Do i Have to Pay Child Maintenance

oystercatcher

Wow ! I am amazed this is possible.

I have come across a couple who had triplets following a similar arrangement ! Imagine the expense !

Pollycat

dominicx wrote: »

That something to think about thats for sure,
it is not right really that CSA allows this as it is not a planned baby over a relationship ..

It's actually CMS - Child Maintenance Service.
You can't do a new claim for CSA now.
Who is the letter from?
An official organisation or the parents?

If the parents have referred to CSA in a letter, it would lead me to think that maybe they are trying it on and haven't actually done anything about child maintenance.
If it's not an official letter and the parents haven't mentioned CSA specifically, then they may be serious about pursuing you for maintenance.

dominicx wrote: »

there is so many people out there doing the same thing privately .

what happens with money side of things ? now i am afraid to own a house or car just in case i cant pay every week .. i am not rich what i have is enough for me by the time i pay rent, utilities , food, and all the other small things

Then it doesn't sound like you could afford to have full custody of the child.

thorsoak

I would advocate insisting upon DNA testing if this is in fact a serious thread.

peachyprice

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Then it doesn't sound like you could afford to have full custody of the child.[/QUOTE]

Affordability, quite rightly, isn't taken into account when deciding residency of a child.

Pollycat

peachyprice wrote: »

Affordability, quite rightly, isn't taken into account when deciding residency of a child.

It was said tongue-in cheek.
Unfortunately, the roll-eyes smiley isn't available anymore.
Why would someone who has given his sperm to another couple to enable them to have a baby and had nothing to do with the child for over a year want full custody?
Really?

Red-Squirrel_2

dominicx wrote: »

it is not right really that CSA allows this as it is not a planned baby over a relationship ..

Well to be fair, the baby was planned, you just didn't expect to be involved past your donation.

TonyMMM

dominicx wrote: »

there is so many people out there doing the same thing privately .

There are legal processes and protections in place but only where the procedure is covered by the The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 2008 - by coming to a private arrangement, outside the scope of the Act, you are in the same position as any other unmarried father and can be asked to support your child.

dominicx

when i donated i didnt do it with any expectation , i did it with a good heart to enable them to have a family ..
they are split up now and single mother is actually contacted CSA and i received a letter from them saying how much to pay and asking me for proof of income etc .

kingfisherblue

dominicx wrote: »

when i donated i didnt do it with any expectation , i did it with a good heart to enable them to have a family ..
they are split up now and single mother is actually contacted CSA and i received a letter from them saying how much to pay and asking me for proof of income etc .

CSA hasn't existed for a few years. Does it say CSA on the letterhead? Were any government booklets enclosed (there is usually a booklet about what to do if you disagree with the decision). Could the mother have mocked up a CSA letterhead? Have you checked the address on the letter?



There are photo sites where you can upload the letter (all confidential information covered), if you want some of the more knowledgeable posters to have a look and comment. If it says CSA, though, I would be very wary.


Or, bearing in mind that the school holidays have started and the OP is a newbie who has joined specifically to ask this, is it a troll post?

Jemima_FuddleCup

Whether it's real or not, if it's a scenario that could in fact happen then someone reading this might still find it helpful. I certainly didn't know this sort of thing could happen, but like other posters have said, it's not something you really think about! dominicx has been shafted, by the look of things..