I will cut my coat according to my cloth. {Edited by Forum team} 2019

hb2

Mooloo, I completely agree with BFO and Polly that your Dg is old enough to be keeping her room clean and bringing down her washing each day. I used to tell my son that my job was to bring him up to be a useful member of society, not to do everything for him!

Savvy_sewing

I've had a phone call from Social worker this afternoon that was not very easy. He has to put his report to the court today, and he wanted my opinions on the situation and how I perceive things. He has asked me to re think about taking the boys myself as that would be his recommendation. Even though I had ruled myself out, he believes that I am the best option to give them a stable life.
I have just talked to my Mum, and Biggest. I am going to be reassessed by the new worker, and will see what's next.

Don't all shout at once. It's only a recommendation to the courts and it will be down to Solicitors and the judge, so it's not a definite.
But I have said that I would do it if that's the only option.

charlie3090

I bet he does think its the best solution,
its also the easiest for them,

I know how hard it is but this means the end of all your hopes/dreams for Portugal etc,

this is great for everyone else but yet again not you,

I really dont know what else to say,

hugs xx

kazwookie

I think you need to start learning to say NO, NO, NO.

As charlie has said it is poss the easiest solution for them, but not for you.

beanielou

But at the end the day they are Mooloo's grand children.
It is up to her at the end of the day.

OAP1945

No no no please don't do this. You have too much on your plate as it is. These boys need someone able to put them first second and third. Sorry moo but with the best will in the world it's not you , your son or his ex. Please think about the struggle s you are having right now and you know it will get worse as they get older and you will be stuck between all parties. Wishing you all the best.

Sayschezza

Sorry folks but I am going to delurk to say Mooloo I am with you absolutely. There is no way any one of my GC or GGC would go to someone outside the family even if I busted a gut to keep them and went bankrupt as a result. Well done lady for putting love before anything else. I know you haven't had it easy with your family, well neither have I but we will survive because we are strong women. Good luck.

BrassicWoman

2 under 10s in kinship foster care - £1200 a month. If you are doing it, get the money... it might let you go part time


http://www.fosterline.info/kinship-care-friends-and-family-care/

https://northamptonshirechildcare.proceduresonline.com/pdfs/foster_finance_guide.pdf

beanielou

Sayschezza wrote: »

Sorry folks but I am going to delurk to say Mooloo I am with you absolutely. There is no way any one of my GC or GGC would go to someone outside the family even if I busted a gut to keep them and went bankrupt as a result. Well done lady for putting love before anything else. I know you haven't had it easy with your family, well neither have I but we will survive because we are strong women. Good luck.

This,just this.

24ta

Sayschezza wrote: »

Sorry folks but I am going to delurk to say Mooloo I am with you absolutely. There is no way any one of my GC or GGC would go to someone outside the family even if I busted a gut to keep them and went bankrupt as a result. Well done lady for putting love before anything else. I know you haven't had it easy with your family, well neither have I but we will survive because we are strong women. Good luck.

Delurking to agree with this.