Two bedroom flat - children

maman

Apologies if this is a dumb suggestion as I have no knowledge of council tenancies.


While the council can't find larger accommodation currently, is it possible that they'll help to modify the property to separate the rooms? Posters have suggested partitions and the like but I'm not sure whether tenants are allowed to do this while the council might be able to.


On a lighter note though, if the OP has too much 'intimacy' then it won't be long before further rooms are needed.;)

alwaysskint96

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Is that a joke? Confining a 14 year old to her bedroom from 9pm every night so her parents can bump uglies?

LOL Many kids of that age PREFER to be in their rooms. My 15 year old son often has to be dragged out kicking and screaming ( not literall) to be sociable and join the rest of the family

SuperPikachu

I thought this thread was a joke until I saw you have a 1k post count!

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MovingForwards

Turn the living room into your bedroom, your clothes etc can be split between the kids rooms. Get a sofa bed so it looks like a living room in the day.

Give them privacy as you cannot expect your daughter to still share with her brother.

Pester the council and housing associations for a move, look at exchanges and do the right thing while you wait.

Mary_Bing

Frankly speaking, I don't think this is a good idea. Sleeping apart from each other can influence relantionship in a bad way. My friends had such problem. Besides, it id possible to divide the space with a closet or folding screen

Sky_

My OH and I have a very active (most days )intimate life, but there is no way we'd prioritise that over our children's emotional well-being and needs for privacy at that age!

In your situation we'd have made the living room into our bedroom, without hesitation, until we found a more long-term solution, such as properly (with walls,) dividing the largest bedroom into two, or buying or renting a larger home. We almost had to rent a 2-bed place when relocating, when our son and daughter were ages 10 and 12 and our plan had indeed been to use the living room as our bedroom.

For your intimate life.... book an occasional day off work together when kids are in school, have the odd night away or be creative in other ways. Your children's emotional wellbeing and development is so much more important than your sex life!

dawyldthing

Can you not make a bedroom of the living room. I slept at a friends not long back with a l shape camp bed that extended out to be a double bed and could quite happily sleep on something like it full term. Then utilise space so you can store your stuff/ possibly have a wardrobe in the largest room for the stuff you use least so you’ve still got space.

I don’t think it’s fair for them to share at that age.

Robisere

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Social Services won't do anything and have no power to force the housing authority to do anything either.

Then kindly explain to me how and why contacting Social Services and the Housing Authority, worked for my single-parent son in a 2-bed bungalow. He was given a 3-bed house to allocate separate bedrooms for daughter and son. Informed fact is better than supposition.

sheramber

But the OP has said
Unfortunately, we don't want to move and enjoy being in London.


Has anybody sister and brother shared a room being single until one gets married? Were there any problems? Any suggestions?

She wants her children to share until one gets married and moves out. Easily seen where her priorities lie.

rach_k

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Is that a joke? Confining a 14 year old to her bedroom from 9pm every night so her parents can bump uglies?

Have you ever met a teenager, or do you remember being one? Home from school, kitchen, mumble hello to parents, go to bedroom, dinner, back to bedroom, sleep is what I remember doing as a teen. I'm not sure things have changed all that much.

If the parents are giving up their bedroom so the children can have their own spaces, I think it's perfectly acceptable to expect the children to use those rooms! Make it 10pm if that works better or make it only for weeknights, but if the kids are only using their rooms from 11pm, why do they even need their own rooms?