2019 - A Clutter Free Life

MadamMim2013

Had a difficult moment with my Ma yesterday.. I actually got very upset and informed her that I’ll no longer be participating with her “shed clean out” as what she said/ did was unnecessary and downright hurtful.
Long story short, she will be receiving a new shed due to works taking place within her garden. Unfortunately my ma has various conditions including anxiety (as do I) she denies point black that there is too much stuff in the shed (some of it dates back to the 70’s and she’s only been at her current place 20 yrs!) some of the wood had woodworm etc and there is a mower (unused in 6 years) that could be re-homed for use.
She knows all this, agrees, then backs out.. well they will be here soon to replace it & she’s not prepared for it..
Was trying to help her plan (along with my sister) what / how shes could store things until able to tip/throw/recycle etc... With me sat there she began to put me down to my sister about how I don’t ever help her, just going to bully her to get rid of all her stuff etc.. I was TRYING to help her make her own decisions as to what to do with things.. So I lost the plot a bit & said that’s it.. I’m done. [My sister had already said that her idea was to get a skip n throw it all!!!]
At the time I also meant I was done caring for her as well.. felt very stabbed in the back by her behaviour.. It was the “I don’t do anything to help”:mad::mad::mad: really??
Well, she msgd me today (as if nowt had happened) saying they had turned up to start remedial works.. Was I going out to help her start to clean out.. Nope.. sorry not today.. I actually feel like I need some distance at the moment..
Sad as I love a good clean/clear out..

Her msg made me feel cross all over again, so emptied my airing cupboard and did a rage clean.. more put by for the animal charity..:T

I’ll go help her tomorrow, today I need me time

never_too_old

Afternoon all
Bag of stuff in the boot ready to drop of at the charity shop when i'm passing.Using bits up out of cupboards and freezer which is hugely satisfying.Just need to get OH to do something as he has lots of neat piles everywhere.

CAFCGirl

Oh MadamMim that sounds terribly tense and rotten for you. Perhaps she was deflecting her anxiety by going on the attack at yoy? Not that it's right, at all. Pleased to hear you taking today for distance and self care.

Slower day today.
17 packets of seeds and DS's old ski jacket added to CS bag.One box of porridge sachets going to food bank too.

CRANKY40

MadamMim if you and your sister are anything like me and my sister you'll both know it's nonsense when your mum starts putting you down. In our house my sister was the favourite. My mum thought my sister was her boyfriend's child and not my dad's but she was wrong - nevertheless it led to preferential treatment. Despite this my sister and I are the very best of friends luckily. Mum died some time ago and we are both in total agreement that if we could have one last chat with her it would start wit "What the h£ll did you think you were doing?" I'd take tomorrow off as well if it was me......

Anyhow....today has been a running day and a cleaning day (the HT tidied his bedroom yesterday so I thought I'd get in there with the hoover while I could see the floor). I did however sell some stuff on ebay so :-

71-74 books sold on Ebay and posted

I've taken some photos of some others and I'll put them on later tonight. No point having auctions finishing during the day while everyone is busy

Thanks for the cheerleading MrsSD :T

Hermia

MadamMim2013 wrote: »

Had a difficult moment with my Ma yesterday.. I actually got very upset and informed her that I’ll no longer be participating with her “shed clean out” as what she said/ did was unnecessary and downright hurtful.
Long story short, she will be receiving a new shed due to works taking place within her garden. Unfortunately my ma has various conditions including anxiety (as do I) she denies point black that there is too much stuff in the shed (some of it dates back to the 70’s and she’s only been at her current place 20 yrs!) some of the wood had woodworm etc and there is a mower (unused in 6 years) that could be re-homed for use.
She knows all this, agrees, then backs out.. well they will be here soon to replace it & she’s not prepared for it..
Was trying to help her plan (along with my sister) what / how shes could store things until able to tip/throw/recycle etc... With me sat there she began to put me down to my sister about how I don’t ever help her, just going to bully her to get rid of all her stuff etc.. I was TRYING to help her make her own decisions as to what to do with things.. So I lost the plot a bit & said that’s it.. I’m done. [My sister had already said that her idea was to get a skip n throw it all!!!]
At the time I also meant I was done caring for her as well.. felt very stabbed in the back by her behaviour.. It was the “I don’t do anything to help”:mad::mad::mad: really??
Well, she msgd me today (as if nowt had happened) saying they had turned up to start remedial works.. Was I going out to help her start to clean out.. Nope.. sorry not today.. I actually feel like I need some distance at the moment..
Sad as I love a good clean/clear out..

Her msg made me feel cross all over again, so emptied my airing cupboard and did a rage clean.. more put by for the animal charity..:T

I’ll go help her tomorrow, today I need me time

I hope you feel better soon. I had a bit of a difficult relationship with my mum and did find I needed to stay back and not get involved with her life too much. If she is a hoarder this is going to make things worse. I once read that it is supposed to be one of the most difficult psychological issues to deal with. IME people do lash out when they are faced with having to deal with their stuff.

bargainhunterss

bit_by_bit wrote: »

I was on the till for three hours and in that time took about 85 bags of donations, most of it giftaided. It makes me happy that so many people are not just throwing stuff out. I just wish they could hang onto their Christmas stuff for September as so much is going in the bin as there is nowhere to store it.:(

Thanks for this - I have two boxes of baubles that I was going to take to the cs, but maybe I’ll put them in the loft with the other xmas stuff and donate them in the Autumn

White_musk

Blimey, how time and life can get away from you (me).

Loads fewer bags and boxes and already loads gone. From spare utensil holders to small kitchen appliances I don't and am unlikely to use and all sorts in between. Some went to my DD, some to the tip, some recycled and some to the CS. I share the love. :rotfl:

All the carpet off cuts are bagged up and once I have my new bedroom furniture those and the old stuff along with a dresser are all out too.

So far so good.

nannywindow

MadamMin sending you a great big hug. My Dad can be "difficult" too. It took me and my DD, 4 years of cajoling to get him to let me get rid of my DM's belongings after she passed away. We had to put on a united front and almost strong arm him in the end, or they would still be there .
At chez nous the DGC went home at 4.30pm ( they arrived yesterday and stayed for a sleepover as their school had a training day ) and I can't think straight, but I did sling some hard playdough in the bin and the pots in the recycling. The DGC have decluttered the fridge, I don't know where they put it all, must have hollow legs :rotfl:. While the toys are still out I will have a go at the boxes tomorrow, tonight I've just collapsed on the sofa. I was hoping DH will carry me to bed later, but he looks worse than me :eek:

Forgot to add that DGD took half a carrier bag of craft stuff home with her too :j

pixielottie

Sorry folks I went a little MIA the joy of tax returns eh
But I'm all submitted and back on mission find floor... haha!

152 - 157 - Lipsticks... old, duplicates, or just meh colours..

This weeks task is to finish going through the rest of the lipsticks
x

chocolatelover93

Have put a few old toys in the boot of the car and a bag of hangers ready to take to charity shop tomorrow

Need to put some more bits on the FB marketplace to sell as well.

C xx