I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

pollyanna_26

Well done on the savings pot , things have come a long way this year .


If your son is serious about seeking support and you have a chance to speak to him alone before the meeting it would be worth asking if he would admit the difficulties or allow you to along with you pointing out those things that have improved .


As you say he isn't at the point of parting from the gf but one way or another they both need to engage with any help that may be available to them whether they end up staying together or not .


As you ,I and others knew the little ones were returned too soon and a lot of issues remain . You can state the positives but also make it clear both parents need help and family aren't trained to provide that .
Good luck

pollyx

hb2

I'm afraid I have never heard of Mrs Hinch and, from what you have said, I don't think that is a bad thing! I don't do social media much, rarely visit FB and am not on Twitter. Get a look while you can - a real, live dinosaur! :rotfl:

Mooloo, I hope today goes as it should.

Feral_Moon

candygirl wrote: »

my Nan always wore an overall, on top of her clothes.Not sure if it's a Northern thing though:D

Both my mum & grandma in Yorkshire wore nylon overalls whilst doing the housework, and a pinny (apron) for baking.

Savvy_sewing

Exhausted.
Long meeting. I managed to stay behind after DS and GF left and speak my concerns. Social worker made notes. Rang a contact and asked what help is available for abused men who have the children can get.
Gave us a number, I text it to Biggest. Biggest told DS when he collected baby from her and contacted them apparently. Fingers crossed that he is going to follow through. I don't care if my house becomes over crowded. He needs to protect those children.
My Seamstress had a personality transplant today and was way out of order. She was obviously unhappy about being left in the shop on her own. I told her that she needed to go home, calm down and come back fresh Thursday. That in future I will get her help or close.
She got uppity because a customer complained that her alterations wasn't right, which they weren't but she (Seamstress)wasn't having anything to do with her work, it is my fault for doing the fitting. So I said that's my problem not hers. What is done is done, I am going to try to fix it, but doubt that I can, and I told the client that if I cannot fix it then I will replace it. (Dread to know how much that costs-), but I reiterate it was my problem, so not to worry, it was my choice to ask her to do the alterations and if I am not stressing, the customer was nice, why does she have to get on her high horse.
( well actually probably because she didn't actually do it right and she knew it!)
Sleep on it. Fresh eyes in the morning. But today I could quite easily shut the door and never go back.
But of course I will be back at it tomorrow.

choccymoose

Mooloo, part time working mummy on face book does a lot of work with DA victims both male and female and me be another source of support for you, she has so many contacts and so much knowledge.

Choccy

pollyanna_26

What a day Mooloo! Well done for letting the sw know your concerns . Time to see what support is offered to DS . If it sounds helpful I'd advise him to engage and stick with it . You only have a certain amount of time to help him turn things around as if he doesn't get with the programme offers of help will dry up . So a bit last chance saloon .


It really is good you decided to set up at home soon Reading your account you handled the problem at the shop in a polite and professional way and reassured the customer . However although I hope it wont come to replacement and you can rectify the work staff isn't helping in these situations . Everyone can make a mistake but she needs to own up and not go on the defensive . Sometimes I wonder where you get your patience from .


In your shoes I'd have a warm bath and an early night .
pollyx

Savvy_sewing

I am going to bed Now!!!

hb2

I hope you were able to rest Mooloo, you certainly had an exhausting day!

Well done for getting DS started on his road to recovery. No-one deserves to be abused, especially in their own home.

BTW, I think you are making amazing inroads into your debts, bearing in mind that you are not taking a wage from your business. Many people have problems making ends meet on considerably more than this.

Savvy_sewing

I think I have learned to save before spending and that helps. My food budget goes up and down depending on how busy I am but I can always make savings here and there. My clothes are always in the sales or made by me ofcourse. We hardly use the car and walk most of the time, so fuel is relatively low. My electric and gas has gone up a bit but still both combined are less than £60 a month. Water is £32
So we don't do too badly. I am good at getting value for my money thankfully.

Savvy_sewing

So what will today bring?
Heaven only knows.
I expect an awkward morning with my Seamstress.
I am once again not getting a response from Dgd to get ready for school. The Xbox will be gone again. Currently my Son has put restrictions on it, and she had it back because she had improved. Perhaps that was too soon.
I have so much going on in my head I am not sleeping well.
I am worried about my Son.
twin1 has messed up her dates for having Dgd and I am having to try and get some things changed as I was going to Portugal for 5 days to look at venues etc for my sewing workshops, and the possibility of renting an apartment for Mum in the winter.
Such is life. We will have to see if I have to cancel or not.

My upcycled jackets are with a shop owner in a near by town. I am hoping that I will be able to sell them through her and her website etc

Today I am going to have to just try and be methodical and prioritise what is most urgent and start.