I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

pollyanna_26

Chrystal wrote: »

I'm a bit confused
Is she refusing to let the boys go on holiday with you, or letting them go but the SW saying that she will be able to visit them whilst they are away?? (has the SW been changed yet)
Sounds as though she had (unexpected?) plans for today wanted to offload the boys onto DS!
The SW seems to not understand that you and DS can't be 'available' at the drop of a hat when you are both working, and that it is up to her to stick to the arrangements already made.
What does her missing a holiday have to do with the boys not being allowed to go on one- the mind boggles!!
Hope you manage to sort out the chaos and have a lovely time whilst you're away. (((hugs)))

I'm confused too. It seems to me exgf is making things difficult to disrupt family times and plans although she was never keen on turning up for family occasions in the past.
She's been given 2 clear choices for the week ahead and needs to make up her mind one way or the other.


I wish they'd sort out the replacement SW asap.


Hope today goes well in the shop and you can go away with an easy mind.


Glad dgd with have company. I was thinking originally you were using your car but I suppose ds will be taking his too especially if the little ones go with you.
pollyx

hb2

All I am clear about is that the ex is doing her best to throw a spanner in the works! Mooloo, I hope you are able to get away and have an enjoyable holiday, despite the ex's efforts.

Savvy_sewing

The Ex is not allowing us to take the boys. Her reasoning is that she missed out on a holiday with them the weekend she had refused to return them, and so she won't allow them to come with us. So she will have to have them for 12 days now. (From Wednesday just gone, until a week tomorrow, as DS is working next Friday and Saturday).
I have removed the highchair and cot and the boys from the booking now. We won't ask again. We will go in DS's hire car as only 4 of us now. No point in fuel for two cars.
The social has a replacement but we haven't met them yet. He wanted to introduce them next week, but we reminded him were not here. He is so dim!
It was a steady day at work today.
And there is enough money to pay myself £70 too. Bonus.
I will need it having lost my housing benefits.

Biggest's car broke down in London and she had to get relay back home. So she's now juggling money to get that sorted out. I have lent her £150 until payday. I know bank of Mum opened again, but with the kids in a village school she needs a car, and payday is only a week away.
At least with her I know that I get it back.

WabbitWabbit

Is it possible for your son to stay home and care for his children while you are away? He would then be able to see if he can manage on his own with caring, cooking, laundry and all that is involved being a single parent to two young boys.

Savvy_sewing

WabbitWabbit wrote: »

Is it possible for your son to stay home and care for his children while you are away? He would then be able to see if he can manage on his own with caring, cooking, laundry and all that is involved being a single parent to two young boys.

He had them on his own in the end of March April when I was away in Portugal. He even had Dgd for 3 days as her Mum changed pick up times after my break was booked.

To be honest he also could do with a holiday for a few days and a change of scenery, the break was booked more with him in mind than me. He needs to interact with his sister and nephew and Neice, he needs to be able to get away from the constant demands of the Ex as well.

It is only for a few days. He will have to do all the cooking etc when I take Mum and Dgd away in August.
He does do some of the cooking for the kids when I am at work anyway.

Savvy_sewing

We had an uneventful journey, getting here at the allotted time and we didn't have to hang around waiting for the keys to the caravan. We had a meal in the restaurant and watched the entertainment and had a late night. DS has taken the girls swimming and I have just watched tv in the van and doing as little as possible.
The weather is a bit iffy, we have had rain but the sun is trying to shine now.
I shall be cooking a spaghetti bolognese later.

hb2

I'm glad that you arrived safely Mooloo. I really hope that this break gives you the relaxation and mental 'head space' that have been in short supply recently.

Savvy_sewing

We went to Dover Castle yesterday. Didn't get to see it all though so DS and Dgd went back this morning and my other granddaughter stayed in the van with me. After lunch DS has taken them swimming again. I took them yesterday afternoon but I found it too cold. I don't feel too well, and have not strayed from the van today.
Dgds Mum and rest of the family came for a few hours last night and are planning on coming back this evening. I have said we will go over to the clubhouse, but if I am honest I really don't feel up to it. Hopefully we won't have to stop too long.
We are home tomorrow and I am ready to go home, and try and work on my health etc as I have not felt well in quite a while.
Even I am worried about me at the moment so something has to change. I am not back at the doctors until 24th June so I want to look at my eating and sleeping patterns and try to sort it out. I could easily have slept all day today.

pollyanna_26

Good to hear ds and the girls are getting out and about. A change of scene was much needed.


I think it was a good idea for you all to get a break. Sorry you aren't feeling too good. You've been under so much pressure since last year it isn't surprising really. At least you haven't needed to turn into work so that's a bonus.


If the self help isn't working you can always ask for an earlier appointment at the Drs. It sounds as though she's pretty understanding.


Enjoy your last day away and safe home tomorrow.
pollyx

beanielou

I am not surprised you are not feeling well.
I would not still be standing.
I salute you.