents can take the smaller room? You could use something like Kallax shelving units, screens or even curtains. If the door isn't in a convenient place, I'd have your daughter going through her brother's room into hers, rather than the other way round.

Or what are your other rooms like? If you have a separate dining room, use that as a bedroom and put a folding table in your living room. Or have a fold down/pull out bed in the living room for the parents.

While it's not ideal, plenty of people live like this, in fact lots of home owners do around where I live. If those ideas aren't options, just make a rule that everybody knocks on a closed bedroom door before entering, and allow the children to get changed in your bedroom or the bathroom.

OscarFoxtrot

Use the living room.

tazwhoever

The council haven't got any in my place.

This isn't possible.

Get some sofa bed in the living room but risky intimacy might to be exposed or less sleeping together!

Thanks again

oystercatcher

Just a random thought but do you really need to live where you do ? Would quality of life be better if you moved to another part of the UK where housing is cheaper ? Could be worth exploring and thinking about with no commitment ?

Appreciate this may not suit your circumstances but no harm in thinking it through. I would hate being crammed into a small flat with a family but I know many people manage .

Robisere

Talk to Social Services and explain your problem. Failing that, find your Council's Environmental Services department, ask for someone with responsibility for Housing.

onwards&upwards

tazwhoever wrote: »

The council haven't got any in my place.

This isn't possible.

Get some sofa bed in the living room but risky intimacy might to be exposed or less sleeping together!

Thanks again

Is that more important than your teenage daughter’s privacy as she goes through puberty?

mattpaint

How long have you lived in the flat? I'm assuming it's a relatively new placement or you would have planned for this and moved well ahead of time. Could you rent privately?

Ms_Chocaholic

Robisere wrote: »

Talk to Social Services and explain your problem. Failing that, find your Council's Environmental Services department, ask for someone with responsibility for Housing.

Social Services won't do anything and have no power to force the housing authority to do anything either.

chesky

What about trying for an exchange?